communication

Can some one help me understand how to have better communication? I feel like me and dh can never talk to each other without yelling. There have been times when I try talking calmly with him, try to get him to talk back. But I usually get an "ok" or "I'm sorry" to even questions. Like "I'm sorry" is the universal answer to everything. It's something he says a lot like that's all there is to fixing something an it stops there. Nothing ever gets resolved so we constantly fight about the same things. I know that my patience has been worn fairly thin lately, and I know I instigate a lot of the yelling cause I tend to get louder and louder as I get more upset and frustrated. I'm trying to work on that. But even heartfelt, calm and quiet conversations seem to go no where cause he doesn't want to hear it, thinks it'll eventually go away if he just ignores it and just won't talk back. I've tried asking him why or what I need to do in order to talk and get understood and he always just tells me he doesn't know and stops talking. I'm tired of feeling so alone all the time and like I'm in relationship limbo wanting something more, willing to do what it takes, an not having it returned.

You should both start writing stuff down it will help you in a couple ways: if you get to upset you can come back and read it in an hour, some stuff that may seem important to you now may look ridiculous once you've read it and it may open up the lines of verbal communication at a later date.

While I wouldn't mind doing that, he wouldn't. I've tried before. He always just says that he doesn't know how to write as well as me so there's no point. He always has an excuse for why he can't do something. :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting Fluffy Mamma:</b>" While I wouldn't mind doing that, he wouldn't. I've tried before. He always just says that he doesn't ... [snip!] ... that he doesn't know how to write as well as me so there's no point. He always has an excuse for why he can't do something. :/"</blockquote>




Well I'm fresh out of ideas. Sorry.

You're fine. Thank you anyways.