dealing with suicide.

I just lost a friend at the beginning of the year who commited suicide and there's days I just can't handle it. The thoughts of I should have reached out or the I should have could have would haves start......and I also am having a very hard time with people that tell me that he isn't in heaven because he killed himself which I personally don't think I believe. I just need to know how to come to terms with this.

Time
It's going to hurt. It's going to sting. You will have the thoughts of "what could I have done" etc.
But please know, that it's not your fault...and there wasn't anything that could have been done.
I lost the love of my life to suicide 10 years ago. I spent that time trying to figure out what I did wrong, or what I could have done to 'save' him.
You will make it through this, I promise. If you'd like to talk, I will gladly listen.
I'm very sorry.

Quoting Britny TTC 2013™:" I just lost a friend at the beginning of the year who commited suicide and there's days I just can't ... [snip!] ... heaven because he killed himself which I personally don't think I believe. I just need to know how to come to terms with this."

<3 I am so sorry for your loss.


As for the Heaven thing, Romans 8:38 says "And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow--not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love."

I am sorry someone said that to you, I think that is a huge misconception about God. I'm here if you ever need to talk. My father shot himself in '02, I know it hurts.

Quoting Pirate Hooker {BAMW}:" Time It's going to hurt. It's going to sting. You will have the thoughts of "what could I have done" ... [snip!] ... have done to 'save' him. You will make it through this, I promise. If you'd like to talk, I will gladly listen. I'm very sorry."

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i think its jsut part of your style of morning
i had a freind commit suicide once to, and i really wandered what i could of done all the time. mabey there was something, but theres nothing you could do or can do to have known that. people chose there own paths and thats life. screw what others say about heaven or hell. i dont know how this exact stuff all works out, but you need to stop worrying about things that cant be changed, mabey focus more on your happy thoughts of your freind and except his passing

Quoting Pirate Hooker {BAMW}:" Time It's going to hurt. It's going to sting. You will have the thoughts of "what could I have done" ... [snip!] ... have done to 'save' him. You will make it through this, I promise. If you'd like to talk, I will gladly listen. I'm very sorry."

exactly what I think sometimes. What could we have done to save him? but I just don't think anyone had that power but God (i'm a believer).

I'm so sorry for your loss. Mostly I get scared and sad when these fellow Christians have apparently been talking about it behind my back and a lot of believers really think that they don't go to heaven and that really pains me. It confuses me and makes me question and hurt more and I just probably shouldn't let their stuff make me sad but it does.

Quoting sassy chef:" <3 I am so sorry for your loss. As for the Heaven thing, Romans 8:38 says "And I am convinced ... [snip!] ... that is a huge misconception about God. I'm here if you ever need to talk. My father shot himself in '02, I know it hurts. "

thank you for the verse and I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. My cousin Desire lost her father to suicide too, I've had this in my family more than once and then my friend it's just so many questions that arise. And I never had an opinion on whether they did or not and hadn't heard the opinions until this happened so I didn't know what to say or how to react.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Britny TTC 2013™:</b>" I just lost a friend at the beginning of the year who commited suicide and there's days I just can't ... [snip!] ... heaven because he killed himself which I personally don't think I believe. I just need to know how to come to terms with this."</blockquote>



I lost a friend last year. Mama, I'm so sorry :'-(. (hugs)

On the God and heaven angle, IMO if there is a God who loves us, He would have the most compassion in the world for those who suicide.

The drive to live is the strongest biological urge we have. In some people it's greater even than the urge to raise and protect their young. So to be so desperate and hurting that the number-one instinct of all is short-circuited is to need understanding, and solace.

If your child jumps off the counter and breaks his leg, you wouldn't send him to time-out for climbing furniture! You'd scoop him up and comfort him , get him help and love on him while his leg heals.

If there is a God, He's the same way.

And I feel the same way... why didn't I reach out to him? Could I have helped, ect.
We 'll never know if it would've made a difference, but it does get a little easier to cope, little by little. It sucks the big one, but it gets easier.

Quoting thisunrest:" And I feel the same way... why didn't I reach out to him? Could I have helped, ect. We 'll never know ... [snip!] ... made a difference, but it does get a little easier to cope, little by little. It sucks the big one, but it gets easier."

thank you for sharing and sorry for your loss as well. & great analogy with the broken leg I never thought of it in that way before.

I'm so very sorry for your loss!!!