re: Children are a Gift

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Colton's Butterfly:</b>" Seriously?? Wow, that is...unnecessary. ... [snip!] ... a baby from another member. It failed. I can't remember why or anything but there was alot of drama surrounding this situation."

Wasnt that like a few years back?

BecauseI remember something like that...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Wasnt that like a few years back? BecauseI remember something like that... "</blockquote>




Yeah a couple or so.

Quoting Colton's Butterfly:" I didn't even see it and I'm annoyed. I'm almost wishing I could find them, just to give them a piece of my mind."

Eh... Most of them dont stay around.

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Wasnt that like a few years back? BecauseI remember something like that... "</blockquote> Yeah a couple or so."

Wow...I could see that going badly.

I mean, going back to today's baby hunters, I'd consider eventually adopting, but coming on here and begging for a baby would be the last way I'd do it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Colton's Butterfly:</b>" Wow...I could see that going badly. I mean, going back to today's baby hunters, I'd consider eventually adopting, but coming on here and begging for a baby would be the last way I'd do it."</blockquote>




Yeah it was alot of drama.

I agree. That should be the last way to try to adopt a child.

One should not judge, sometimes the first initial thought is clearly wrong. I have seen heart felt responses and then I have seen responses that were worth the dust on my feet. Everyone is not out to hurt, there are some good people who truly desire to be parents but cannot conceive. Maybe if we could try to understand where they are coming from, we wouldn't be so judgmental. good parents come in all ages s well as bad parents but a lot of teens are not ready to be that responsible. I know of couples who have adopted and has stated that agencies are to expensive and that the finances would have been well spent on the child instead of an upfront fee to an agency of 10,000 or more.

Sorry, I'm Jess and new on here.

Quoting ***Jess***:" One should not judge, sometimes the first initial thought is clearly wrong. I have seen heart felt responses ... [snip!] ... and that the finances would have been well spent on the child instead of an upfront fee to an agency of 10,000 or more."

i get what you're saying, but.... posting it in the "teen pregnancy" forum on a parenting website looks sleazy to me.

Quoting ***Jess***:" Sorry, I'm Jess and new on here."

Jess, first off, welcome to BG. Secondly, good luck here. Now, I'm going to level with you, alright?

Online boards are not the place to look for a child. They're just not. There are appropriate ways to seek out a child...posting a message in a very much anonymous forum site is not the way to do it. It will lead to drama, because that's just what happens here. One of the other girls pointed it out, that there was an adoption process going on between two members, and it ended badly. That's just what happens online.

We're not out to judge, but we are protective of the teen parents on here...mostly because some of them can be very easily manipulated. There are ways to adopt without going through an agency...going online to message teen girls is not one of them.

Quoting ***Jess***:" One should not judge, sometimes the first initial thought is clearly wrong. I have seen heart felt responses ... [snip!] ... and that the finances would have been well spent on the child instead of an upfront fee to an agency of 10,000 or more."

hmmmmmmm..... The posters age was 32 as well...

Who the hell cares... Coming on here is the last way to go about adopting a baby....

Thank you, and I understand what you are saying. Teens are easily manipulated but all I'm saying there are good people who are just trying to help a teen in choosing life over abortion. I guess I am speaking from an honest heart and everyone is not as honest and caring as I can be. With the proper legalities and guidance of parents, such a circumstance can be a success story. It is disappointing that we live in a world where everyone has to be viewed as potentially bad.

Quoting ***Jess***:" Thank you, and I understand what you are saying. Teens are easily manipulated but all I'm saying there ... [snip!] ... can be a success story. It is disappointing that we live in a world where everyone has to be viewed as potentially bad. "

  Life over abortion? I think you should give a child up and feel that pain. Adoption and abortion are nessacary evils... and I think abortion is better than adoption, because you dont have ot go 9 months of seeing the child that isnt going to be yours....

Quoting ***Jess***:" Thank you, and I understand what you are saying. Teens are easily manipulated but all I'm saying there ... [snip!] ... can be a success story. It is disappointing that we live in a world where everyone has to be viewed as potentially bad. "

it's not really your or anyone else's job to "help them choose life over abortion". abortion is a very hard and private thing, just as i feel choosing adoption is as well. if someone doesn't want to carry a child and give it away, that's none of your business to try and change their mind or to "help them" as you say.

you're entitled to being pro-life if you that's your stance. i'm not bashing you for that. but.... it's not your place or anyone else's place to try and change their minds so they have a kid and give it up instead of aborting.

HA!!! the poster is also 32...were they also a program director and with their spouse for 15 years? Leave the detective work for real detectives.

"Ignorance is NOT bliss!" No matter what decision is made, that child either has existence or existed. The decision to give the child a chance to live or end its life stems from your own insecurity. If the right adoptive parent(s) are chosen, you can sill have a relationship with your biological child. If abortion is the case, a cold heart and a memory is in remains. Pregnancy is not about YOU, it is about the child you are carrying. The decision is not about YOU but about the child. I support life over legal murder.

Quoting ***Jess***:" HA!!! the poster is also 32...were they also a program director and with their spouse for 15 years? Leave ... [snip!] ... it is about the child you are carrying. The decision is not about YOU but about the child. I support life over legal murder."

Im sorry but yes that is your view... but wow.. abortion is just as hard as adoption is... And no when you are pregnant you have to think about YOURSELF.... And if you have any other kids...   you are really something else.