Falling for someone who will die

Imagine you start to fall in love for someone with a terminal illness and it's for certain that they have weeks to live. Would you try to get your distance or still go in for it?

I'm watching the movie "Now is Good" and I've been thinkin' of that situation.

You can't help who you love.

Quoting Red Bottom:" You can't help who you love."

I said "start" to fall in love..

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ inês:</b>" I said "start" to fall in love.."</blockquote>




Oh, we'll then.

My reply remains.

It depends. If I had kids at the time, then no. I wouldn't want them to experience that. But if I was single I and no dependents, then I probably would.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ inês:</b>" I said "start" to fall in love.."</blockquote>




But what does that even mean, really? Usually for me, once I "start" to fall in love, there's already some love there.

Quoting ♥ inês:" I said "start" to fall in love.."

Love is love, no matter at what stage.

I think, personally, that if that scenario happened to me, and especially if that person had feelings for me as well, why NOT keep loving (or fall in love) with them? They have mere weeks to live, I would never deny someone such wonderful feelings like love to someone who doesn't have much time left. I can deal with heartache, someone who is dying deserves to know they are and be loved up until the second they pass, and after.

Quoting pilot Jess:" It depends. If I had kids at the time, then no. I wouldn't want them to experience that. But if I was single I and no dependents, then I probably would."

Agree.

Quoting Mayhem.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ inês:</b>" I said "start" to fall in love.."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... But what does that even mean, really? Usually for me, once I "start" to fall in love, there's already some love there."

I'm just saying there are two options, because if you can forget someone in terms of failed relationships, you can always forget someone you're falling in love with.. But it's hard, and I would probably still love the person, of course.. But that's me..

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ inês:</b>" I'm just saying there are two options, because if you can forget someone in terms of failed relationships, ... [snip!] ... someone you're falling in love with.. But it's hard, and I would probably still love the person, of course.. But that's me.."</blockquote>


I'm just kind of confused. By you.
BUT personally, I would stick around. I just think back to when my husband and I were first dating. And I know that if it were him, even a couple months into the relationship, I'd stick around. Even before we were "fully" in love.

<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" It depends. If I had kids at the time, then no. I wouldn't want them to experience that. But if I was single I and no dependents, then I probably would."</blockquote>

You will have the choice to have them meet him and since OP gave weeks example, you wouldn't have to put your kids through anything, right?

Idk, OP .. I think that if I was falling in love with someone who I knew for sure was going to die, I'd still go for it. Hope it gets better and by some miracle it goes away and we can live happily ever after but try to make it the best time possible for both him and I meanwhile.

I don't think I could get too romantically involved, but I would definitely try to be there for the person during their last weeks to live.

My Uncle Bob found a girlfriend while getting cancer treatments, she was also a cancer patient. His cancer went away hers spread. He stuck by her side up until she died. He was very happy during those months she was alive, even at the very end. He told my mom, his sister, he doesn't regret it.

I am a very emotional person so if I love someone, even if "just starting," I will probably stay.

Quoting pilot Jess:" It depends. If I had kids at the time, then no. I wouldn't want them to experience that. But if I was single I and no dependents, then I probably would."

This!

I will probably sound cold-hearted,. but no.

I am a widow, and have already been through the pain of losing someone I love to death. I am still haunted by it, devastated that my marriage ended (what would have been our 9th wedding anniversary is coming up) and my children have abandonment issues.
As much as the dying person deserves love, I feel I deserve to not live out my life in a tortured state.

And yes, I DO realize that anyone I date or fall in love with, something could happen, breakup, death, whatnot, but I would not deliberately seek out a situation where that was imminent.