no bond?

I feel terrible, like an awful mother. I don't feel bonded with this baby. I'm not excited about this pregnancy at all. Yesterday, I kept asking SO if he thinks we can even afford another baby. I don't want to share my time and love with another child. I don't know if having morning/all day sickness has anything to do with my feelings right now, but all I can think about is what if these feelings don't change. I'm also worried about after I have this baby, feeling like this now am I doomed to end up with ppd? When this baby comes my son will be 15 months, the day he looks at me jealous of another baby I will just die inside. Has anyone else felt like this?

i was just talking about this. i feel so stressed out about this baby. wasn't planned, i feel guilt towards my 4 year old having to share me....etc etc.

everyone tells me when the baby comes you will feel differently

I've had this same feeling until now. My youngest will also be 15 months when baby is born. I was so sure I was getting an abortion but we decided not to last minute. I've felt like I wouldn't love this baby the same but I have been told that because of my guilt, when baby is here, perhaps I will feel even more attached to this new baby. Goodluck and if you need to talk I am here.

and ps i didn;t feel bonded with my first before she was born but i couldn't be more in LOVE with her . and it started within the first 24 hrs. the baby love that is.

i don't think it is always natural to feel bonded before the baby is born--

I totally felt like that. DD wont even be a year old until 8 days days after I have this one. I think it's normal.

Your son may be a little jealous at times, but will love his sibling tons. If you get him involved in your pregnancy and when the baby comes, it'll lessen that. You're just nervous and it's COMPLETELY normal. Morning sickness can make any woman feel bad, maybe even resentful, but it will be forgotten. If you feel depressed you should talk to you're Dr.

Both my kids were surprises but with my son it was different. I loved him right away. I just feel like I should feel the same way this time but I don't. Maybe once I have my appointment and actually hear the heartbeat it'll change. I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling this way. My SO is upset that I'm not happy to be pregnant.

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommy 2 jax:</b>" Both my kids were surprises but with my son it was different. I loved him right away. I just feel like ... [snip!] ... hear the heartbeat it'll change. I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling this way. My SO is upset that I'm not happy to be pregnant."</blockquote>




I just now started to get a little excited about this one and I'm due in a couple weeks.

This baby is a blood sucker, I have no bond yet. I'm really not even excited. But it will all change, when he/she is born.

Thanks you guys for sharing your experiences. Makes me feel a little less crappy.

With my first pregnancy everything was magical and wow and I bonded with him before I even felt those first kicks. This one was not like that. At all. I feel a little more bonded now than I did but I didn't even feel pregnant until like 28 weeks. I've been afraid that I won't be able to love him because I love DS1 so much there can't be possibly be any room in me to love someone else that much, but I think once he gets here it will be a different story.

I feel like my son made me grow up so much, I changed everything for him. He made me a better person. I need him like he needs me and I just can't imagine somebody coming in between that. He's my entire world.

don't feel bad. I have just barely bonded with my son and he is almost 4 months old..

Quoting Rosalia+Chris=Zane:" Your son may be a little jealous at times, but will love his sibling tons. If you get him involved in ... [snip!] ... make any woman feel bad, maybe even resentful, but it will be forgotten. If you feel depressed you should talk to you're Dr."

this.. I was worried about how my son would bond with the baby, whether or not i'd resent this baby for being a unplanned baby... but once i heard the heartbeat and saw my little beanie wiggling on the screen i fell more in love.. it will take time to wrap your head around it.. but once you see how much your little one loves your new one you won't be worried.. i have several friends who have been through this and their kids loved having a new baby in the house.

Quoting mommy 2 jax:" I feel like my son made me grow up so much, I changed everything for him. He made me a better person. ... [snip!] ... me a better person. I need him like he needs me and I just can't imagine somebody coming in between that. He's my entire world."

that's how i feel about my daughter. honestly i cry some nights over this. but i know it will be good for her to have a sibling