I can only hope...

I can only honestly hope my relationship will work this time...4 weeks pregnant and now everything is different and I can just tell he isn't sure now...first off we weren't trying, but we weren't take precautions so I guess yeah it's both our fault...now I see text messages and his replys of "oh well guess it will have to work now" a lot of them. Along with him saying "well, i guess i love you" after finding out we were pregnant.... Along with him more distanced, I wake up to him on the couch some nights, I went to sleep on the couch after he fell asleep to clear my head only to be woken up to go into the bed, and him asleep on the couch shortly after. I thought we were good, I was happy...I though he was too... Not sure anymore. advice???

"Well, I guess I love you"  

I would of said "Well, I guess you can kiss my ass!"

that's just not right. :/

He may be a bit over whelmed and just nervous/scared. Seeing as your pregnant and you weren't really trying. Just give it some time may things will change.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" "Well, I guess I love you"   I would of said "Well, I guess you can kiss my ass!" that's just not right. :/"</blockquote>
I know...I was taken aback by it and stared at him confused hey I get we have been together for like 3 months but I'm growing his child

<blockquote><b>Quoting Justine's Mama:</b>" He may be a bit over whelmed and just nervous/scared. Seeing as your pregnant and you weren't really trying. Just give it some time may things will change. "</blockquote>



I'm hoping that's it, I'm trying to stay somewhat positive

<blockquote><b>Quoting JenniferxMarie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" "Well, I guess I love you"   ... [snip!] ... was taken aback by it and stared at him confused hey I get we have been together for like 3 months but I'm growing his child"</blockquote>




3 months and you're already pregnant? Yeah, that may be the problem. How do you know you love someone if you've only been together for three months and now you share a life time commitment with this person. I'm sorry but that can be overwhelming.

Quoting JenniferxMarie:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Justine's Mama:</b>" He may be a bit over whelmed and just nervous/scared. ... [snip!] ... give it some time may things will change. "</blockquote> I'm hoping that's it, I'm trying to stay somewhat positive"

Yeah its hard when you get pregnant quick. Me and SO became pregnant after dating for only 2 months. I was freaking out all the time that he would leave and I would be stuck. But he was fine with it and calm. Some men get over whelmed and nervous, they don't know if there ready or if its what they want and yada yada. Just give it some time for him to get adjusted to realizing he has a child coming.

He's probably overwhelmed and scared. 3 months into a relationship isn't exactly the ideal time to get pregnant.

And he doesn't have to love you just because you're "growing his child."
Give him some time and the space he's obviously wanting. Hopefully he will come around.


Good luck.

<blockquote><b>Quoting GlamChic:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting JenniferxMarie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ... [snip!] ... together for three months and now you share a life time commitment with this person. I'm sorry but that can be overwhelming."</blockquote>



Did you really just ask her how she can love him after 3 months?

OP I got pregnant pretty quick with my son. It didn't work out between the two of us but we are really good friends now and parent together really well. Just give him some space, its a lot to take in.

Quoting GlamChic:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JenniferxMarie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ... [snip!] ... together for three months and now you share a life time commitment with this person. I'm sorry but that can be overwhelming."

     

I'm sorry you are going thru this Hun :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting Hairspray:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting GlamChic:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting JenniferxMarie:</b>" ... [snip!] ... two of us but we are really good friends now and parent together really well. Just give him some space, its a lot to take in."</blockquote>




I was referring to him when he said I guess I love you. When he said I guess that means he's not sure. It's only been 3 months so I don't really blame him for not knowing.

It sounds like he isn't for sure on the while situation and he's doing what he thinks is best for the baby and is trying to keep you happy at the same time. My brother and sil got pregnant the first month they were together and my brother never acted that way towards her, they've been together 2 years now and are planning a wedding for this September. My husband and i got married the week after he moved out here and a couple weeks later found out i was pregnant, now almost 3 years later and 2 kids we are still going strong.so i know if you both want the relationship to work then it will, your best bet is to let him have his space so he can figure out what he wants to do so it doesn't get worse and you guys end up breaking up anyways. Good luck though!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Manda❤Alayna:</b>" He's probably overwhelmed and scared. 3 months into a relationship isn't exactly the ideal time to get ... [snip!] ... "growing his child." Give him some time and the space he's obviously wanting. Hopefully he will come around. Good luck."</blockquote>



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You know I feel that everything will end up how it's supposed to. 3 months is a very short time to be together before having a baby, tony and I were together that long before getting pregnant with peapod. You need to come hang out and have girl time. I have sandwich stuff and hair dye, pick up life time movies.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Liberty Belle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Manda❤Alayna:</b>" He's probably overwhelmed and scared. ... [snip!] ... with peapod. You need to come hang out and have girl time. I have sandwich stuff and hair dye, pick up life time movies."</blockquote>


Ahhh sounds good   you make everything better