re: Newborn: Won't sleep at Night

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" SO thinks she just hates her bed. She is in it right now sleeping tthough. The only time she did calm ... [snip!] ... I didn't care if I got no sleep, she was not sleeping in our bed. Too scared of SIDS to consider letting her ever sleep there."</blockquote>




Actually cosleeping dramatically decreases the risk of SIDS. You are worried about crushing her by rolling over or her suffocating in your bed. SIDS is an unexplained infant death and usually occurs when babies are in a crib.

Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" SO thinks she just hates her bed. ... [snip!] ... rolling over or her suffocating in your bed. SIDS is an unexplained infant death and usually occurs when babies are in a crib."

I actually did talk to her pediatrician about that today and he said the same thing that you are saying. Since I am a very light sleeper and wake just about every time she moves it would be okay. However SO is a very heavy sleeper and sometimes rolls over on me. So I would not allow her in the bed if SO was with me. But on nights he works until 4 am, I could let her sleep with me until he gets home.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" I actually did talk to her pediatrician about that today and he said the same thing that you are saying. ... [snip!] ... allow her in the bed if SO was with me. But on nights he works until 4 am, I could let her sleep with me until he gets home. "</blockquote>


I coslept with my youngest. Everytime my husband would move, it'd push him away. It was an instant maternal reaction and half the time I'd already be sitting up by the time i fully woke up. My husband stopped coming to bed, lol. Poor guy slept on the couch for nearly 7 months  . Awesome of him to give his side of the bed to the baby though. Not sure i could have made that sacrifice, lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" I actually did talk to her pediatrician about that today and he said the same thing that you are saying. ... [snip!] ... allow her in the bed if SO was with me. But on nights he works until 4 am, I could let her sleep with me until he gets home. "</blockquote>




I'd put her next to you, not between y'all. But if you have any hesitation about that, you know best. Trying to do it some nights but not others would be difficult, i think.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A is Me:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" I actually did talk to her pediatrician ... [snip!] ... if you have any hesitation about that, you know best. Trying to do it some nights but not others would be difficult, i think."</blockquote>




I bought a toddler bed rail and had the baby on the outside and me in the middle for a while. When my hubby started sleeping on the couch, i put it on his side so i didnt have to worry about him rolling out.

Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" I actually did talk to her pediatrician ... [snip!] ... if you have any hesitation about that, you know best. Trying to do it some nights but not others would be difficult, i think."

I sleep on the edge of the bed. There really would be no room for her beside me. SO usually ends up in the middle of the bed. You'd think a Queen Size bed would be big enough for us but nope.

I did talk to SO about her sleeping in our bed and he got mad. Apparently there was a lot of conflict with his ex-wife when she invited the kids into their bed. he flat out told me she wasn't allowed in our bed. It didn't go over so well. We will be talking about it more tomorrow on his day off.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" Last night I brought my daughter home and she refused to sleep during the night. She cried and cried ... [snip!] ... I was worried I was doing something wrong. She is my first child and I love her so much. I just want to be a great mom to her. "

  this sucks i know trust me, but some babies just get their nights and days mixed up. my DS barely slept in the day and night as a newborn. he still wakes loads at night and is now 9 months, you just get used to it but the first few weeks are very hard, hang in there just try sleep when she does.

Co-sleep and breastfeed. Works like a charm for getting more sleep.