does your so...*tmi*

Does your partner get mad if they find out you masterbated? We have sex at least four days a week, but I can't get off from just sex and he doesn't always wanna use his fingers or mouth. Well I jokingly told him I did yesterday and he got highly offended. I don't get it, I know he masterbates and I am totally okay with that!

my husband only gets mad because I don't ask him to help lol

Yes mine does. He has threatened to throw away my toys. Its not like I don't give him any, its just easier and less time consuming to do it on my own.  

i had a boyfriend once who got mad about it. but that was because i barely ever saw him. i told him i watched porn and masturbated once and he got all smurfing stupid and pissed off. i was like, "uhh, well you weren't here. and you weren't going to be...." it was dumb. then he dumped me in a text message a few months later. he was like 46 years old and a total jerk/loser.

Lmao... SO just pretended to jack off while laying right next to me. We're really open about it. We both know and don't care that the we both do it on our own time. Especially since sex has become somewhat painful since I've been pregnant. I don't see why it'd be such a big deal? Maybe your SO is insecure? Does he ever seem like maybe he doesn't feel like he pleases you?

Mine gets "upset" when he doesn't at least get to watch. He really doesn't get mad at much, really. I tell him all the time, when I get home before the kids do from school, and hes still at work, "gonna get my me time in", and he knows thats code for piddling my twiddle. He always just says, "text me pictures!"

My husband is perfectly fine with it. Just a couple of days ago he encouraged me to do it because he was out of town.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>" Lmao... SO just pretended to jack off while laying right next to me. We're really open about it. We both ... [snip!] ... see why it'd be such a big deal? Maybe your SO is insecure? Does he ever seem like maybe he doesn't feel like he pleases you?"</blockquote>




He was very new to sex when we started dating. I think that may have something to do with it. I've told him what I need to climax and like I said he dpesnt always want to. I make sure to compliment him tho.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Loka Lokita (15):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amber :]:</b>" Lmao... SO just pretended to jack off while laying ... [snip!] ... to do with it. I've told him what I need to climax and like I said he dpesnt always want to. I make sure to compliment him tho."</blockquote>



That could be it. Maybe just switch things up, and try some new things in bed so he feels more confident about himself?

No, we both masturbate and have sex fequently. I know that I satify him and he knows he satisfies me and that is all that matters. It is easier to hide in the room/bathroom for a minute, than both disappear to have sex during the day. We have our sexy time at bedtime. =]

DH and i both don't do it... it's a mutual thing, but if your SO does it he has no reason to get mad at you for it!!

I think the big thing here is that he is insecure. Even if it isn't his fault, the fact that you Don't get off from sex probably hurts a lot. Anytime I have found out a woman I was with didn't cum, I have been very upset and immediately tried to remedy the situation I wasn't upset with the girl, but with my self. I doubt he is actually upset with you, more like he is just misplacing his aggression. Try to talk to him about it. Personal insecurities lead to a lot of the stupid smurf we guys can do. it often leads to many problems in a relationship, and he should try to work through them, as hard as it is. Hope this helps.  

I think it's more of a pride thing for men lol

Quoting MommaNoodle:" i had a boyfriend once who got mad about it. but that was because i barely ever saw him. i told him i ... [snip!] ... be...." it was dumb. then he dumped me in a text message a few months later. he was like 46 years old and a total jerk/loser. "

Yuck, what a lameass. Tony never cared if I touched myself... I never cared if he did. I walked in once after school, he was home early. I'm all "Hey babe, taking a nap? Why is the computer in here, were you listening to music? Oh, OHHHH!" lol

No, not at all. He thinks it's hot that I masturbate occasionally. He likes that I am comfortable with myself and thinks it's kinky.