FIL vent

He doesn't like that I breastfeed because it takes time with his grandson away from him so he says I should start only part time BF-ing & supplement with formula so that he can feed him  

He says DS's infant carseat is uncomfortable because the shoulder straps don't go though the top slot. ...THEY AREN'T SUPPOSED TO! He's 10 weeks old! The safety manuel says for his shoulder straps to start at or below his shoulders not above them! But since 'its bot his first rodeo' I'm wrong apparently

He put soda on DS's paci a few weeks ago to give him a 'taste' so I threw all of the pacis away

I'm not supposed to have DS in my sash mei tai carrier because even though he holds his head up he's going to smother...

Oh & tonight I discussed cloth diapering MY SON & he said because of the price to buy them that 'We are just going to keep buying him cheap disposables.' Well smurf you man, its my money!

The only reason I tolerate this smurf is because SO really respects his father & is trying to rebuild a good relationship. What the hell should I do? He acts like parenting from 20 years ago is exactly how it should be today

Nicely explain to him that if you want any advise you will ask him

Just nod your head, and continue to do what you're doing.

At the end of the day, LO is yours. Not his. Act like you're taking in his advice, and just don't do it. I know SO's family is going to be weird about wanting to feed LO (I plan on EBF). But, it's my child... and I'm doing it for the sake of their health. My child's heath and well-being > my family's convenience.

Get a breast pump and give him a breast milk bottle.
As for everything else, he's your son not his, maybe ask your husband to kindly stir him away from giving him tastes of pop?
He's wayyyy to young, Also have him explain that the safety rules of carseats have changed and they found thats the safest way, and baby feels no discomfort from it.

I don't understand why everyone is so hung up on feeding the baby. they don't want to do anything else, just the one thing that only the mother can do. Being attached to the pump for however long to get enough of a feed for baby does NOT make it "easier" for the mother. Switching to formula isn't as good for the baby, it's just selfish for people to expect you to give your kid something nutritionally inferior just so they can hold a bottle. They'd get over the novelty in a week or so anyway and then where would you be? With a baby that won't latch because he's used to the bottle, or a baby that won't take breast milk because he wants formula. F that for a joke. I would be absolutely apocolypic in your position.