Idk anymore.

Okay I had my baby girl on the 11th, and i'm completely in love with her. However, I feel as though ever since i've had her, my relationship has changed. Her father and I used to be so crazy about each other, we hardly fought, we always laughed and joked and etc. We were so happy. Now I feel like he's forcing himself to be happy with me. He told me the other day that he's nice sometimes even though he doesnt want to be. He's always pointing out things I do wrong and no matter what I do for him, nothing seems to be enough anymore. He doesn't kiss me goodbye like he used to when he leaves. He doesn't pay attention to me at all. Hasn't complimented me in what seems like forever. I can't make him smile or laugh or anything like I used to. For example, he went and got his taxes done today and when he came home he was upset bc it didnt turn out like he thought, and I seriously tried doing everything to make him feel better and he wouldn't budge. Okay, so I assumed he was just reallly upset. But then he goes and smokes weed and comes out super smiley and happy and it was just kind of a slap in the face. :/ His attitude towards me is completely different now. He's not exactly mean to me but he's not the same at all. I know a baby can change things but jesus....It's only been 2 weeks and I feel like he doesnt want me at all anymore. He just picks at everything I do and it's really starting to get to me. We're both stressed, we're both tired and we're both adjusting. I just wish he could see that i'm in this WITH him, not doing this to him. We need eachother and right now I feel completely alone in this.  

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You two have a new life. It's going to take getting used to.

You're not his band aid. Stop trying to fix things or make things better. You're his partner, you're there to listen. Don't take it upon yourself to try and be a superhero.

You sound a little sensitive, and your hormones are plummeting so its not unheard of.

Take it with a grain of salt.

Most of this sounds like perception issues.

More communication would probably solve most of these problems.

Quoting Erica ☆★:" Okay I had my baby girl on the 11th, and i'm completely in love with her. However, I feel as though ever ... [snip!] ... i'm in this WITH him, not doing this to him. We need eachother and right now I feel completely alone in this.   End of vent.."

This happens more often than not. It's an adjustment. A HUGE adjustment. He might be jealous because all of your attention isn't on him like it was when you were pregnant. It's all about the baby and some men have a hard time getting use to that. Honestly, it's just something he's gonna have to get over. Pregnancy of the first child is usually the honeymoon period. Granted this is an exception to many couples but in your case, this is what is sounds like.

Quoting Red Bottom:" You two have a new life. It's going to take getting used to. You're not his band aid. Stop trying to ... [snip!] ... grain of salt. Most of this sounds like perception issues. More communication would probably solve most of these problems."

I'm very hormonal lol I cry at pretty much anything so I know that definitely doesn't help at all...but he's really been acting different. Kind of distant, and easily aggravated and moody...and i'm the one who gets up with the baby all night so he can't even say that it's lack of sleep or anything. I just really hope it's all temporary. Everything has been so smurfing overwhelming since i've had Emma. I love her with all my heart but idt I knew what I was in for.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Erica ☆★:</b>" I'm very hormonal lol I cry at pretty much anything so I know that definitely doesn't help at all...but ... [snip!] ... Everything has been so smurfing overwhelming since i've had Emma. I love her with all my heart but idt I knew what I was in for."</blockquote>




What is he doing that's making you feel like he's being distant?

Like when he gets home he goes straight to video games or his phone. When we're watching tv together he'll be on his phone or something. I'll try to talk to him and it's like he tunes me out and I have to repeat myself 3-5 times to get him to hear me or acknowledge me. It's just little things he never used to do but now he seems to do them all the time. I'm probably over thinking things....but it's really getting to me. If it's just my hormones...they need to die lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Erica ☆★:</b>" Like when he gets home he goes straight to video games or his phone. When we're watching tv together ... [snip!] ... the time. I'm probably over thinking things....but it's really getting to me. If it's just my hormones...they need to die lol. "</blockquote>




Eh, he shouldn't be finding any media source but you to gain his attention.

Have you tried to calmly talk to him. Try telling him that you really want to talk about something because its bothering you even though you wish it wasn't. Tell him how you're feeling, acknowledge your hormones, and try not to directly blame him. But tell him how his actions are making you feel

Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Erica ☆★:</b>" Like when he gets home he goes straight ... [snip!] ... you're feeling, acknowledge your hormones, and try not to directly blame him. But tell him how his actions are making you feel"

I'm gonna have to, I can't keep feeling this crappy. I'll prob talk to him tonight about everything.