An emotional wreck!! GAHH!

lemme get to the point, I've recently cut my sons dad outta his life for good due to all the drama he has caused for me and my son. this man was mental(ex: stabbing himself in the neck with an object with my son looking straight at him) yeah, so I cut him out for a legitimate reason. my son doesn't even ask for his dad and it's been a month. anyway, I find myself crying over it. not cause I miss the dad but because I feel bad that my son doesn't have a dad around anymore. I grew up without a dad and it hurts me to see him grow up without one too. is this a normal feeling? I look at my son and cry sometimes. also, how do you deal with introducing a new man in your life to your child(ren)? especially, when the child(ren) are showing signs of jealousy?

It's normal. But you just have to remember that it's better this way.

What kind of jealousy signs do you mean?

Aw I feel like this for my daughter. & I also grew up withoug a father. Its sad cause we want to give our children everything we didnt jave and when we cant it feels like we have somewhat failed him. But it'll be okayn & the only experience I have with your question is when my mom met her boyfriend i was 13 and I FLIPPED smurf. I hated him. O thought he stole ny mom. I think where she messed up is she went from iy being me and her to it always being her& him or she would try to get me to dp stuff with them. It made me SO mad cause everything. Changed but eventually I got used to it. So I would say do it VERY slowly

<blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" It's normal. But you just have to remember that it's better this way. What kind of jealousy signs do you mean?"</blockquote>




well I am seeing a guy and he's amazing with my son but my son says things like "mommy you don't like me anymore, you only like your friend"(referring to him) I haven't acted any different towards my son and it makes me feel bad like I'm being a bad mom for dating.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KelseyLynn:</b>" Aw I feel like this for my daughter. & I also grew up withoug a father. Its sad cause we want to give ... [snip!] ... stuff with them. It made me SO mad cause everything. Changed but eventually I got used to it. So I would say do it VERY slowly"</blockquote>




makes sense. well my son is only 4 so I hope he would be ok eventually.....

the only guy I've dated that I introduced was just as friend status.

<blockquote><b>Quoting chataPHUKup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting KelseyLynn:</b>" Aw I feel like this for my daughter. & I also ... [snip!] ... would say do it VERY slowly"</blockquote> makes sense. well my son is only 4 so I hope he would be ok eventually....."</blockquote>




Oh yeah he should be. I hope you start feeling better :/

Its normal to feel that way but you have to remember that its better for your son to have no father figure then a bad father figure. And if your so worried that your son is missing out on having a male role model in his life there is always programs like big brother big sister that will help in that area.

<blockquote><b>Quoting chataPHUKup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" It's normal. But you just have ... [snip!] ... to him) I haven't acted any different towards my son and it makes me feel bad like I'm being a bad mom for dating."</blockquote>

How old is he, how long have you been dating the guy, and when'd you introduce them?

ts very normal to feel that way i grew up without a dad as well and my kids barely see theirs anymore. ive never introduced a guy to my kids yet i havent even dated. i have no idea how i would introduce them i guess ill figure that out when i cross that bridge