re: post your story

Quoting Mama BooBoo(::" "

thanks!   awh i know how you feel, i want my daughter to have her father in her life but i want him to better himself first ya know. we'll see what happens. and yes we def have to go on in life! our babies need us too    your son is absolutly adorable btw!

Quoting Deborah B.:" i was 18 and he had just helped me get out of a really bad situation (i was basically being kept somewhere ... [snip!] ... amazing fiance that loves DS like his own.. even his family all consider DS as one of the grandkids (4 total now including DS)"

im so glad you found someone!(: you deserve it. but he sounds like a big ahole!! ugh, it just eats me up how a guy can help and love the other kid he had with someone but not the first one? i mean not saying he shouldn't love that one, because he should.. but he needs to think about both of them and take responsibility for both!

Quoting Kenley's Mama*:" thanks!   awh i know how you feel, i want my daughter to have her father in her life but i want him ... [snip!] ... we'll see what happens. and yes we def have to go on in life! our babies need us too    your son is absolutly adorable btw!"

thank you!(: yes we do. well right now my baby daddy supposedly says he is married and is having another kid. according to what his mama told me, she actually isn't pregnant, she took an ovulation test and tried saying she was lol!! but she keeps up with him, so if that's what she likes then by all means she can have him! he is really the one suffering anyways, cause as soon as they start aruging, he will probably be running back to me. and it will be too late by then!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Serial Mom ✄:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting A&J. ♥:</b>" Oh my. BD was 22 years old but living ... [snip!] ... in a 22 year old body. Haha. But seriously, sorry he's such a POS. My older daughter's dad is too. Drugs are #1 in his life."</blockquote>


Lmao yes that is what I meant. Sleep deprived sorry.

Quoting Mama BooBoo(::" so i was just thinking, i'd like to hear your story of how you ended up being a single mama. im a single ... [snip!] ... about couples who are still together! it gives me hope that maybe one day ill find a good man for me and my son(: so post away!"

Im soo sorry that he did that his momma sounds like a good woman! I'm not a single mom but I know alot who are and its just soo sad I and my husband want to punch those POS "daddy" in the face! I met my husband when I was 19 he was my math tutor in college. We became friends and when I had a break up with my first boyfriend he was there for me and before I knew it (he always liked me) I started seeing him differently. We started dating almost 2 months after my ex and I broke up and after 7 months of dating we got married. yea i know fast right... well we saw each other everyday from 8am to 10pm. we had class together, worked together, hanged out, had lunch, he helped me with math, and after the classes were over at the college we would go to my parents house and watch tv and hang out some more so we literally were together 24/7 on weekends we would go out so idk we really got to know each other. Well we moved away 6 months after getting married and transferred to a university (we were going to a community college) and after 2 yrs of being married we felt like something was missing and we comically got surrounded in a circle by ten strollers and it was like heaven opened up slapped us in the face and said that's it. So we talked about it seriously and said yes thats what we want we started planning seeing if we could even do this because everyone always says its stupid to have kids while going to a university and we felt like we could we told our family that we wanted to have a baby and everyone freaked LOL we were trying for 3 months and that 3rd month we had been thinking well u know maybe its better if we dont we stopped trying like we were but I still got pregnant ^_^ . Well from the beginning we had talked about kids and how we wanted to have them age difference and we wanted them close together. So when my oldest little girl turned 1 we started trying for number 2. We got pregnant in nov 2011 and had our 2nd daughter this past july she is going to be 7 months old. We both went to school and graduated while I was pregnant I walked in my graduation ceremony 38 weeks pregnant. We just celebrated 5th yr wedding anniversary. Well.... The thing is you DESERVE a good man! 1st advice make your standard HIGH! He doesnt want his son forget him there is plenty of men that will love you and your son. My daddy took 2 kids that werent his and cared for them and even though my mom and him arent together (my mom ended up a bad woman broke his heart no need to go into the heart drenching details) he still is their dad. You will find a good man, and I really wish someone would slap your BD silly and one day HE WILL regret all his actions Karma will bite him in the butt! Your son will see that a real man NEVER walks out on his family! I wish you the best momma! Keep your head held high! Everything will be fine! <3

I got pregnant after only a few weeks of dating my kids father. we ended up breaking up while i was pregnant with my toddler than got back together when he was about 4 weeks old. he was a lazy bos and didnt do anything. i ended up getting pregnant again when my first son was about 9 months old. he still didnt do anything we were almost homeless because of him. I left him when i was about 6 months pregnant and now i have an almost 2 year old and an almost 5 month old. I will never get back together with him. I have so much anger towards him he barely sees his kids and doesnt help me financially with them at all. I love my kids with all my heart and wouldnt trade them for anything but definitly wish i would have found a better guy to be their father.

