Quoting ☮ Phuket:" but he is physically and emotionally abusive.. he has no right to lay hands on her, what makes ... [snip!] ... My opinion.. im pro choice, but its HER baby and HER pregnancy.. not the spermdonor who cant treat a human being with respsect."
I totally agree! that is why I said up there. It would worry me to no end to be pregnant knowing that the dad could possibly see me pregnant and possibly dosomething to me.
OP- I have been in an abusive relationship. I totally understand where your mom is coming from. When I was pregnant iwth my son with my abusive ex, he wasnt bad then... it wasnt for another year that I would have found out that he was an abusive smurf. I realize that its your baby, and you want to keep it. But you have to think about what he might do. He has HURT you before. Nothing from stopping him from doing it to you when your pregnant or after the baby is born. One of the many times I left my ex, he snuck into my grandparents house while I was sleeping and stood over me until I woke up. And told me that he loved me. And left, then the next day he told me that he knew how to get in my house and if I was to leave him again he would sneak in and kill me and take our son and raise him. When I thought I was pregnant one time, he told me that if I was pregnant I WASS NOT going to keep the baby because he would force me into an abortion or he would beat me until I miscarried.
If you need someone to talk to, you can talk to me <3