Discipline child with an ASD, help!

My son is 2.5 and is a very sweet boy. But lately his new thing is pushing down his little brother. It doesn't seem to be a mad or annoyed thing, just part of his obsessing, he doesn't like it when his brother is sitting or standing up. He has autism and is nonverbal, so explaining it is wrong just isn't working. We tried time out but that doesn't work either. Any recommendations?

I have talked to his therapist about it but she didn't offer any advice to help, just said "yes that is a tough one"

I don't have a kiddo with ASD, but DD is very sensitive and easily hurt and if they are still bothering her once upset she will push or hit. I explain to her why it's not nice, but sometimes all she sees is that she has been wronged, so I just redirect her. So maybe try that? I know it's probably not helpful, but I thought I'd try. Hope you find something awesome that works for everyone.  

I only have an ADHD child but from wha to know very little can be done at that age....yet have you began doing your 1,2,3 magic?

Honestly this helped me from the start..I still have issues with DD but seeing other mums who don't do 123, they seem to have a harder time than I do. My kids all respond to it. If he can't understand your voice well use your fingers to count out also.

'http://www.ehow.com/how_2106254_use-123-magic-discipline.html

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" Honestly this helped me from the start..I still have issues with DD but seeing other mums who don't do ... [snip!] ... understand your voice well use your fingers to count out also. 'http://www.ehow.com/how_2106254_use-123-magic-discipline.html"</blockquote>



That never worked for me... I always got in more trouble because I couldn't resist being a smart ass... 
Needless to say I dont do this with my kids, my mother still tries to do it, jade thinks it's a game, and Dean counts back, lol
If I need there attention, or there messing around, I call them by there middle names only..

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" Honestly this helped me from the start..I ... [snip!] ... a game, and Dean counts back, lol If I need there attention, or there messing around, I call them by there middle names only.."</blockquote>

It might not have worked on you but it works for thousands of others, and she's asking for advice.

Just curious but do you or your child's have ASD or ADHD?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... but it works for thousands of others, and she's asking for advice. Just curious but do you or your child's have ASD or ADHD?"</blockquote>


Why??

My son has odd and adhd...

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims ... [snip!] ... for advice. Just curious but do you or your child's have ASD or ADHD?"</blockquote> Why?? My son has odd and adhd..."</blockquote>

Pure curiousity, my eldest had ADHD, but she's also diagnosed with ODD and OCD related to eating problems, both are common with ADHD. Always say with ADHD kids there is no pre written rule book, something work some don't lol 1,2,3 works on my daughter I've been doing it since she was tiny but it doesn't stop full blow outs, but I found it a good messure when she's having a minor off day. But ADHD boys and girls are sooo very different.

hi rachael! please let me know if you get any advice/helpful information on this... bailey doesn't have a younger sibling to push down but she too is non-verbal and we're having a realy hard time "disciplining" her because she doesn't understand what we're telling her :/ good luck, and I'll ask her therapist once she starts services again (we moved in the beginning of nov. and are still waiting, such bs   )

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... blow outs, but I found it a good messure when she's having a minor off day. But ADHD boys and girls are sooo very different."</blockquote>



Dean knows what is expected of him, I don't get on him much, me telling him *what to do* triggers the defiance... if I give him like a basic rundown of what he *should* do, he complys no problem.

We did his 504 plan and since that he's improved a lot they give him chance to tutor/help his classmates so that helps him with the low self confidence...

All the lil tweeks we do at home and school and the meds have made a drastic change...

He is very sarcastic, but I am like that and so is his father... I've learned to filter what I say but when I was Deans age, if it sounded funny to me it was worth getting in trouble... I believe that's just him,

If the counting thing does work, that's good... I know in my family it was kinda a joke... but were all jerks...

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims ... [snip!] ... just him, If the counting thing does work, that's good... I know in my family it was kinda a joke... but were all jerks..."</blockquote>

Counting only works for me lol it doesn't work for SO because all the kids know he's a soft touch. DD 8 now, she is manly triggered by being told no and sitututions where she has no control, but she's normally violent to herself so she needs to be restrained but my god those meds are awesome!! They made her 80% different in a few days but we still have issues.

I think our system is totally different here, we don't get a diagnoses until they are 5 here but she has a good close circle of nurses and doctors she trusts.,

I think all ADHD kids come of sarcastic and a little rude but that's because they haven't got the same filters as us, but I can tell when she means it or when she is just chattering away. Absolutely hate people who give dirty looks in shops because of how she can talk or act, one lady once told me to smack her because she called me a numpty (kinda of a jokey scottish word for idiot) but poor DD was just joking around with me because I was being silly. I was so proud when DD announced "I take pills because I can't control my rudeness, what's your excuse.

Dean knows when he's being an ass... I correct him when her says things like *stupid* or *dumb* ect... deans dr. Told us that his behaviours can be helped... I don't let his diagnoses be an excuse... when he's in a mood I make sure he's left alone, and at school he has a *calm down* space because when he's in that state he dosnt care what he says, if he's just messing around I just have to look at him... he knows to check himself

Without him being on meds he would not be able to come that far... now he finally feels *remorse and sadness* he never was like that before