Ready to Give Up!!!

So I have been going threw a living hell the past week. I have tried to do everything I could think of to make things work between me and my Babies mother. She has been on my case because I decided to go back to school. One minute she was fine with it then the next it was the biggest problem in the world. Today she told me that she can be with me because she has been talking to another guy. She told me two days ago that she loved me. When i told her that it wasnt right with what she is doing she tried telling me that she wasnt cheating and that there is nothing wrong with it even tho she was leaving me. One thing lead to another then we decided to at least try to stay friends for our daughters sake. After a few hours went by she then informed me that I will not be allowed at any appointments or be able to be in the room when my first child is born. Then she tries to tell me that she is the better person. I would give anything for my child or any child i have help raised. How is she the better person when I stayed loyal to her threw everything and she went out and tried to find some one else?

some people just suck because they're jerks. I married one and it took a while for me to realize that people are who they are

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:" some people just suck because they're jerks. I married one and it took a while for me to realize that people are who they are"

It's true , OP...people never really change.  

I'm sorry you're going through that!

I guess i dont understand how she thinks she is so much better then me after she treats me like that. She knew that I wanted to try and work things out.

Yea...that's pretty awful. I mean, she's talking to someone else (Basically cheating) while she's pregnant with your baby?? That's not a good sign, and it doesn't say a whole lot about her character. I hate to say this, but If I were you...I think I would give up on her. It sounds like you're the only one making any sort of effort here, and one sided doesn't work. You'll always be there for your child, of course...but you don't have to be there for her.

Quoting DaddyMike:" I guess i dont understand how she thinks she is so much better then me after she treats me like that. She knew that I wanted to try and work things out."

not that my advice is worth much, but be vigilant in your morals. don't let her behaviors dictate yours. let your actions speak for themselves. I can't promise it'll make things better but it'll certainly keep it from getting worse.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:" not that my advice is worth much, but be vigilant in your morals. don't let her behaviors dictate yours. ... [snip!] ... let your actions speak for themselves. I can't promise it'll make things better but it'll certainly keep it from getting worse."

Exactly! Well said.

I have giving up on her. I told her tonight that im not playing her head games anymore and that if she was leaving me agian then it was for good and that I am moving on. She ended it a few weeks ago and slept with someone and didnt tell me til after we got back together. I know we will be in court she told me tonight that she is going for full custody and that she will get it because she is breast feeding. She dont have anything to use against me in court other then I can have a temper but have never hit anyone or thought about it. Other then that all she has is that I am trying to get in to a law enforcement career and that I am going to school which i dont think will make me sound unfit.

Quoting DaddyMike:" I have giving up on her. I told her tonight that im not playing her head games anymore and that if she ... [snip!] ... I am trying to get in to a law enforcement career and that I am going to school which i dont think will make me sound unfit."

Ouch, she's really making things difficult, eh? I think you are doing the best you can by moving on. Seriously --- someone who truly loves you would not treat you this way. Think about that if she ever tries to get back with you. This will never end well.

As for custody.... yes, she can breastfeed, but that's not a basis for keeping your child away from her. She can also pump. I would suggest you keep your nose clean, stay in school & do your best to look as stable as possible. Just because she is the mother, does not make her the best parent. Get yourself a good lawyer. And what ever you do --- DON'T argue with her, DON'T send nasty txt and/or voicemails and DON'T underestimate the levels people will sink to in a custody battle. Keep a log of everything if you can. Every interaction, every encounter with her. It might help you in the future.

She's an idiot if she thinks a judge is going to give her full custody just because she breast feeds...she can pump, lots of women do it.

After the things she said to me tonight it really hurts to say but I really dont want to hear from her unless it has to do with my child. Which I am scared smurfless for my child but out of respect of her I will not post on here why.

You sound like a great guy. I need to find one of those!!!

Quoting Amanda Bayless:" You sound like a great guy. I need to find one of those!!!"

Thank-You... Even though I dont know you that means a lot to me

if your gonna post stuff on here Michael why dont you tell everyone the actual truth. How youve barely been a part of this pregnancy? how I was kicked out of your moms? how you told me I would never get custody at all. & also how I didnt break up with you because of another guy that im talking too as a FRIEND and how you talk smurf about some girl the go hang out with her last night? I'm done I told you I didnt want you at the appts. your very controlling and you have a nasty ass temper. you dont have a job and your living off unemployment and depending on one job. you chose to go to school five days a week knowing i wasnt okay with it and that you were asked by two different familys to move down here with me. & chose not too. & I said you could be at the birth last night after the nasty texts i got from you. thanks for telling the whole story. please do give up. you think your temper is the only problem your very wrong.