Quoting Mia and Emmas Mommy:" Im soo sorry that he did that his momma sounds like a good woman! I'm not a single mom but I know alot ... [snip!] ... a real man NEVER walks out on his family! I wish you the best momma! Keep your head held high! Everything will be fine! <3 "

thanks girl(: im keeping my head high, and i really like your story!(: gives me hope that there is maybe a good guy out there for me and my son. i know a lot of people are always like you don't need a man and blah blah blah lol. but idk, i just want a good father figure for my son, someone who can take him hunting and fishing when he gets older! i know my MAIN focus is my son of course, but i would also like to have a guy who can be there for him and the both of us(: and trust me, i wish someone would slap him in the face too loll! but like you said, karma will get him, if it isn't already. all his family is on my side, and well basically he has lost them all over some girl and just because they want something to do with cooper.

Met BD, 3 months later I ended up pregnant. I didn't get to know the real him before getting 'stuck' with him. He wanted me to abort. I said no right away, then he wanted me to do an adoption and said if I didn't, he didn't want to be with me. I had gotten kicked out of my grandmas when I got pregnant and had to move in with BD and his mom. His mom was pushing the abortion/adoption too. So I was scared, I had no where else to live so I went along with the adoption until I was 17 weeks. We even went to an adoption agency, started looking at families. I knew in my heart the whole time, that I COULDN'T give my baby up. When I finally told him at 17 weeks I wasn't giving her up, he flipped out. All hell was raised. He cooled down and accepted it, the rest of my pregnancy was great. Then I had her. A month later, he choked me 2 days in a row. The second time I called police and he was arrested. I took him back    Then I got us a place, we were constantly arguing. Things were just horrible. Police were called constantly, he smashed my phone, wouldn't help me with our daughter a lot, never paid any bills, dropped outta college 4x in the amount of time I have known him, is a mommas boy, barely wanted to work, and was always smoking that k2 smurf. I was fed up, so I got rid of him.

I've been talking to my SO now for almost a year and we've been official for 2 months now though. He's amazing, totally different from BD and loves my DD to death. BD is still in her life though, we have a parenting plan set up through the courts.

Dated for 5 months, constantly breaking up and getting back together. We finally broke up for good and 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant. Told him and insist that I should get an abortion but I refuse it. My mom found out and called him. When she first talk to him she asked 'are you the father of the baby? he said yes and all this bullsmurf where he loves me but his to young to have a baby. He did not want to tell his family and I told him if he will keep it a secret I'm done with him. He send me a text saying I told my brother and he is really angry now (he lives with his brother and his wife). Then he called my mom and make her talk with his brother who was saying they will come over to my house to discus. Well never came. 2 weeks later I decided to cut him off. He would text and ask 'when is your baby due?'and staff. Like no dude not MY baby Our baby. After a month he text me and ask me what I'm doing if I'm keeping the baby or I'm having an abortion. I said it wasn't his problem cause he didn't care for the baby anyway. Well he start saying that it was his kid to so he has all the rights to now and that I should let him know when the baby arrives so he would give me money. Whatever we stooped talking and when I was 5-6 months pregnant he msg me on FB telling me to call him. However I did not have a phone due to losing it so I waited until I got of school and called him from my friend's phone. He then gave me the shock of my life. He asked me 'how do you know that it is my baby' and saying that he wants nothing to do with the baby, I wanted him i take care of him. I will never ever forget that day. I can even remember the date and hour when he said that..I wish I never made that phone call...Well time passed and I had my son. 3 weeks later I told him I wanted to go to court cause I wanted full custody. He agree and asked me if any papers would come to his house. It was then that I've realized that something was wrong. Like why would he even care about that now that his family knew everything. Due to them never try to contact me it made me suspicious and said yes it will by joke. He then begged me to not send any papers to his house!! So i finally ask him why was he scared, did he lied when he said he told his brother? He said he did told them but after he told them I had an abortion. I was crazy mad when I heard that so I put my friend to text his brother. His brother and his wife then told me they never knew about it, he never told them that he was going to have a baby!! And ofcourse when they asked him he start saying it wasn't his. I got pissed of and decided to go for child support. And offcourse he asked for a DNA. The first time he ever saw my son was when we did the DNA test. He start playing with my son and kissing him after he denied him! (he didn't even 'know' if it was his or not at that time). He then start paying for child support and saw my son for the second time when he was 7 months old...for 5 sec!! like he just looked at him and left. Then on 3 months ago I got a text from him saying I shouldn't be mad anymore because his not mad anymore at me ether. Like dude WTF would you be mad at me for??. He asked me to meet him and I did. We talked about our son and he acted like he gave a s**t about him. That bastard knows that I still love him and tries to mess around with my feelings. Last time he saw my son was 3 weeks ago when he had to bring me the child support check. It actually shocked me that he stayed and play with my son and acted like a father.That didn't last for long anyway. Here we are 3 weeks later and not even a text from him asking about my son. And ohh by the way at our second appearance at the court he was telling my lawyer how he was mad about his son not having his last name and that she should talk to me to convince me to let him see our son ONCE a year on his birthday!! I always told him he can see him when ever he wants & I've tried really hard to make him realize that not everything is about him anymore but I've just wasted my time. And it hurts even to this day.....Now the funniest part is that while we were together he always asked me if I were pregnant. When I asked him why he use to say that he never use protection with me....yet 7 month later says is not his...

