Me and hubby have been married almost a year. We've been together almost 3 years. Since the beginning he has been wonderful. Always complenting me even when I know i look disgusting. All the good things a man should do. But now these last couple of weeks to a month he talks to his ex on fb. This ex told him a few weeks ago how she wished she had never left him. She knows he's married. But I've also found where he commenting on pics of girls he doesn't even know. Like one I found she's mexican. She is wearing a bikini top with shorts. HE comments "momma mia you're hot" . He knows I'm self conscious already because I'm fat. He says I look good and sexy the way I am but he goes and tells a skinny girl in a bikini on fb she's hot. How should that make me feel? I also see the conversations with his ex. I found them in the archives. There's nothing inappropriate there but she knows where he works and I've seen her once coming back from where he works. He wasn't there that day but it makes me wonder if she went there just to see if he was. I know this is pointless but why does lil things like this hurt so much?
The only time I would be pissed about a comment on fb is if SO said his ex was hot. That's it And even then, I probably would be mad for like 2 seconds. Do you not think others are hot? I know I do. It doesn't meant he is/will cheat on you.
I understand how you feel.. DH never does that because he KNOWS my problems, and he knows how I feel, and vise versa. Our rule is "don't do anything that would make me uncomfortable, and I wont do anything to make you uncomfortable"
I would definitely talk to him about it, make sure it's civil..make your feelings known. *hug*
Thank you to the ladies who somewhat know where I'm coming from. Worries may be pointless like one said but given my past and past relationships they are not pointless to me. I would have had to write a book just to begin to help you understand why it worries me. And TAM he and his ex has no children. In fact he was a virgin when he met me. He's 7 years younger and I know I thought too he was lying when he said that but he really was. So he and his ex have nothing to talk about like saying. He knows my history with my ex husband because he was there the last 6 months of me and my ex's relationship (as a friend). And I mean since being with him I really don't sit there and say other guys are hot even though another gf of mine would be like "look how hot that guy is". I'm like yea he's ok. I have eyes for my husband only. I know these days they say you can look just don't touch. I don't even wanna look. I'm completely faithful to my husband and I think it's just disrespectful of him to talk to his ex and tell other girls they are hot. I mean he could have told her she is pretty. That wouldn't have bothered me like saying. It's just when you get to those other terms it goes beyond my comfort zone. And yes I did talk to him about the ex problem. I told him it was disrespectful since she is his ex for a reason. She is his past and I would like her to stay there. I didn't bring up the comment about the "hot" girl though.