not sure what to do :(

when I first became pregnant my partner and I agreed that it was better if he wasn't with me when I had the baby we agreed it would be better if he waited outside the room so when my cousin asked if she could come i agreed but now things have changed and my partner wants to be there and I want him to be as well him and my mother but im not sure what to say to my cousin as i think she might be upset were pretty close more like sisters and i dont want to upset her i wish i had thought more about this instead of rushing in and agreeing that she came any advice would be helpful here  (

Holy run on sentence.

Just be honest with her. The sooner the better.

Quoting Due 12th March  :" when I first became pregnant my partner and I agreed that it was better if he wasn't with me when I had ... [snip!] ... her i wish i had thought more about this instead of rushing in and agreeing that she came any advice would be helpful here  ("

Does your hospital have a rule about how many people can be in with you? If not why can't they all be in there? I could have as many people could fit in the room with me but I only had DH.

If you don't mind me asking, why did your SO not want to be there in the first place?

Quoting Javi's Mami*[Bazinga!]:" Does your hospital have a rule about how many people can be in with you? If not why can't they all be in there? I could have as many people could fit in the room with me but I only had DH."

Im only allowed 2 people in  

Quoting Lin'n baby {36 weeks}:" If you don't mind me asking, why did your SO not want to be there in the first place?"

I thought it would be a better idea because he might be of much help as hes not much good with comforting people and hes not good with blood etc we agreed the minute our baby was here that he would come straight in but as the months has went on he has said he would like to be their for the birth it was all a rushed decision on my behalf i should not of agreed on someone else being their so quickly :/

Quoting Due 12th March  :" I thought it would be a better idea because he might be of much help as hes not much good with comforting ... [snip!] ... their for the birth it was all a rushed decision on my behalf i should not of agreed on someone else being their so quickly :/"

Well you have to make a decision. But just an FYI, there's a lot more blood plus birthing the placenta AFTER the baby is born.

Just be honest. If she cares about you, she'll understand why you mom and the father of your child take precedence over her for witnessing the birth of your baby.

Quoting pilot Jess:" Just be honest. If she cares about you, she'll understand why you mom and the father of your child take precedence over her for witnessing the birth of your baby."

Thats true   I just feel so bad about it because she was so excited about it all but it is more important than the babys dad is their when there born x

she can still be in there, they all can(unless your hospital has a 2 person MAX)

she shouldn't be butt hurt if the father of the child wants to be there for the birth and that means she can't be there...he take priority over her when it comes to this situation.

Have them take turns, the cousin can be there during the first part of the labor if she really wants to be there for you, but I am sure she would understand that the father would want to be there for the birth of his baby. Just start off by telling her how great things have been going with him and how he really wants to be a part of the babies life, and that he would like to be there for the birth.

Quoting Mrs.O!:" she can still be in there, they all can(unless your hospital has a 2 person MAX) she shouldn't be butt ... [snip!] ... wants to be there for the birth and that means she can't be there...he take priority over her when it comes to this situation."

Yeah there is a 2 person max unfortunately   yeah i think im just going to have to tell her that things have changed and i want him their to meet our baby as he is the father i was i didn't rush into making a decision tho because she was so excited :/

Quoting Due 12th March  :" Yeah there is a 2 person max unfortunately   yeah i think im just going to have to tell her that things ... [snip!] ... him their to meet our baby as he is the father i was i didn't rush into making a decision tho because she was so excited :/"

I'd break it to her as gently as possible.

Quoting Mrs. Reynolds:" Have them take turns, the cousin can be there during the first part of the labor if she really wants ... [snip!] ... been going with him and how he really wants to be a part of the babies life, and that he would like to be there for the birth."

Well my mum more or less invited herself as well lol but i wanted her their she already said she would come in for the first part and let my partner in for the last part so he could meet our baby straight away yeah im going to have a talk with her this week and see how she takes it I just feel so bad but i cant wont refuse my partner to be their to meet our baby its every bit as special for him as it is for me

Quoting Mrs.O!:" I'd break it to her as gently as possible."

Yeah its the only way I could bring myself to do it