Quoting FroggysMommy:" Petition the courts, you don't need his approval if you go through the courts. I did that with my ex. ... [snip!] ... ex's permission. I don't even know where he is. The first judge was a smurf but the second was amazing and helped me soooo much."
If it goes through the courts though, he would have to know about it, or be there wouldnt he?
I dont know a whole heap about it, only that i need his permission. As i said above, i dont know any of his whereabouts, so its kind of hard to get his approval (which he wouldnt give me anyways)
Id really like to do it without him knowing at all. He was really abusive towards me and our daughter, police ordered an AVO and we had to go through court. We havnt seen or heard a single thing from him in 6 years, and id kinda like to keep it that way.
Me and SO are planning on getting married soon, and with our sons both having his surname, our daughter wants it too. She calls him dad and he treats her no differently then the boys. The only other way iv heard of doing it, is if we get married and SO legally adopts her as his own. But once again, i dont know if i would need to have any kind of permission or what ever from my ex.