re: Married, but husband is no help with kids... normal?

Task him with something. But take care not to make it negative. Put it in a positive light. Like, have him handle bath-time. It's like half an hour where he can talk with his kids, play with them a bit and get some great bonding time in.

Or some variable of that. It's easy to fall into a rutt when work seems like all your life is. Just work out some kind of routine, some kind of understanding.

Quoting Tavi:" I completely understand working will wear a person out. At the end of the day you just want to be by ... [snip!] ... want, but will probably never have until later....like sleep... He needs to help more than that. What does he do for work btw?"

He is a truck driver and delivers stuff from Home Depot to peoples homes.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" My husband works full time, is ... [snip!] ... I can sleep in as well."</blockquote> That is a luxury....ahhhh dare to dream  )..mine has done that a couple times"</blockquote>

I stopped even giving him the option not to after about 3 months of up all night and up all morning. He was having a hard time adjusting to handling him too so I basically did the sink or swim method. One morning I woke him up and handed him the baby told him there was milk in the freezer and walked off and went to bed. It wasn't until I did that that they started to bond and he started being more active in caring for him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommymassey:</b>" mine says the same thing. The only thing he "refuses" to do is bath our 2 yrs. He never has because he says "she gets slippery and I am afraid to drop her". "</blockquote>




Yup I seriously have the best Dh ever. He doesn't start his job till the fourth so every day he gets the kids and feeds them and lets me sleep he makes me food, take the girls outside and he makes dinner!

I am on modified bed rest and its not helping much so he goes a little over board sometimes lol

Quoting It's a boy!!!!*3/27/13*:" My husband is wonderful and says "your job being home is twice as hard as mine" so once he gets home ... [snip!] ... that he will walk in and do everything. Just talk to your Dh and voice that you would like some more interaction from him."

I have before and he just seems so obsessed with watching tv. I really just want to cancel the tv. I think he would flip out

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" My husband works full time, is ... [snip!] ... I can sleep in as well."</blockquote> That is a luxury....ahhhh dare to dream  )..mine has done that a couple times"

Ya he has never bathed our 6 month old and I can count on one hand how many times hes bathed our 3 1/2 year old.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MissHolly:</b>" I have before and he just seems so obsessed with watching tv. I really just want to cancel the tv. I think he would flip out"</blockquote>




See I am mean and would disconnect it and be like "I have no idea what happened" lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting ¡Haute!:</b>" Task him with something. But take care not to make it negative. Put it in a positive light. Like, have ... [snip!] ... easy to fall into a rutt when work seems like all your life is. Just work out some kind of routine, some kind of understanding."</blockquote>


This is EXACTLY how I started! My husband loves to play with him so daddy always got bath, diaper, pjs because it is a great opportunity for them to play together. Now that he's more active in his role as daddy I do bath just about as much as him.

Quoting Fluffy Mamma:" I feel the same way a lot. It's almost like in this day and age when it's a lot of two income households, ... [snip!] ... on that. We're both young, I'm 23 and he's 24. So I'm hoping he'll come around. Sorry you have to feel the pain too, OP."

We are in the same situation it looks like. It's like I have to give him an excuse to have him hold the baby (going to the bathroom) then he expects me to come back and hold her right after I go. I just can't take it anymore. It's like holding your f"""ing kid for longer than 5 minutes without wondering when I am going to come back and grab her. Or turn off the tv and sit on the ground and play a game with your son who is dying for your attention. I just don't get why he doesn't see this is so wrong.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MissHolly:</b>" We are in the same situation it looks like. It's like I have to give him an excuse to have him hold the ... [snip!] ... the ground and play a game with your son who is dying for your attention. I just don't get why he doesn't see this is so wrong."</blockquote>




I know. I don't get i either. I always get told that men are stupid, you have to tell them straightforward and no beating around the bush. And while I try to not hold to the stupid part, I am rather direct with what I would really like him to do. But when asked why he won't, I get an I didn't want to, or the baby just screams in my ear. Well, if you would hold her right and interact with her more often, she wouldn't scream and think you're a total stranger. Sometimes I just want to strangle him.