Quoting jen black:" Have you had a bad year b4? Mine was 13 stitches and I could barely feel the difference between crowning and tearing."
Quoting bethy81:" even if you did end up having to get stitches you aren't suppose to have sex til after 6 weeks pp so ... [snip!] ... in you while pregnant unless it's the end of pregnancy or during labor and it's your doctor because of the risk of infection."