re: Deciding to keep baby after so sure on abortion.

Quoting * MRS KING *:" I think that its ok to consider all your options, and you shouldnt feel bad for it, but i wouldnt tell ... [snip!] ... no reason for it unless they ask. Its a small secret to keep, that wouldnt hurt you to keep, but might hurt them to know. "

 
I just intend on telling my children that I seriously considered abortion, why, and obviously the fact that I didn't.

My struggle with it will only come up if that daughter has a similar issue.

Quoting Mrs. Fitzwilliam Darcy:"   I just intend on telling my children that I seriously considered abortion, why, and obviously the fact that I didn't. My struggle with it will only come up if that daughter has a similar issue."

Ummm ok, i wasnt saying anything about your decisions, or whatever. I was just giving op my opinion like she asked? Nothing i said was targeted at you.

Quoting * MRS KING *:" Ummm ok, i wasnt saying anything about your decisions, or whatever. I was just giving op my opinion like she asked? Nothing i said was targeted at you. "

I don't think any mother worth their salt would tell their children they regretted not having an abortion.

You posted it, I responded. That's how these things work.

Quoting * MRS KING *:" I think that its ok to consider all your options, and you shouldnt feel bad for it, but i wouldnt tell ... [snip!] ... no reason for it unless they ask. Its a small secret to keep, that wouldnt hurt you to keep, but might hurt them to know. "

This! Very well put.

I'm not gonna lie, this one WAS planned and I thought about it after a while. It was never a real option for me, but I started having immense feelings of guilt that I was taking time and love away from my son. It went away... sort of. I NEVER plan on telling her any of that though.

Quoting Colton's Mommy ♥:" I think for a lot of women who have an unplanned pregnancy, that option runs through their mind at least ... [snip!] ... for your child even stronger because you will be so thankful you didn't go through with it. If that makes any sense...?"

^^this is deffinently the truth. with my first pregnancy i was young and people put the idea in my head that i should just have an abortion, to this day all those people are thankful i didnt because our lives would be so different without my daughter, and even though i considered it a few times, i know i made the right decision and instantly bonded and fell in love with her. im sure you will do the same !

Quoting Ashleigh Renee K:" To start, I am a mommy to three wonderful kids! I never thought I'd consider an abortion. When I found ... [snip!] ... child when they are older? Or does all that guilt vanish when baby is here? Sorry if this isn't the right board to post in!"

Honestly i wouldn't even mention that the child was unplanned or that you considered abortion.. that could cause a slew of problems with the child's self esteem that he/she wasn't wanted... this pregnancy wasn't at all planned either and honestly i didn't want this baby until i heard his/her heartbeat... but i will never tell my child that he/she wasn't planned/wanted... i think it;s one of those things that are either left unsaid or nicely put..if i were to even mention it i'd say something to the effect of "no *insert name here* you were not planned.. but sometimes the best things in life are unexpected" ..

you'll have to excuse me if i misread the last part about wondering what to tell the child.. ^^ was my response for if i didn't read it wrong.

either way, i wouldn't at all feel guilt though about originally wanting a abortion you didn't choose one and that's what matters..

Quoting Ashleigh Renee K:" To start, I am a mommy to three wonderful kids! I never thought I'd consider an abortion. When I found ... [snip!] ... child when they are older? Or does all that guilt vanish when baby is here? Sorry if this isn't the right board to post in!"

I am 34 weeks along, I found out at 5 weeks, I was so joyed because my LO was planned. Then things got tough later down the road, and there were times I started considering aborting him/her at the time it felt right, because I was stressed and overwhelmed, and things in my life were going down hill. Things were just terrible for me. I sat thinking before I had my gender scan when SO and I had this huge fight I said to myself why don't I just call my doctor and cancel my appointment and then I can just see if there is some place I can have the abortion done. I was so upset and afraid even though in the beginning my son was everything. I still feel bad about ever considering/thinking about doing it. But I am more then thankful I didn't do it, because as soon as I did go for my gender scan I saw him up there on the screen, and I saw his face, and nose, and mouth, his little toes, and his arms, and legs. That right there changed my mind completely. He is everything to me, and in a less then 6 weeks, I will have my bundle of joy. So yes it happens, but I know that I can do it, and you can to!! You will be able to love him/her just as much as you love your other 3 kids!

Quoting Little momma09:" Honestly i wouldn't even mention that the child was unplanned or that you considered abortion.. that ... [snip!] ... for if i didn't read it wrong. either way, i wouldn't at all feel guilt though about originally wanting a abortion.. "

yeah 2 of my 4 were unplanned. and I am thankful for it now.

I was going to get an abortion because i was not prepared and didnt have much support or help. I was single and it was an accident. I resented the pregnancy for a little while. I never told anyone because i thought of how awful of a person i must be to not immediately fall in love with my child once i knew. Luckily a friend i worked with shared her story, she didnt bond with her daughter till after she was born but she is one of the best mothers i know. Her daughter is 6 now   She recommended i wait it out and if i changed my mind there would always be adoption. I decided to wait it out and see how i felt. Now im 20 weeks pregnant and very excited about my little guy. I cant imagine how I could give him up now. It will be hard because his dad doesnt want to help. But Im sure he'll be well worth it in the end

If anything, you will love your baby more because you thought about it then regretted it. My oldest was 4 months old when we found out we were pregnant with our second (unexpected) I regretted it until my first ultrasound at 10 weeks. Once I heard/saw the baby, all of my bad thoughts went away. When she was born, she was super mommy's girl and very dependent on me. I loved it too! I was 18 when 1 was born, 19 when 2 was born and 23 when 3 was born. Only 3 was planned. IF there is ever a fourth, he/she will be here before we turn 30 because I don't think I could go through having a newborn again after so long. My oldest two were 4 and 5 when our youngest was born, it felt like I was starting all over again and it was/still is exhausting. But I love them close in age. Good luck hun!