Stay at home moms...

If you and your husband agree that it's best for you to stay home and not work after the baby's born is it still OK for him to toss the fact you don't "pay for smurf" in your face all the time? I mean we agree that it will cost more for me to go to work and pay daycare when I could easily stay home while our son is tiny and take care of the home and him.. Every time he gets pissed at me it's about how I don't have any respect because I don't pay any bills.. I don't get what he wants.. Seems to be just when he's mad. It's almost like he's super jealous that I am not working.. When I offer to work so he can stay home he says why so you can go out and flirt and hand your number out at work.. It's almost delusional and it's a no win..

If he agreed that you should be staying home than he has no right to e throwing it in your face.

No, that's not OK. Not at all. I'm really sorry he's talking to you like that, it is absolutely unacceptable. <3

Um, no. Especially id you made the decision together and he throws a hissy fit when you offer to work, too. He can't have it both ways.

seeing that you live so close to where I do I would tell him to shove it up his ass there are no jobs around here you will be lucky if you find 1 for 20 hours a week and that's extremely lucky .he needs to look up the definition of stay at home momhe has no right to throw it in your face

It definitely isn't okay. I can't imagine my husband talking to me like that. Sorry you're dealing with that.

My fiance has done that a couple times but I told him to shut the smurf up about it or I was moving in with my mother so I could get a job because she would watch my 9 week old son. You have to put your foot down about it. Yes, he does pay for everything BUT just because you don't leave the house for work doesn't mean you aren't working. He probably wouldn't be able to handle being a stay at home parent

Sounds like an ass...ditch him. If its easy to throw an agreement in your face who knows what's next

Tell him you appreciate him working, but he needs to see that technically, youre working for free. I mean taking care of a kid isnt all rainbows and flowers. So he needs to man up, and realize youre making a big contribution to the well being of youre family.

No, its not ok. After a long 5 day weekend my husband begs to go back to work. He doesn't know how I stay so calm with our three year old. I do our budgeting. So we both know what's going on with our money. I mean if your married, Its legally both of yalls money.

My husband has never done that. I don't think it's right for yours to do it. We both decided that it was right for our family.

Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" If he agreed that you should be staying home than he has no right to e throwing it in your face."

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My situation is a bit different, my old job is paying me unemployment right now so I am actually taking care of the kids, the house, and paying all the utilities, while DH is a full time student and paying the rent. But it has been to where I wasn't paying anything before. Our agreement is he pays the bills, and my job is the kids and all household chores. Since I am paying the utilities now, he takes the kids duties once a week to give me a break on one of his days off school. If he ever threw it in my face I'd tell him I'll happily trade places! We have before! Lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Calm yo tits!:</b>" It definitely isn't okay. I can't imagine my husband talking to me like that. Sorry you're dealing with that."</blockquote>




This is kind of what I was thinking.. Plus what another poster said.. There aren't any jobs to get. Not any that compare to his job. He makes decent money I'd say between 4 to 5k a month. And so why would my min wage job even cover anything?

I don't think it is right of him to say those things. I am 7 months pregnant and have stopped working because we agreed I would be a SAHM. Like you said, it would be cheaper than paying for day care. My DH even gives me an allowance for the work I do around the house. Maybe tell him that you don't just sit around all day and eat bon bons :p you actually do work to!! Cooking, Cleaning, will be taking care of the baby!

I don't care if it was a mutual decision for you to stay at home or not, he sounds like a worthless POS just for saying that to you. That'd be a major red flag to me.