Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" I'm all about the needs behind behaviour so i totally get what you mean. It's very nonviolent communicationy ... [snip!] ... the 'other side' when you've come up against so much negativity previously. ramble ramble ramble, gosh i need some sleep!"
I have literally had about 1.5 hours of sleep in the last two days, so I feel your pain.
I got a lot of negative backlash when I chose to pull my sons out of public school and homeschool them. I was basically getting pressured to put both of them on ADHD meds and I am not comfortable with those, especially for 5 and 7 year old boys. Granted, they both DEFINITELY have markedly lower attention spans then most kids their age, but I don't think that means I should dope them up. So, I quit my full-time job and took it into my own hands. I think a lot of people still think that you give birth and then you hand them over to someone else to raise and educate. While that might work for some, that's just not how I want to raise my children. I know that not everyone is lucky enough to make this choice, and I'm very thankful I can.
I am a bit of a disciplinarian, though. I don't really spank because I think it's counterintuitive for a young mind, but when I tell them to do something, they will do it or there will be consequences. On that same note, teaching them at home, I'm able to cater to their individual learning styles and personalities more then a normal teacher can. So, in that respect, I let them kind of guide me which gives their little minds a chance to really blossom.