This is getting ridiculous.

Desperately seeking advice! I work two days a week whilst my (almost) 2 year old son stays with my mother-in-law. For the past 8 months, I have packed a variety of snacks and meals for my son to eat while he stays with her. This includes mainly fruits & veggies along with a sandwich or meals that I make the day before.

For 8 months I have put up with her continuously sending home the meals that I work hard to prepare without him touching a bite. I beg her to feed him what I pack, but she is apparently rebellious for whatever reason. It wouldn't be as big of a deal if she fed him something during the day besides complete junk food. When I go to pick him up, there is always a bowl of snacks on the table (Goldfish, sugary cereal, cookies, etc.) I'm not one of the completely strict moms that refuses to let their child have any sweets. He definitely has his share of occasional treats, but I don't think a child should be fed Lean Cuisines and various snacks when I send completely healthy alternatives! On a side note, she also dresses him in a different outfit every time he comes home. His clothes aren't dirty, but she changes everything down to his shoes and socks. She has also recently called him "her child" a couple of times. It's really starting to annoy me.

I don't know what to do anymore. My husband understands completely and has given me the go-ahead to quit my job. I can tell when he says it though that he seems disappointed. I don't really need the job, but it helps us out a little. Daycare isn't really an option seeing as we would be paying more than I would be making. I do love my job, but I also love my child. What would you do?

Find another babysitter or quit your job.

Tell her if she doesn't feed him what YOU pack then you won't need her to watch him. My MIL tried giving my 2 MONTH OLD smurfing frozen yogurt!! I said never will she be alone with him lol and MY mom tries to give him water. Idk what moms are thinking I'm a little surprised we survived lol

Seems like that's what it's going to have to come down to. No other babysitting options available.  

can you change your hours so DH is home while you work? rick and i are doing this....


i would get that kid out of there, that would irritate the smurf out of me. quit if it came to it. i mean i guess its harmless enough...aside from the sweets.

maybe talk with her and say what you are thinking, and that it is coming down to you quitting just to keep him home (if that wont cause drama) unless she stops being stubborn

It's really straining our relationship. I used to LOVE his parents, but now I just get out of there as soon as possible!

I would quit my job and not let her seem him.

I'd honestly be a SAHM..

I love my Mum to pieces.. but she goes against everything i ask her to do.

DS is a super heavy wetter, if shes watching him for the day i pack specific diapers (different to hers) and ask her to use them at nap time.. she never does and he'll wet through or wake up before he has had a decent nap because he feels wet/has a full nappy.

She also gave him coca cola and apple juice at 7months old and thought it was the best idea ever & 'so cute' .... i was pissed.. i'd ask her not to and she put the straw in his mouth - i saw it as i walked into the room.

If my husband gave me the okay to quit my job, and we could afford it, I would quit my job! I don't understand why your MIL doesn't just use the food you sent. Seems silly. I used to send breastmilk with my daughter and my MIL would either "spill it" or let it sit out and give my daughter formula. Can you husband talk to your MIL about this?

quite the job and stay home. thats what i'd do.

That would annoy the smurf out of me! I can't imagine. My sister-in-law always comes over (who lives 4 doors down) with her friends and takes my baby (3 months old), even if she's sleeping and goes and shows her off to her friends. She says, 'this is my pumpkin booty.' And I HATE when she calls my baby that because it reminds me of a stripper!! And we live with MIL and she's starting to call her that too. I get so annoyed I want to scream, and my stuff isn't half as bad as your situation. I say take off and be with your son  
Sorry I totally vented on your post.

Quoting Squeaky McGee [13 wks]:" If my husband gave me the okay to quit my job, and we could afford it, I would quit my job! I don't understand ... [snip!] ... and my MIL would either "spill it" or let it sit out and give my daughter formula. Can you husband talk to your MIL about this?"

Oh my goodness, that would make me so mad! He has tried, also. She just sort of laughs it off. I think we're too nice about it. I just don't want to ruin my husband's relationship with his parents. They used to be very close and I don't want to be the reason they don't get along!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ben's Mommy~:</b>" Oh my goodness, that would make me so mad! He has tried, also. She just sort of laughs it off. I think ... [snip!] ... my husband's relationship with his parents. They used to be very close and I don't want to be the reason they don't get along!"</blockquote>


You wouldn't be the reason. Their lack of respect would be the reason. My MIL is the same way. She doesn't respect our choices or beliefs. Good luck. I hope you get it worked out.

Quoting Sweet Baby Blue:" That would annoy the smurf out of me! I can't imagine. My sister-in-law always comes over (who lives 4 ... [snip!] ... and my stuff isn't half as bad as your situation. I say take off and be with your son   Sorry I totally vented on your post."

LMAO! "Pumpkin Booty" hahaha. I'm sorry, I shouldn't laugh, but who comes up with that name for a baby? I hope she at least tells you before she takes the baby!

talk to her again and say if she doesnt listen to you then she wont be watching him.. if she still doesnt listen take off a few days or find a friend to watch him.. prove that if she cant follow your rules then shes not needed (as a sitter) if that doesnt set her strait then find a new sitter on a more perm. bases. or quit.


My step father was being a jerk and not listening to anything i said about DS so i kept DS away from him for a few days and now hes following my rules (no gummys before lunch. dont just take off with him without telling me ect)