Before, during & after delivery

I DON'T want anyone there but my husband! He insists that his family get to be there. Everyone was there with our son but in the deepest parts of my heart I want our hospital stay to be intimate, just between him and I. With our son, everyone was busy holding him right after he was born when I wanted nothing but to cuddle with him. I don't want to be robbed like that again. We don't know if we'll be having another baby after this one so I might not ever get this chance again. I know I sound whiny buy Jesus I'm the one pushing the baby out of my vagina and I want to be as comfortable as possible! I proposed that everyone get to come see her after we get home from the hospital but that's just not ok. Any advice?

Just don't tell anyone when you go into labor. That's what I'm planning on doing (unless I have to be induced). The only person we're telling is whoever is watching our daughter.

It's YOUR labor and delivery. He has no smurfing say who gets to be there

Quoting Squeaky McGee [13 wks]:" Just don't tell anyone when you go into labor. That's what I'm planning on doing (unless I have to be induced). The only person we're telling is whoever is watching our daughter."

SO will tell them though :/ so aggravating

Quoting Mason&Chloe'sMama:" SO will tell them though :/ so aggravating"

Yeah, my DH called his parents almost immediately after my water broke and they were there the WHOLE time... just staring at me. I wanted to tell them to leave! I don't want to be a spectacle this time, and I don't think it's too much to ask if you want JUST your hubby there!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [13 wks]:</b>" Just don't tell anyone when you go into labor. That's what I'm planning on doing (unless I have to be induced). The only person we're telling is whoever is watching our daughter."</blockquote>




 

Also, tell your nurses when you check in that you don't want any visitors or any information given out unless YOU (NOT your DH) authorize it

Quoting Rydicule91:" It's YOUR labor and delivery. He has no smurfing say who gets to be there"

I wish it could be that way, but unfortunately he'd probably jist act miserable and make it unenjoyable.

Quoting clay matthews:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [13 wks]:</b>" Just don't tell anyone when you ... [snip!] ... nurses when you check in that you don't want any visitors or any information given out unless YOU (NOT your DH) authorize it"

This.

Quoting Squeaky McGee [13 wks]:" Yeah, my DH called his parents almost immediately after my water broke and they were there the WHOLE ... [snip!] ... to leave! I don't want to be a spectacle this time, and I don't think it's too much to ask if you want JUST your hubby there!"

I really don't think so either. Not only that, but his parents are so disrespectful and embarrassing. Last time, the nurses were even rolling their eyes in disgust at the words and noises that come out of those people.

Quoting clay matthews:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [13 wks]:</b>" Just don't tell anyone when you ... [snip!] ... nurses when you check in that you don't want any visitors or any information given out unless YOU (NOT your DH) authorize it"

I've thought about this and i probably will because i know I'd end up being bitchy and smarting off if those losers ended up in my room.

I kind of feel the same. An I felt robbed and annoyed by my last birth experience. I wasn't able to do skin to skin bonding because SO's family couldn't get a hint. My mom and dad left rite away to give us bonding time, thinking SO's fam would do the same. Than by the time I was able to get her back I was so tired and feeling like crap that I just wanted to sleep.

I don't want anyone there this time around but that not going to happen.  
If you can make it happen, tell SO you don't want anyone there and its not his decision.
I don't think hubbies always realize how vulnerable of a time it can be. I would tell SO no but I already told his sisters they could be there and I don't want to tell them no now but I will be giving strict instructions to fam and the nurse that once baby is born EVERYONE but SO must leave.

Quoting Mason&Chloe'sMama:" SO will tell them though :/ so aggravating"

You can tell the nurse you don't want any visitors coming back to the room regardless of what your SO says. If your SO wants to keep them updated he can run out the waiting room and let them know how everything is.

Quoting They call me mama.:" I kind of feel the same. An I felt robbed and annoyed by my last birth experience. I wasn't able to do ... [snip!] ... them no now but I will be giving strict instructions to fam and the nurse that once baby is born EVERYONE but SO must leave."

This is how I felt! You'd think they'd understand how badly we want our own time with the baby at first. My mom was the only person there from my family and she left our of respect and embarrassment.. I just don't want that experience again.

Quoting Mason&Chloe'sMama:" This is how I felt! You'd think they'd understand how badly we want our own time with the baby at first. ... [snip!] ... the only person there from my family and she left our of respect and embarrassment.. I just don't want that experience again."

I cant blame you... I hope you get the labor and delivery your hoping for this time around. You only ever get this moment once with your baby...nothing should hinder that experience.

Quoting They call me mama.:" I cant blame you... I hope you get the labor and delivery your hoping for this time around. You only ever get this moment once with your baby...nothing should hinder that experience."

I hope get what you're wishing for too. Thanks so much for your advice and support!