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I'm a teen mother, my due date is April 8th and I'm blessed to be having a beautiful baby boy. My relantionship with my sons father has been quite well and strong until here recently. He is a senior who just recently dropped out. He has no job, and really no desire to get one right away it seems. My father thinks that he isnt going to be a good dad. He plays too much and he isnt prepared for this baby at all. My dad thinks I'd be better off without him, and everytime my dad says that I'm torn in half. He parties a lot with his friends and isnt always around. Like tonight, he comes home at 3:00 in the morning drunk after drinking with his friends and a couple of girls. I dont like him being a around other girls at all only because I feel like he'll find something else he likes. Lets say since I've gotten pregnant my body isnt as remotely good as it once was. I want to believe he is gonna be a good dad and loving partner, but its hard to keep believing when he hasn't done anything to make me think different. I'm still in school and with him not having a job it makes it hard to raise a baby. I'm just so torn on what to do and I need some support with this. I cannot do it by myself.

Good luck! Stay in school.

Yea he sounds like a deadbeat to me... Maybe your parents are willing to help?

Him dropping out after already completing 11.5 out of 12 years of school is alarming to me. It doesn't sound like he's ready for a baby. At least if you're gonna drop out, get a damn job. The partying also wouldn't fly with me, especially since he's not making any effort to support you and the baby.

If I were you, I'd break it off. Your dad sounds like he'll be there to help you. Your baby doesn't NEED his father in his life... single moms rock it just fine. Don't put your happiness on the line because you're worried about your child growing up with an absent parent. Your boyfriend chose this behavior, remember that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" Him dropping out after already completing 11.5 out of 12 years of school is alarming to me. It doesn't ... [snip!] ... because you're worried about your child growing up with an absent parent. Your boyfriend chose this behavior, remember that."</blockquote>

This completely!

My dad is completely willing to help with my son, he was an extreme amount of help when my sister had her daughter two years ago. My dad says that if my boyfriend isnt wanting to go to school, he can at least get a full time job. A job of any sort would make my dad think different of him but everytime I ask him about a job he argues with me. I do worry that my son is going to have an absent parent and thats completely not what I want for him. My niece has to deal with an absent father because of the relantionship that he and my sister had. But if it must be that way, then it will. Ive wanted to work but most places dont hire a pregnant teenager no matter how desperate she is for one. Me going to work would help with raising the baby but everytime i say something about myself getting a job its a fight between me and my boyfriend. I know this behavior of his cant go on forever and I intend for it not too. Thank you for your opinions on my situation I appreciate it so much  

So he doesn't want to get a job, but he doesn't want you to get one either? Who does he think is going to provide diapers and clothes for his baby? You are going to have to put your foot down at some point. You have to really weigh your options, and look at the reality of the situation. You CAN be a single mom and do a wonderful job. I have seen too many couples who stay together for the sake of a child or children, and not only are the parents miserable, but the kids grow up thinking that constant fighting in relationships is normal. Right now, it sounds like your dad is right and this guy won't get a job. It is wonderful that your dad is willing to help you out, though. Good luck!

My DS is three and for the past year his father has been in prison for stuff that happened before DS was born... it's hard to not have the BD in his life but you can definitely do it!! I was alone from when I was three months pregnant with him and did it all alone... Even before he went to prison he was a weekend warrior (after I took him to court for custody and the visits were court ordered). Just remember that the most important thing now is your son, you want someone in his life that is a role model and someone that he can look up to and respect... It takes more than blood to make a father, I am expecting baby #2 soon with a wonderful man that is more of a father to my DS than his dad ever was. Plus it sounds like this guy has a lot of growing up to do! You deserve a man that does things for you and treats you like his queen... anything less is unacceptable!!