re: Should it be completely up to him?

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" Obviously, his body, his choice... It would be hypocritical to say it was wrong when a woman can choose ... [snip!] ... agreed upon before any big decisions like these are made. Having or not having children affect two people in a committment."

 

DH says if she wants another baby to go to another man whilethey are married so he can get his vasectomy.

I say they need to come to an agreement on the situation. We have talked about it but are waiting as we decided all or nothing. We both get fixed or neither of us. However we arent sure if we are done havibg our own kids yet.

If my husband went and got one done without me agreeing to it, I would be highly upset with him and i'm sure he would be the same if I got fixed without his agreement. In my opinion marriage is a 2 way street and getting fixed is a big thing and should be agreed upon between both parties, you should care what the other one has to say because you could really end up hurting them, if they are not done having kids and you are then they are and you go get the procedure done anyways, then they are more likely to go and find someone else that will either father or mother THEIR child. My ex's sister and brother in-law both agreed upon getting her fixed after their 3rd when she was in her mid 20's, they both later regretted it because they wanted more and eventually it was a big part of why they got a divorce