moms growing their second

Do any of you feel...odd, maybe, about adding another? I don't really know how to describe it.

I'm a single mom, and for 5 years it's just been me and my daughter. I very rarely do anything without her or without thinking of her as if she's another extension of me. I mean I go out as a woman and adult pretty often and I work and stuff, but when I picture myself, my daughter is part of the mental image.

I just can't really wrap my head around adding another being to that, I guess.

Yup that's how I felt. I still don't really know how to feel and I just had my second yesterday. It's a little surreal still. Our dd1 has been an only child for 5 yrs. it's gonna be diff adjusting to 2 now. We had even considered having her be our only but I thought in the long run it wasn't fair to her.

I definitely did. (feel odd that is)
It was just me 'n and Carter for 5 years and i had no clue how i could possibly love another little human as much as i did him, and i worried about him losing attention, etc etc. I just couldn't picture feeling the same way/having the same connection with another kiddo.
But, obviously everything worked out  

And here i am now worrying about adding baby three to the picture, ha.

I definitely feel that way. Sometimes I feel really guilty, like my daughter will no longer have my undivided attention... it's weird. Other times I think it'll be good, because she'll have someone to play with, and she loves babies. I don't know I'm all sorts of confused lol this pregnancy has just flown by and I really haven't adjusted to it yet.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" Yup that's how I felt. I still don't really know how to feel and I just had my second yesterday. It's ... [snip!] ... be diff adjusting to 2 now. We had even considered having her be our only but I thought in the long run it wasn't fair to her."</blockquote>


Congrats!

It definitely feels surreal to try and picture two aha. Hope your adjustment goes well!

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" I definitely did. (feel odd that is) It was just me 'n and Carter for 5 years and i had no clue how ... [snip!] ... kiddo. But, obviously everything worked out   And here i am now worrying about adding baby three to the picture, ha. "</blockquote>



Yeah, those are all my emotions bundled up. I know logically it'll work because it has with everyone else, hell my mom had FOUR and she's my best friend, but..... I can't picture it!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Daenerys:</b>" I definitely feel that way. Sometimes I feel really guilty, like my daughter will no longer have my undivided ... [snip!] ... babies. I don't know I'm all sorts of confused lol this pregnancy has just flown by and I really haven't adjusted to it yet."</blockquote>


I know, i'm super not ready to already be in the third trimester  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Daenerys:</b>" I definitely feel that way. Sometimes ... [snip!] ... I really haven't adjusted to it yet."</blockquote> I know, i'm super not ready to already be in the third trimester  "</blockquote>




My preg flew by fast with my second. I think cause I was so busy with my other one.

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" I definitely did. (feel odd that is) It was just ... [snip!] ... it'll work because it has with everyone else, hell my mom had FOUR and she's my best friend, but..... I can't picture it!"

oh definitely. especially after 5 years, and when it's just you 'n the kiddo- it's like a whole different dynamic. i mean, when i got pregnant with clara, carter and i had finally moved into our own place, and my plan was just to always be just me 'n him   now of course i couldn't imagine life with out clara! (and baby three  )

i'm excited to see pictures of your new little one!

I felt exactly the same way. I was worried my DS who is 4.5years wouldnt like it when his little brother did arrive because he would then have to share me (It was something he didnt want to do/look ford to the whole pregnancy) BUT as soon as his little brother arrived 7th Jan, he loved him and he is very helpful. I just do things with him when DS2 is sleeping an make sure to still give him lots of 1 on 1 time with me doing older boy things that he enjoys and involve him with baby when hes awake   I freaked out for nothing aparently   Maybe its just a normal Mummy thing to feel.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bailey&Ashlin's Mum:</b>" I felt exactly the same way. I was worried my DS who is 4.5years wouldnt like it when his little brother ... [snip!] ... involve him with baby when hes awake   I freaked out for nothing aparently   Maybe its just a normal Mummy thing to feel."</blockquote>


I'm not too worried about that, my daughter will be almost 5.5 and she's VERY excited for baby sis. She's somehow convinced that she's going to doing all the housework for me, changing diapers, and taking care of her  

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" oh definitely. especially after 5 years, and when it's just you 'n the kiddo- it's like a whole different ... [snip!] ... of course i couldn't imagine life with out clara! (and baby three  ) i'm excited to see pictures of your new little one! "</blockquote>


Man, I'm excited for YOURS! I'm not sure my heart will be able to handle Clara holding a chubby bubs.

I feel the same! DD is 7yrs old and im due in 10wks with a boy!
I was a one night stand and bamm im pregnant! Still in shock and im always worrying how this new one is going to affect my 'Best Friend' relationship with my daughter   x

a sibling can be the ultimate way to show a child how specail an important they are. When you explain to the 1st child that they were such a wonderful, amazing addition to your life that adding another blessing to your family only made sense they will feel extra specail.

My problem is that I don't know how I can love somebody as much as I love my son. I almost feel selfish that I'm pregnant again. He's going to be 9 months on the 30th and I don't want anybody to take away his attention. That sounds horrible doesn't it...