Quoting Mommy To Baby Rahul:" Dated for 5 months, constantly breaking up and getting back together. We finally broke up for good and ... [snip!] ... were pregnant. When I asked him why he use to say that he never use protection with me....yet 7 month later says is not his..."

girl your situation kind of reminds me of mine! my baby daddy denied my son the whole time throughout my pregnancy, then after he was born i let him see him, he acted like he cared and loved for him, then a few weeks later he denied him again! i have yet to file for child support, but i do have a question... how much does he give you? i kind of want to look into it, i just don't won't to give him visitation rights because he is supposedly married to some nuthead girl that lies and stuff and i don't won't my son exposed to that! if you don't mind me asking, i have been wanting to ask someone who filed for it.

I met him July 2011, at the bar he was 28 at the time, I was 21. Name's Joey.

So we met, partied, one thing led to another, thought it was gonna be a one night stand (used protection)..but we kept talking, hanging out, everything was awesome. We were NEVER officially together, he has 2 kids from two other women, well his daughter which is his second kid, her mother had cheated on him in May of 2011, and they broke up, so he was of course broken hearted, well I was there for him, everytime he cried because she wouldn't let him see his daughter whatever I was the shoulder he had.

Then one day he text me saying that we were moving too fast, and we should slow down, I of course was like alright that's cool, but we still talked, hung out, had sex, EVERYDAY. Until he went out one night and met this girl, he told me about her, I simply told him I didn't want to know. He kept ditching me to hang out with her after we'd make plans, and that's one of my pet peeves, at least give me warning, not just like not call me then call me drunk at 3 in the morning.
So one night we go to dinner we're talking about him and her and my issues with him, and he's not understanding where I'm coming from, well that night he ended up going out with her, and I went out with my friend, the next 2 days we didn't speak at all, Monday, November 14, 2011 I realized I was off my birth control for 2 weeks, and didn't have my period yet, this was very unlike me, so I went to the clinic took a test, and bam "you're 16 weeks pregnant" so I told him, his reply was "Let me know how much you want for child support, and I never wanna speak to you again." He called me that night, crying like a baby. I went from November, til March without hearing a word from him, finally he calls me telling me about how his girlfriend (the girl he was hanging out with) was crazy, she tried to kill him, she was cheating on him blah blah blah, I had no sympathy..But I listened. From that day I didn't hear from him until the morning after I had been discharged from the hospital after having my wonderful babygirl Brooklynn on April 21, 2012. He had only called to tell me he broke up with the girl, but wanted his other babymama back...The heck is wrong with this dude? After that he wished me a happy mother's day, and after that he text me because he was upset that his brother and sister-in-law know about her, and he's afraid his parents will find out. My baby is now 9 months old, and he's never seen her.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama BooBoo(::</b>" girl your situation kind of reminds me of mine! my baby daddy denied my son the whole time throughout ... [snip!] ... and i don't won't my son exposed to that! if you don't mind me asking, i have been wanting to ask someone who filed for it."</blockquote>




