re: Zoooooooot!

Quoting I love Kenzi:" he is only 7 months. expecting him to be on a full sleep schedule is non realistic imo"

He used to sleep 8+ hours at a time...I know that's awesome for a baby, and I don't expect to get that back....but for just over the last month, he's been up every 1.5 to 2 hours every single night. As soon as I would pick him up, he would be asleep again...That's why SO wants to try cio.

Quoting I love Kenzi:" he is only 7 months. expecting him to be on a full sleep schedule is non realistic imo"

Jesus, 7 months and you are trying to CIO and schedule him?

Wow, at 7 months I was still nursing on demand and up all through the night. That is WAY too young to expect a child to sleep through the night if they arent ready, and even younger to CIO.

Your baby is 7 months old. This is far from a last resort. My kids went to bed alone at around 2...and I worked & Dh would have been laid out cold if he blocked me from rocking them to sleep. My kids go to bed easier today than any kids I know. They learned how on their own timeline, not mine & without tears. CIO isn't a "necessary evil" it is a misguided attempt to teach something you can't "teach" anyway at that age. If you are upset or just need a hug, do you go lay in the dark alone or do you seek companionship, like maybe from Dh? Same idea. Forcing a child to go without cuddles & then having that child stop crying (AKA give up on getting cuddles) isn't teaching a skill. The child just develops learned helplessness - which means they have figured out that nothing they do will work, so they stop trying, not because they have no need, but because no one is going to come even if they do. So if anything is "taught" thorough CIO, that would be what they get from the lesson.

If it feels wrong to leave your baby to cry & you have to have Dh be the one to stop you, why not trust your heart? I don't get why you'd ignore the most natural of urges & instincts.

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" I agree. I'm sorry but I just see CIO as lazy, neglectful parenting. Some babies don't sleep all night until they are 2 or 3."

Its not lazy or neglectful its a parenting style. Just like attachment parenting is. When used properly and done with the right child at the right age it can be very beneficial. Its not to get the child to sleep through the night but to teach them to self soothe and be able to fall asleep on their own. In hopes that if they wake in the middle of the night for something other than hunger they might be able to soothe themselves back to sleep. Yes when done incorrectly or to young it can be harmful.

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" I agree. I'm sorry but I just see CIO as lazy, neglectful parenting. Some babies don't sleep all night until they are 2 or 3."

sometimes i have put my daughter in her pack n play for 10 or 15 minutes to let her work things out then i get her and go to sleep with her. sometimes no matter how much i hold or nurse her she still wants to head butt me or the wall lol. so i can see where in some instances its needed sometimes.

<blockquote><b>Quoting norah's.momma✿:</b>" I agree. I'm sorry but I just see CIO as lazy, neglectful parenting. Some babies don't sleep all night until they are 2 or 3."</blockquote>




My daughter is one of those kids. She didn't sleep through the night until she was 13 months... She is almost 4 and will still wake up at times.

OP are you going Into the room to reassure or just letting him cry?

Quoting FroggysMommy:" Jesus, 7 months and you are trying to CIO and schedule him? Wow, at 7 months I was still nursing on ... [snip!] ... the night. That is WAY too young to expect a child to sleep through the night if they arent ready, and even younger to CIO."

At 7 months old Audrianna was still up here and there through out the night and with Cylus he was up every 2 hours to eat at 7 months old.

No way would I let my SO talk me into that smurf. Poor baby   I'm not saying you're a bad parent at all. Just... babies don't realize what you're doing. All they want is to be comforted

Quoting Ms.Eagles:" He used to sleep 8+ hours at a time...I know that's awesome for a baby, and I don't expect to get that ... [snip!] ... 1.5 to 2 hours every single night. As soon as I would pick him up, he would be asleep again...That's why SO wants to try cio."

he may be going through a growth spurt teething or starting to get sick. he may go back to his sleep schedule after its done he may not. but he needs you

Quoting Jennybananna:" How long is he crying for? Is it hard crying or just like fussing?"

He cries for about 5 minutes, then SO goes in to rub his back and reassure him that he's there, then goes back after 10 minutes, then 12 minutes. I wasn't here for most of the first night, but when I came home he was crying kinda hard, but not any harder than he normally would if he were strapped in his carseat or something...last night and tonight, he's more fussing than crying.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" Jesus, 7 months and you are trying to CIO and schedule him? Wow, at 7 months I was still nursing on ... [snip!] ... the night. That is WAY too young to expect a child to sleep through the night if they arent ready, and even younger to CIO."

yes she got my boobies all night until a few months ago when she really started eating solids. she is 13 months now

Quoting Ms.Eagles:" He used to sleep 8+ hours at a time...I know that's awesome for a baby, and I don't expect to get that ... [snip!] ... 1.5 to 2 hours every single night. As soon as I would pick him up, he would be asleep again...That's why SO wants to try cio."

You can comfort him without necessarily picking him up if he goes back to sleep so easily when he wakes. He may just need a little reassurance. He is prime age for separation anxiety to start - so where he may have just gone back to sleep before, he likely needs a little more reassurance that he is not alone...which would be quite the opposite of CIO.

Quoting justanothamotha:" Your baby is 7 months old. This is far from a last resort. My kids went to bed alone at around 2...and ... [snip!] ... Dh be the one to stop you, why not trust your heart? I don't get why you'd ignore the most natural of urges & instincts."

 

exactly...

<blockquote><b>Quoting I love Kenzi:</b>" he may be going through a growth spurt teething or starting to get sick. he may go back to his sleep schedule after its done he may not. but he needs you"</blockquote>




Yes. Teething was a huge factor in her sleep for a very long time. I don't miss that stage.

Quoting Ms.Eagles:" He cries for about 5 minutes, then SO goes in to rub his back and reassure him that he's there, then ... [snip!] ... than he normally would if he were strapped in his carseat or something...last night and tonight, he's more fussing than crying."

If the time is getting shorter each night and his crying is getting less and less and he is left for no longer than 10 minutes (thats my limit under the age of 1) then CIO is working in the way its meant to. If you arent comfortable with it then you shouldnt be doing it at all. You and your SO should come to an agreement on parenting choices that you are both comfortable with.