re: Before, during & after delivery

Your Hubby can ask you if it would be OK for them to be there...but if you say NO...it's no.

You are the one giving birth, not him. He needs to respect your wishes with this.

My Hospital made me make a list of the people that could be there...and if they weren't on "the list" they couldn't get in. And I was the only one allowed to sign it, not DH. You might want to check and see if your hospital has something like this.

I know around here, they make the hubbys leave the room for a few minutes while they prep u & stuff. I would pull the head nurse aside & describe the situation with her. I would also ask her advise. And maybe you & the nurse can come up with something good. Maybe if anyone gets snotty or rude, she asks them to step out. Or something of that nature. Nurses have to deal with crazy family members at deliverys all the time. Im sure they can help you & work it out.

Id put my foot down, and if SO got butthurt id tell him to smurf off too!

See i had the opposite. Only SO and my mum were there when DD was born. My mum left shortly after to go and get my brother, but she was gone for a good time, almost 2 hours, so SO and I got that bonding time.
Im worried next baby we have everyone is gonna wanna come up and visit and hold the baby so we're just not going to tell anyone!

I'm only telling my best friend when I'm in labor. My family wont know until after my daughters born. I don't want my mom or my sister there. I want my oldest sister but that's about it. And even then I'm not sure. So it'll just be SO and I. And possibly one other person but I can't stand the idea of my family being there. There's nothing whiny about that. I don't want anyone holding my LO except me my SO, and her God mother. Plus my family sucks but still   Just don't tell anyone you're going into labor. That's my plan.

Quoting !!Katie!!:" Your Hubby can ask you if it would be OK for them to be there...but if you say NO...it's no. You are ... [snip!] ... And I was the only one allowed to sign it, not DH. You might want to check and see if your hospital has something like this. "

That's a bright idea. I'll ask my doc about it on next appointment. Thanks!