so scared

So my daughter is four months old and i love her SO much. Her father left today... im so scared to be a single mom. I have horrible panic attacks and have never been really successful in life. I dont have a job... was anyone ever in the same
Situation? Any words of encouragment? Ty

Quoting Amanda Bayless:" So my daughter is four months old and i love her SO much. Her father left today... im so scared to be ... [snip!] ... been really successful in life. I dont have a job... was anyone ever in the same Situation? Any words of encouragment? Ty"

You will be perfectly fine! I've been a single mom since my daughter was 6 months old and now I can't even imagine having to co-parent.

Pick yourself up momma, your baby girl needs you to be strong, You'll be FINE. DS' 'dad' walked out when I was 11 weeks pregnant with my son and I made it through just fine, so will you...

Thank you   were you guys scared at first also?

BD left when DS was 3 weeks old... it was a struggle but you can do it!! DS is now almost 3 and im having to learn to let SO (were getting married in 6 months) help me parent. ive done it alone for so long i dont know how to let someone help me.


just keep your head up and love that little one like theres no tomorrow and you guys will get through anything!

I don't have any experience raising a child alone, but I have had experience with smurffy men & I will tell you that if he could leave you & the baby with you not having a job or a way to support yourself ---- you do NOT need that douchebag. I couldn't think of anything more selfish to do to your child.

I can tell you that my mom raised both my sister and me when my dad walked out on us. She was 27, with 2 kids under the age of 3 and no job. She got help from friends & family, but it wasn't enough, so she swallowed her pride & asked for welfare. She always taught us that it was a helping hand, not a hand out --- she got her GED, went to business school & got her associate's degree and has worked in banking ever since. My sister & I never wanted for anything --- in fact, we didn't even know we were poor until we went to school and some idiot kid told us we were! lol We were loved & adored & well cared for --- that's all that matters. You CAN do this.

Quoting Amanda Bayless:" Thank you   were you guys scared at first also?"

Oh hell yeah I was scared. My first trimester was a disaster, 4 threatened miscarriages, the last being the day that dumb ass left me and his unborn son, I thought I was going to lose my baby and my 'love'. The best advice I can give you is to go ahead and start the child support and custody process, file for emergency full custody first off, that will help you in the long run

Quoting Amanda Bayless:" Thank you   were you guys scared at first also?"

Of course I was scared. I had no job, no money really since my ex spent it all on drugs. I have gotten lots of help from family. My advice is to put all feelings for him aside and do what is best for your child. And be sure to cover all bases just in case. Don't be afraid to ever ask for help either and know that you are not alone.

Quoting Amanda Bayless:" Thank you   were you guys scared at first also?"

forget scared.. i was terrified.. but my son never knew that.. to this day hes only seen me break down and cry twice. i had no idea what to do with a baby. no job no car living with family that were pissed i got pregnant with BD. but we made it through and now we are all happy and healthy and together. (my son and i and my now fiance. not deadbeat BD lol)

Thanks so much  

Im not a parent yet but when my bd and I split up I was moreso flipping out over ny daughter not having a dad. It made me so sad cause I didnt have a dad. But I'm coming around and some days are better than others. Just hang in there. you CAN do it   good luck

Quoting KelseyLynn:" Im not a parent yet but when my bd and I split up I was moreso flipping out over ny daughter not having ... [snip!] ... I didnt have a dad. But I'm coming around and some days are better than others. Just hang in there. you CAN do it   good luck"

With my daughter I wish her dad would go away!!! Seems that no dad would be better than a crappy ass dad who never answers her calls or calls her back and always breaks his promises to her.

being a single mom has been one of the hardest but best things i have gone through. you will be fine and you will figure out how to make it work for you and your daughter.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KelseyLynn:</b>" Im not a parent yet but when my bd and I split up I was moreso flipping out over ny daughter not having ... [snip!] ... I didnt have a dad. But I'm coming around and some days are better than others. Just hang in there. you CAN do it   good luck"</blockquote>




Awww im pretty sure your already a parent  ) i considered myself one when i was pregnant