Disturbing dream about my nephew who passed away.

WARNING!!! The following recounts what happened when my nephew died. ******************************************************
I don't want anyone to be upset by this, I just need to express myself.
I had a dream that was going through the sequence of events the night that he died. Everything was the same as it happened IRL, except one thing. It really smurfed with my mind.  
He was 10 weeks old when he passed away, and this happened in 2011.


I was in the hospital turning the corner to find my nephew, and he was laying on the gurney unconscious, with tubes running through his nose that were filled with blood, with a nurse pushing air into his lungs through a bag type contraption... all while having seizures and convulsions.
My Sister was crying while holding his little hand and asked me to hold his hand and kiss him while she went to make a few calls. When I grabbed him he was ice cold. They were having trouble getting his temperature up. At one point the nurse lifted his heat blanket to adjust it. IRL I saw that his feet were blue/purple and he wasn't moving. In my dream his feet were normal and moving. He wasn't bleeding, wasn't covered in any of his own blood, wasn't blue, wasn't having seizures.

In my dream he never had seizures and woke up two days later from his coma. He came back to us just as perfect as he originally way.

Smurfing smurffy dreams that trick your mind when you wake up.  
Why does that happen!?!?!

Quoting The ℰffin' D!™:" WARNING!!! The following recounts what happened when my nephew died. ****************************************************** ... [snip!] ... as perfect as he originally way. Smurfing smurffy dreams that trick your mind when you wake up.   Why does that happen!?!?!"

Maybe it's your nephew trying to send a message that he wants you to remember him with heealthy moving feet, no blood, no seizures. He wants you to remember the good. Not the last moments you saw him,

Quoting Ryleigh's Mama ♥:" Maybe it's your nephew trying to send a message that he wants you to remember him with heealthy moving ... [snip!] ... him with heealthy moving feet, no blood, no seizures. He wants you to remember the good. Not the last moments you saw him,"

That's a very sweet way to look at it. Thank you for that.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryleigh's Mama ♥:</b>" Maybe it's your nephew trying to send a message that he wants you to remember him with heealthy moving ... [snip!] ... him with heealthy moving feet, no blood, no seizures. He wants you to remember the good. Not the last moments you saw him,"</blockquote>




Awww this could be.. Poor baby  

Omg poor baby.   what caused that?

I had a dream about my friend who was dying 2 days before she died. I expected to see her sickly and when I got to her house she was herself again like she was before she ever got sick. She looked healthy and amazing. What this makes me feel is that it means she is herself again in heaven. Maybe this is what your dream means too. That he is not hurting. He looks normal and beautiful and this is how he wants you to remember him.

Quoting The ℰffin' D!™:" That's a very sweet way to look at it. Thank you for that.  "

You're welcome <3 My mom just passed away & I saw her before the ambulance came & took her away & everything. She died scared.. Her eyes were wide open & mouth open. She died of pneumonia & I googled it like a dumbass, & it's like drowning to death :/

BUT.. a mama on here reminded me that that's not what she would want me to remember. Not those last moments. It really helped. Because I know it's true.

I'm so sorry for your loss <3

I'm so sorry you had that dream. Those kinds of dreams are awful and I'm sure it brought back some really awful memories, and then added some even more disturbing things to your mind.

*hugs* I hope the emotions that I'm sure went along with the dream subside soon. I can't even imagine  

ETA: I mis read at first and I thought the disturbing things like the blood were part of the dream. Sorry for my misunderstanding.

Quoting lolajessup:" Omg poor baby.   what caused that? I had a dream about my friend who was dying 2 days before she died. ... [snip!] ... what your dream means too. That he is not hurting. He looks normal and beautiful and this is how he wants you to remember him."

We really don't know what happened. It's been close to 2 year now, and the coroner never sent an autopsy report. We got a lawyer, the police involved... and so on, but no one knows.  
Some people think my Sister had something to do with it, or her boyfriend. It's sad to say... but she had a lot of issues with PPD.  

I'm sorry that you had a terrible dream like that. But your reasoning makes a lot of sense.

I do like the idea of him sending you a message and your dream not having the traumatic visuals you endured during the actual experience.

That is a comforting way to look at it <3

Quoting Ryleigh's Mama ♥:" You're welcome <3 My mom just passed away & I saw her before the ambulance came & took her ... [snip!] ... want me to remember. Not those last moments. It really helped. Because I know it's true. I'm so sorry for your loss <3"

Oh my gosh, I am so very sorry that you lost your Mom.  

What a terrible way to leave this world. It's heartbreaking to hear such a thing.

Thank you!

<blockquote><b>Quoting The ℰffin' D!™:</b>" We really don't know what happened. It's been close to 2 year now, and the coroner never sent an autopsy ... [snip!] ... a lot of issues with PPD.   I'm sorry that you had a terrible dream like that. But your reasoning makes a lot of sense. "</blockquote>

Oh no   and your sister never said anything about it?

Quoting wombie:" I'm so sorry you had that dream. Those kinds of dreams are awful and I'm sure it brought back some really ... [snip!] ... I mis read at first and I thought the disturbing things like the blood were part of the dream. Sorry for my misunderstanding."

I think my typing is a little out of order today.
When I turned the corner he was covered in blood, but when I saw that his feet were normal I looked at his face and the blood was gone.

Thank you very much. I hope these emotions clear out of my mind at some point today. I hate thinking about that day. He looked so scared and alone.

Quoting wombie:" I do like the idea of him sending you a message and your dream not having the traumatic visuals you endured during the actual experience. That is a comforting way to look at it <3"

It is a nice thing to hear. I really never thought of it that way!

The thing that disturbed me the most wasn't the blood, his ice cold body, or the way he looked.

It was his eyes. IRL his eyes were slightly open and staring at the ceiling. They weren't moving or blinking or even wet with tears.
You could tell that he left us days before they pronounced him dead.

But in my dream his eyes were smiling and looking to me for comfort.  

Quoting The ℰffin' D!™:" I think my typing is a little out of order today. When I turned the corner he was covered in blood, ... [snip!] ... I hope these emotions clear out of my mind at some point today. I hate thinking about that day. He looked so scared and alone. "

:-(

I just can't even fathom what that must have been like for you and your family.