re: is it just me

Quoting Mrs. James:“ The whole book thing.. i think kinda stupid. You dont learn how to parent from books.. it comes from ... [snip!] ... it comes from instinct. like they had books about that back in the old days.. i dont think so and their kids came out fine.”

I AGREE...

ok everyone gets frustrated n yes i no yelling is bad but i just felt very stressed but letting her cry to get myself together was not bad ok im just doing what my doc said n i had child development in high school for two years i no about separation anxiety n all da milestones ive tried all the things but i think she is teething i will cheak when she wakes up cuz she just started being all fussy this week

Quoting Supa-Save- A -n00b:“ I AGREE...”

I know its just common sense its like reading a book on how to live.

Quoting Mrs. James:“ The whole book thing.. i think kinda stupid. You dont learn how to parent from books.. it comes from ... [snip!] ... it comes from instinct. like they had books about that back in the old days.. i dont think so and their kids came out fine.”

Well...since you're one of the people who perceive me to be attacking the OP, I could validate that view and say, "You would think books are stupid, wouldn't you?" But to prove my point that I'm not attacking I'll say this...

Books are an excellent resource for what to expect...not necessarily how to parent. Not knowing what to expect is what can lead to frustration and other serious problems. If you are forewarned w/ knowledge you are more prepared to handle child rearing.

Quoting yoly:“ ok everyone gets frustrated n yes i no yelling is bad but i just felt very stressed but letting her cry ... [snip!] ... tried all the things but i think she is teething i will cheak when she wakes up cuz she just started being all fussy this week”

That is probably what it is. Dont let people put you down as a mom because your a teen mom.. some people cant get past the age thing.

Quoting Mrs. James:“ The whole book thing.. i think kinda stupid. You dont learn how to parent from books.. it comes from ... [snip!] ... it comes from instinct. like they had books about that back in the old days.. i dont think so and their kids came out fine.”

I agree that books don't make good parents. But information can help fill in the gaps where common sense is lacking which unfortunatly is a lot these days. Back in the "old days" they didn't have the information that we do now, nor the abilty to make it as wide spread... what they had was a simpler society with more common sense.

Quoting Mrs. James:“ Thats so funny. Because no matter what when your a new mom you do get frustrated no matter what age. ... [snip!] ... atleast she is trying and not making her parents take care of her kid and etc. I have so much respect for teen moms like you.”

thank u i seariously am doing my best i graduated n am starting college n soon will have a job as a teacher assistent i think i have accomplished alot 4 being a high school drop out

Quoting Mrs. James:“ I know its just common sense its like reading a book on how to live.”

You're not serious, are you?!

If living is so common sense then why is our world in such a predicament today? And "back in the day" children were raised by many people -- you know "it takes a village to raise a child." But today we live in an ever increasing solitary society where common sense is dying out.

i think anyone who says that they have not gotten frustrated at one point is lying. My opinion plain and simple. Its ok what she did, im glad her post was that she let her baby cry it out, as opposed to "i slapped my baby across the face because she wouldnt stop crying".

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ Like I said...it's a cliche about teen moms. And I said it may not apply to her at all. There's no ... [snip!] ... minds and brain chemistry that yes, teen moms sometimes cannot handle the same stress level of child rearing as older moms.”

Well MY DEAR age has nothing to do with being a good or bad mom........ why dont you come talk to me when you baby is a little older. then we will see how you feel about leting you baby cio after he is 6 months.....

Quoting SRQShannon:“ very true... I just wish some of these people would pick up one of those things with pages and words..... ... [snip!] ... Then thet would know about things like separation anxiety and normal growth pattern that can cause irritabilty in children.”

and what about having to care for a child practically all alone and the other circumstances that can cause irritability in ADULTS?

Gosh people she never defended sometimes yelling at her baby, she even stated how upset it made her... it is 100% understandable that she needs a break and setting the baby down to walk away and clear her head and regather her thoughts is the SAFEST and MOST RESPONSIBLE action she could take. Every child care class I took stated this to be true and encouraged us all to take a break whenever we felt it was necessary. Even if it meant lying the baby down, leaving the room and shutting the door and just taking a breather... also what all of my mental health professionals recommended... and yes i said ALL...

First off i dont think your attacking her but your the one that brought up the age thing. and age is just a number to show how many years you have lived on this earth not your experience or maturity. The better way to find out what your going to go through is watchin another baby.. and i had to when i was 12 when my little brother was born so there was no point in me reading those books. Also i can talk to my mom if i want to know something instead of wasting my money.. I do read books.. but books that actually help me. Like school books and interesting books that keep my mind thinking. Im not some stupid 19 year old.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ You're not serious, are you?! If living is so common sense then why is our world in such a predicament ... [snip!] ... takes a village to raise a child." But today we live in an ever increasing solitary society where common sense is dying out.”

The world is the way it is because power has been an issue from the beggining of time. common sense is as it states..common. I dont think she did anything wrong she did what she had to and her child is still alive.

Quoting Supa-Save- A -n00b:“ I AGREE...”

I second that. I completely agreee with informing oneself however to think children come with a manual and its always going to work out like dr. so and so says is kind of naive to me...

Quoting just call me mama:“ Well MY DEAR age has nothing to do with being a good or bad mom........ why dont you come talk to me ... [snip!] ... talk to me when you baby is a little older. then we will she how you fell about letter you baby cio after he is 6 months.....”

she = see
fell = feel

At least in 6 months I'll still be able to spell...
Oh, and I never said that age equals a good or bad mom. Why don't you go back and read carefully? Mmkay? I've been around kids all my life. I know how to handle them. Just b/c my son is only 11 weeks old does not mean I'm w/o experience...nice of you to assume that though.