re: Difference in parenting styles D&D

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" It can change when the kids are actually here though. Maybe they DID decide on no spanking but then parenting was a lot more difficult than they believed."

Oh i know, but when i got with DH we talked about it a lot. I had a set way of how i wanted to parent and i didn't want to be with someone that i was constantly fighting with about parenting. We both agreed in the beginning we would spank but only for certain things or if nothing else works. Our parenting has changed since having kids especially because our son is so hard to deal with but i do think it needs to be talked about before you make a commitment to be with that person.

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" See, that wouldn't work in my house. If its bedtime, its bedtime. They don't have to go to sleep but ... [snip!] ... light off and go to bed. My son is being difficult lately but he use to just lay in bed with his V Reader until he zonked out."

We don't have a set bed time. We go to bed when we're ready. Usually between 8-9 PM. He has made his own schedule and it's never been a problem.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" We don't have a set bed time. We go to bed when we're ready. Usually between 8-9 PM. He has made his own schedule and it's never been a problem."

Well if you don't have some where to be the next day, I suppose that could work. The only time we are lax on bedtimes is during the weekends or holiday breaks.

I'm never lax on bedtime.  

After 8pm is mommy time. I don't give that up easily.

I don't see it as abuse. I do spank but I'd never spank for not going to bed. I always do something with my toddler to get them to go to sleep like lay down with her or sing or read to her and she'll normally go to sleep. Some parents do their own thing and honestly, they should have discussed parenting styles before they had a child.

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Well if you don't have some where to be the next day, I suppose that could work. The only time we are lax on bedtimes is during the weekends or holiday breaks."

same here. bedtiem is 8 every night. on weekends and holidays it's whenever it looks like she's gonna pass out lol which is usually around like 9/9:30. she love sher sleep though haha

Quoting Saffy Sly:" I'm never lax on bedtime.   After 8pm is mommy time. I don't give that up easily."

I dump the kids on M after 8pm on the weekends   Yep, I hide from them.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" I saw this on a pro-bf page and was curious what everyone thought. Do you think spanking a 2 year old ... [snip!] ... he well within his rights since they couldn't agree? If you and your SO don't agree on parenting stuff, how do you compromise?"

she's in for a shock.. it's not considered abuse unless he's hitting mulitple times and leaving bruises. And.. if he files for shared custody.. he'll get it and noting she can do about how he disciplines when she's not there

Quoting Saffy Sly:" I'm never lax on bedtime.   After 8pm is mommy time. I don't give that up easily."

Me either. One of my friends lets her kids stay up until they drop at midnight. No thanks. We go on vacations together and one is coming up next month. I'm sure my kid and my other friend's kid will be fast asleep by 8 (maybe even by 7 since we'll be on eastern time) and we'll be enjoying our adult time, while she still has her 2 year old up her ass since he's so clingy.
Bedtime is very important in our house; not only b/c the child needs adequate rest, but I need rest from my kid!

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" I spank but i wouldn't spank a 2 year old for crying and not going to sleep, and i sure wouldn't do it ... [snip!] ... and i didn't agree on parenting then we wouldn't of had kids. This was something we talked about long before we even had kids."

 

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" I dump the kids on M after 8pm on the weekends   Yep, I hide from them."

Oh I do too during the weekend afternoons but on nights like tonight where he doesn't get home until 11pm?

You bet your ass I'm not giving them any leeway in their 8pm bedtime.  

Quoting snglemama:" she's in for a shock.. it's not considered abuse unless he's hitting mulitple times and leaving bruises. ... [snip!] ... And.. if he files for shared custody.. he'll get it and noting she can do about how he disciplines when she's not there"

HE left HER.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" HE left HER."

Soooo???? It doesn't matter in the courts eyes. She could try to bring up it is abuse and they will ask her why she didn't call CPS then and then laugh in her face!

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Well if you don't have some where to be the next day, I suppose that could work. The only time we are lax on bedtimes is during the weekends or holiday breaks."

I don't work or anything if that's what you mean. We pretty much only go grocery shopping and the rest of the time we're at home. That's about to change in a few months but right now, our 8-9 pm bedtime works.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" HE left HER."

what's your point? I didn't say she left him. I just said she's in for a shock.