Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" What issues are you having? Can you set up some fun dates nights away from everything? Falling in love ... [snip!] ... Falling in love again is totally possible. Go back to doing the things that made you fall in love in the first place."
Well he cheated nearly a year ago and it smurfed with my head big time. He has done a lot to try to fix it, but more so by helping out more around the house, etc. and not necessarily by working on us or our relationship. I don't think he has that characteristic about him.. he isn't very nurturing or understanding or in touch with his feelings or interested in talking. Unless it comes to the kids.. he is so much better with them than he is with anyone lol
he knows I've stayed and feels like he doesn't really have to do anything to keep it that way. Then there is my main issue - I am resentful as smurf lol and I can't seem to let it go and I realize that helps nothing. I gave counseling a go but it was too expensive and not really effective for me. I know what the issue is, I know I need to let go if I want to make this work, but for some reason I just can't. That affects how we interact and we just aren't "clicking". Then he is frustrated and just sort of gives up and we silently distance ourselves cuz it's.. easier? idk. He really doesn't put much effort towards our relationship. He doesn't understand or seemingly care for the emotional smurf I've been going through over this. He doesn't even like talking about anything like this and if I try to it's like in one ear out the other.
Aside from that, date nights are nearly impossible. We exhaust all our resources just to have daycare for the days we work. I think that would help though