re: i dont want my babies father in the room...

Quoting Not tellin:" You got advice, you got support. I wasn't trying to get thru to you. I said just when I thought "smurf" ... [snip!] ... case, you aren't going to come out on top of this. It will continue to go in the same cycle that it is in right now. "

Your absolutely right

Quoting jessicamarie_92:" Your absolutely right"

When trying to be a smart ass, do it right.

*you're* absolutely right


Then it has a stinging effect  

Quoting Not tellin:" When trying to be a smart ass, do it right. *you're* absolutely right Then it has a stinging effect  "

who said i was being a smart ass? Whether i say YOU'RE wrong or right either way you have a problem with me that's clear so idk why you continue to follow and comment on my thread

Quoting jessicamarie_92:" who said i was being a smart ass? Whether i say YOU'RE wrong or right either way you have a problem with me that's clear so idk why you continue to follow and comment on my thread"

I assumed. Maybe I was wrong. But based on the tude I get when I have been trying to offer advice, it was pretty much the only direction I figured you would go with me.


I honestly don't have a problem with you. I really want to help you. I really want you to see that you are in control of this situation if you grab the reigns and get the ball moving now rather than later. I am several years older than you and have seen your situation so many times. Matter of fact, I lived it with my friend. Only, it was HIM trying to be apart of his child's life where the mother was the dirt bag. It was terrible. Anyway, this situation is very common and often the simple solution is overlooked based on ego and pride. We all have a sense of pride and ego. Hell, I will admit I am driven by mine on many things. It is what made me a success in my line of work and what is now pushing me to be the best mother I can (and not follow in my mothers steps).

Honestly, everything I have said to you is with the best intent to help you end the mess of the situation before it gets to the point where you would rather hire a hitman than have to see his face walk down the street (we all have at least one of those people in our lives that we fantasize that about).


When you are ready to let go of the sting and to drop your defenses, maybe it is worth trying.