I got my way!

So last night I posted about my delivery and the hospital stay, and how I just wanted it to be DH and I. Well we just calmly talked it through and I finally said the right things to make him understand why I want it this way. He said okay! Now I need a little help... Sure date is still twelve weeks away but I want to tell everyone asap so they have time to get used to the idea (or get over it) When should we tell them and how should a go about it? I've thought about a Facebook group message..would that be a food idea or too shady? Thanks everyone!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason&Chloe'sMama:</b>" So last night I posted about my delivery and the hospital stay, and how I just wanted it to be DH and ... [snip!] ... how should a go about it? I've thought about a Facebook group message..would that be a food idea or too shady? Thanks everyone!"</blockquote>




You want to make a fb group to tell people that you don't want them at your delivery?
Seems like you are asking for drama.

I didn't read your post from yesterday.
But, I honestly wouldn't say anything until after the baby is born.

Don't send a fb message. That's just weird. Have you already told them they could be in the room? I just told my mom and mil that i wanted it to be a special moment for dh and I. They understood and were cool with it.

Quoting Mason&Chloe'sMama:" So last night I posted about my delivery and the hospital stay, and how I just wanted it to be DH and ... [snip!] ... how should a go about it? I've thought about a Facebook group message..would that be a food idea or too shady? Thanks everyone!"

You need to say it to them when you see them. Just say you would like the birth to be a little different than your first. You want time to bond, nurse, and recover. Tell everyone they will not be in the delivery room and you would like at least an hour afterwards to bond and snuggle. I know that must be hard to say to them but it is your day not theirs. Be kind about it and if they get pushy put your foot down. lol Good luck!

Sending a fb group msg telling people you don't want them there seems snobby of you. I wouldn't even go visit you after u had the baby if you sent me that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mason&Chloe'sMama:</b>" So last night I posted about my delivery ... [snip!] ... You want to make a fb group to tell people that you don't want them at your delivery? Seems like you are asking for drama."</blockquote>


If I was asking for drama, I'd just do it
And not ask if it's a good idea or not.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I didn't read your post from yesterday. But, I honestly wouldn't say anything until after the baby is born. "</blockquote>




If be okay with doing that if I didn't know what I do, and that is his family would be so pissed that they didn't know I was in labor, lol :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting dbailey:</b>" Don't send a fb message. That's just weird. Have you already told them they could be in the room? I just ... [snip!] ... room? I just told my mom and mil that i wanted it to be a special moment for dh and I. They understood and were cool with it."</blockquote>


I haven't told anyone anything yet. How did you tell them?

<blockquote><b>Quoting L♥vey 4wks!:</b>" You need to say it to them when you see them. Just say you would like the birth to be a little different ... [snip!] ... be hard to say to them but it is your day not theirs. Be kind about it and if they get pushy put your foot down. lol Good luck!"</blockquote>




Thank you for the great advice! I'll definitely utilize it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting _The Rainmaker_:</b>" Sending a fb group msg telling people you don't want them there seems snobby of you. I wouldn't even go visit you after u had the baby if you sent me that."</blockquote>




If you knew these people, you'd understand that I don't even want them in my life period. The only reason I'm considering the messaging option is because they all live 4 hours away and doing it face to face before she's born in highly unlikely.

i just told them it was going to be only SO and I they were either cool with it or not but they got over it

Quoting Mason&Chloe'sMama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I didn't read your post from yesterday. But, ... [snip!] ... doing that if I didn't know what I do, and that is his family would be so pissed that they didn't know I was in labor, lol :/"

Why would they be pissed? Is it a surprise that labor happens when the pregnancy is over? lol

Just don't tell them. So many people told me, 'call me on your first contraction and I will meet you at the hospital no matter what time it is.' I would just smile.
Everyone got a cute txt picture and her birth time, weight, and length and hour after he was born. Lol.
Just me and DH, just the way I wanted

i wouldn't bother with a fb message or group or whatever. i'd just keep it to myself and if anyone brought it up and asked to be called, i'd just explain that we're not having other people there. simple as that.