|We work things out|
|We ignore the problem|
Quoting TantricLemons:" The "problems" we have that aren't getting addressed are pretty big. Its things about us. Like honestly, ... [snip!] ... after hiding it for a while. It was my fault because I didn't know, I mean they were always in his pocket, I just didnt notice."
Quoting TantricLemons:" I am actually a really big communicator I word things in the most non-threatening ways ever. But he always ... [snip!] ... cant talk through things, that we need counseling. I am sure he is going to start fighting with me about me even saying that."
Quoting MommyToWesley:" We always talk about and resolve the issue. It's the only way a relationship can remain healthy IMO. ... [snip!] ... just let major things slide, though, so we started talking about them. Our relationship improved by leaps and bounds after."
Quoting Chim Richalds:" I used to be just like him . My husband made it clear that my lack of accountability and constantly ... [snip!] ... him was ruining our relationship, so I worked on it a lot and now ...6 years later, I sometimes think we have switched roles."
Quoting sassy chef:" DH has been more difficult to talk to since his PTSD has really flew into high gear, so *hugs*. I know it can be hard."He REALLY triggers my PTSD to. It is sooooo hard to talk about my problems it leaves me feeling so anxious and scared before hand. Then if I get screamed at when I open my mouth and finally do it... it just reinforces my fears
Quoting TantricLemons:" He is texting me and I am literally afraid to look @ it. if he attacks me for saying that I need communication in this relationship I will cry. I can't deal with that one more time."I am so sorry you have to go through this and I hope you guys can find a way to effectively communicate with each other.
Quoting Daenerys™:" I am so sorry you have to go through this and I hope you guys can find a way to effectively communicate with each other."I get this anxious feeling of dread and it probably wont go away all day because i know he is going to drag this out
Quoting TantricLemons:" He REALLY triggers my PTSD to. It is sooooo hard to talk about my problems it leaves me feeling so anxious ... [snip!] ... and scared before hand. Then if I get screamed at when I open my mouth and finally do it... it just reinforces my fears "
Quoting TantricLemons:" I get this anxious feeling of dread and it probably wont go away all day because i know he is going to drag this out "I can relate to you and I know that it is no fun. I wish I had better advice but when things get rough, remember to just breathe. It's amazing how a few deep breaths can sometimes help anxious feelings subside.
Quoting gina cline:" Well I feel men will be men and some times to get them to listen you have to withhold the pussy cat! ... [snip!] ... it does cause for him to learn to talk to his wife even bad talks make for a marraige that has communication!!!!!! GOOD LOOK!"I don't agree with using sex as a bargaining tool. There needs to be mutual respect and a level of communication in a relationship IMO.