re: New boyfriend..not sure how to approach my son's father...

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Smurf that lol....I would want to personally meet and form my own opinion of ANYBODY who was going to be around my child for an extended period of time."

I can understand that. But I trust my daughter to tell me what she does over there, she's 4 and I aways question her when she comes back so I know nothing funny is going on.

Quoting Daesey:" I think if you're concerned about his temper & if you have a decent relationship.... it would be ... [snip!] ... to let you know so you didn't find out from other people." And just leave it at that. He doesn't need any more information."

Love this, thank you so much!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squid Kid:</b>" He has a right to know who his child is going to be around, just like you'd want to know if other women were around your son being a "mom" figure."</blockquote>



This

pesonally i feel like you should tell him yea its none of your buisness but if you want him to tell you when he gets a new gf than i would tell him about your bf. This doesnt just effect you and your ex it effects your son as well

From my personal experience,It is respectful to tell your BD just because you would like the same in return especially if he were to ever start dating and bring her around your child. I held off on telling BD until I knew the relationship was going to be long term and worth informing over.
You don't have to tell him who you are dating just yet just that your are in a relationship and you thought you would be courteous and let him know.
Mind you strictly an opinion,every situation is different juts go about it in a way that you are comfortable with.

Imo its not for your SO decide things like that... but If you like him and he's good with your kids why not tell him? Its your life and your bd shouldnt have not one thing to say about the personal decisions you make in your life. So i say tell him! You can also look at it in a sense of ehat if the shoe was on the other foot? I'd wanna know what kind of. Female he's bringing into my child's life.

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Smurf that lol....I would want to personally meet and form my own opinion of ANYBODY who was going to be around my child for an extended period of time."

Ahhhh!!!! Someone like me!!! I picture myself (when he gets a gf) sitting her down and going through a list of quetions about morals and stuff and then doing a back ground check. lol I am very protective of my baby.