He pays $550. $332 child support + $175 his day care and $50 for backpayments

BD and I got back together Feb 2011. We dated in HS. It was great! Well I got pregnant like a month later and miscarried late May. We were heartbroken. June 27th he got his first DUI... I was pissed but he swore that he was going to get better and move forward. He hadn't really kept his promise trying to get better. He got his 2nd DUI on Jan 6th... 2 DUIs within 12 months. I was furious. I debated on breaking up with him but I loved him so much. Well the next week on Friday Jan 13, 2012... We found out from my doctor that I was pregnant. Well I really wanted to stay with him for our son's sake. While I was pregnant we lived with my family so he could pay for his fines and not rent. He kept drinking and going out. Mind you I was stupid enough to take him places but I really didn't want to fight about alcohol (or anything really) being pregnant. Well in mid July he got put on 6 months house arrest. And while he was on house arrest he was still drinking! Big shock I know. Well, he made it for LO's birth. I had to have an emergency c-section so my mom was the one who stayed with me since he wasn't allowed to. Then our son was put into the NICU and he was only allowed to see him once for a couple of hours during that time. Well I was driving him places and making sure that he was getting to his house arrest appointments when I was allowed to drive. Now that he's off house arrest (but still owes like $7,000 in fines) my family offered to let him move back in to help him so he could save to pay his fines. (AGAIN!) He refuses to do so. He wants us to move closer to his work (which I am fine with) but the place he wants us to live in... I wouldn't let my dog live in it. I told him I am not moving so far away from my family that if I need help with babysitting for work or school but he won't compromise with me. He wants to claim our son on his taxes to pay for his fines and our own place. I don't trust his judgement on a place or keeping sober. So after a heated arguement between his family and mine he said he was tired of my smurf and that he was taking me off the car insurance and coming to take the car away from me. I'm not going to lie and say that I don't love him anymore cause I do. But what kills me the most is after everything my family and I have done for him.. he is done with "my smurf"?!?!? He is planning on coming over on friday to see LO. I don't know what is going to go on but i do know that we are going to have to have the visitation talk or come to some sort of family agreement. Ugh... I just feel so lost cause this is not where I pictured myself or my family being.

Okay, so My story actually begins from the time I was 16. I met BD and we had so much in common. We shared EVERYTHING. At 18 (literally 2 weeks after my birthday) we got married. I was already about 5 months pregnant with our first little girl. At the time I was about 8 months along, he had a friend who was going through a divorce and wanted to take him out to make him feel better. I agreed seeing as how he worked all week, I let him go out on Friday nights, and Saturdays were our date nights. I was house sitting for his aunt, and didn't feel like doing anything. He came home at about 3:30 in the morning, telling me he THOUGHT he cheated on me. Well... he did.... Little did i know he had spent the money we had saved for the nursery on his little whore house. I decided to forgive him and try to work through everything, thinking that maybe it was just a drunken mistake. After that, Everything was AMAZING for a while. Then, after such an amazing pregnancy, easy birth, and perfect life, things started to change again. My oldest DD was about 8 months at the time, and he started leaving his phone in the truck to charge it, and little things like that. I always woke up before him so I could get him to work on time, so I decided to snoop though his phone. Found some messages to a girl named Tina. Yet again, I let things go after he explained to me that it wasn't anything (stupid choice i know). Well, after that, he started getting physical with me and would hit me and at one point held me at gun point and told me I was not leaving. (At this point I was honestly scared to leave). Things started to straighten out after this, but he started coming home drunk all of the time. In 2008, his mother had him committed to a rehab center. After he was released, we moved in with my parents for a couple of weeks, he didn't like it, so we moved in with a friend of his. I ended up getting pregnant with DD #2 and he refused to claim her, saying she belonged to his best friend, yet i was on the phone with him all day everyday from the minute he left until he got home. We moved out to east texas together, got an apartment, had DD #2 and things got even worse. He was constantly denying her, had NOTHING to do with her, and tried to take a belt to my at the time 2 year old. I asked him if i could go see my family, he agreed. I went home (3 hours away). During that time, he decided to file for divorce AFTER taking off with my 15 week old newborn and my 2 year old. We ended up officially divorced in October of 2009.

Three years later, we decide to try to work things out. He tells me he has changed (and having 4 kids total I thought he WOULD have). He was going through his second divorce at the time and everything just felt very natural again. He and I were together for several months, I found out I was pregnant with baby #3, he left 2 weeks after and has had nothing to do with the pregnancy until he found out i was having a boy. Now all of a sudden, he asks about our girls (which he never did before. but still followed through with court orders for child support and allowed his mom to use his visitation thinking I wouldn't figure it out), asks how I am, and how "his lil man" is doing. He hasn't been around for 7 months, and now all of a sudden wants to play daddy.

I've left out a lot of the little details, but thats my story! Here I am a single mommy and I love having the blessings in my life that I call children!