Little boy at school touched my daughter :/

I feel awkward and uncomfortable even WRITING this out buttttt, I really need some advice. BADLY.

My 5 yr old told my brother (her uncle) while he was tickling her to play with her "area" too. He felt uncomfortable and basically didn't want to be around her the rest of the day.

I get off work and no one tells me anything about it until this morning... my brother says he really wants to talk to me. He tells me what she had said, and I immediately start to freak out a bit.

SHE KNOWWSSSSS, we've gone over it like a bunch of times, about no one being allowed to touch her privates, and I'll ask her, "ok and if someone does, what do you do?" and she says, "I scream! I run away! I tell someone!"

So when I asked her this morning about it, she said no one had touched her. So I tell her, "Well, it's ok to tell on someone if they are touching you there and tell them to stop," and THATS when she says, "But what if we're playing on the playground."

I think I might have done something or reacted in a way that shut her down, because then I started asking her if that's where it happened and when, etc... and she just stopped talking to me.

SOOOO, the ex (her dad) comes to pick her up to drive her to school, and I told him everything and said I wanted him to talk to the teacher about this when he drops her off. I put her in the car, and give her kiss, and tell her I love her and not to be scared to tell me whats going on, and right as I'm about to shut the door, her eyes well up with tears, and she says she doesn't want to go to school.

Well now, the ex is like NOOOO, we need to talk to the teacher.

Ex calls me and on the ride to school, Arianna tells him that a little boy named Hayden put his finger "down there". I don't know how long this has been going on, but I just posted about Arianna's behavior changing, about her not doing as well in kindergarten now, etc... and now I'm thinking this might have happened before!! Maybe even a few times...

So he talks to the teacher and she basically thanks him for bringing it to her attention, that boys will be boys, sometimes they rough house, and maybe Arianna was bumped there, etc... but she will definitely look into it.

The ex, feels like that is totally ok, and says that I'm blowing it out of proportion.

TO MEEEEE, this sounds like the teacher is making a bunch of excuses.


This is NOTTTTT normal right?!!!! Boys will be boys?! What does that mean when my daughter doesn't want to go to school because some little boy touched her.

I WANTTTT to get in touch with this boys parents, I wantttttt SOMEEEE reassurance this won't happen again.. I'm 2 seconds away from taking her out of this school, I don't care if its one of the best in the area... not when my daughters safety is being compromised..

Am I blowing this out of proportion? What would you do???? I need to know what the smurf to think because I haven't been able to calm down since I found out.

Hell no you are not blowing this out of proportion. I would be marching to that school and demanding they find out what's going on or I get the police involved.

Hell smurfing no. I'd be storming into that school demanding to talk to the principal, school board, the other kid's parents, school psychologist, whatever it took to get to the bottom of it.

I'm sorry if I missed this, but was it another boy the same age? Kids do play "Dr" and things like that at a young age. She might be upset now more due to the reaction then because the boy actually hurt her or something. . .

I'd talk to the Dr and talk to her about it, but don't make it a big deal. Kids thrive off of what we say or feel, so she might feel that is was bad because of your reaction even if it didn't bother her at the time, you know?

I don't think you're overreacting, if my daughter was crying not wanting to go to school because someone touched her privates and the teacher said "boys will be boys" that would piss me off even if she said she would look into it. I would be going in and talking to her myself.

No, you arent blowing it out of proportion. Boys will not be boys. Thats the sickest smurfing thing I've ever heard. I would take it to the principle, school board...I wouldnt stop until I had answers and a solution.

I would punch the teacher in the face, && take my daughter out of that school asap!! If you feel as if your daughter's safety is being jeoperdize(sp?) even if its a kid, pull her out..

I think this needs to be taken care of fast. Even when your dd is gone, he can find another girl to do it to.

Quoting she nan igans:" I'm sorry if I missed this, but was it another boy the same age? Kids do play "Dr" and things like that ... [snip!] ... we say or feel, so she might feel that is was bad because of your reaction even if it didn't bother her at the time, you know?"

It is another boy her age, and honestly I'm just really confused at the moment because my daughter comes before ANYTHING.. but at the same time I know I have to keep in mind this is another little boy too...

I just don't feel like at 5 years there should be anything like that going on.

I'd be contacting the principle. That is not a situation whee you'd say BOYS WILL BE BOYS. Stand your ground, mama, trust your instincts. If you need to, pull her out, bring her to a councelor, etc. I'm sorry you have to go through this  

Is be freaking out too, and sounds like that boy had been touched before as well. Fight the smurf out of this and switch schools.

That is hands-down the stupidest thing I've ever heard.

I would be going up the ladder, principal then Superintendent. If the school has a school psychologist or nurse, I would get them involved as well.

My ass would be down at the school demanding to speak to the principle.
That is not right, at all. The teacher saying "boys will be boys" is not the right answer. I'm so sorry this has happened to your little girl.

Quoting Nigel Thornberry:" I don't think you're overreacting, if my daughter was crying not wanting to go to school because someone ... [snip!] ... will be boys" that would piss me off even if she said she would look into it. I would be going in and talking to her myself. "

  maybe go in tomorrow (even if Ricky has her) and ask to meet with the principal your self. Ugh. I'm sorry! I would freak out. Have you talked to her? Will she give your more details?

Quoting Aracely!!:" I would punch the teacher in the face, && take my daughter out of that school asap!! If you feel as if your daughter's safety is being jeoperdize(sp?) even if its a kid, pull her out.."

Yeah because assaulting a teacher would solve it...