re: Little boy at school touched my daughter :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" exactly why I posted that as the mother of a little boy I am offended. Offended that people brush ... [snip!] ... brush this smurf off like it is completely normal behaviour just because they are males   Ughhh I could go on & on, lol."</blockquote>




The best you can do is raise him to be a good man to counteract smurf thinking like this  

What bothers me the most is that the little boy could ALSO be a victim but she gives no smurfs and would rather brush it off as him being a "boy."

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" exactly why I posted that as the mother ... [snip!] ... on, lol."</blockquote> The best you can do is raise him to be a good man to counteract smurf thinking like this  "

true... it's going good SO far... lol

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:</b>" didn't even put it in that p ... [snip!] ... football kids who gang raped that poor girl after she passed out drunk at a party, too. Makes me terrified for my daughters."

  

Its freaking disgusting.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" What bothers me the most is that the little boy could ALSO be a victim but she gives no smurfs and would rather brush it off as him being a "boy.""

Agree with this too.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... she passed out drunk at a party, too. Makes me terrified for my daughters."</blockquote> I thought she was drugged?"</blockquote>




The initial reports said she was drunk. I was too sick by the whole thing to follow it, but it wouldn't have surprised me at all  

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" What bothers me the most is that the little boy could ALSO be a victim but she gives no smurfs and would rather brush it off as him being a "boy.""

Oh he probably is, or his guardians have a lot of sex in front of him.

Are you serious?! No, you are not overreacting, at all! First off, this boy must have learned this behavior from somewhere and someone that he knows. Five year old don't usually just do that. I would be so upset if the teacher told me what they told you. Really? Boys will be boys? How would they like it if their child was touched inappropriately like that and got the same response? Probably would not react well. I really hope you get some answers and quickly.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, ... [snip!] ... reports said she was drunk. I was too sick by the whole thing to follow it, but it wouldn't have surprised me at all  "</blockquote>




Last thing I heard is that they purposely druggesld her and plannes tgis to punish.her for breaking up with one of the guys

i wouldnt assume he was being touched or was around people doing it in front of him.. it could of been something he saw on tv or watched in a movie..

talk to the principle.. come up with a plan of action.. maybe keeping the two on different sides of the class for the rest of the year (3 or 4 months left)

and find out the whole story.. not saying your daughter is guilty but alot of times like i said it could of been they played dr or something.. the teacher just need to be reminded boys will be boys when it comes to skinned knees and plays army men but boys shouldn't be boys when it comes to sexual behavior

I would go into the school and talk to the principal. She's obviously upset and you need to figure out what's going on. Maybe it was a misunderstanding, but maybe it wasn't.

If it was my kid, I would rather be known as the meddlesome parent than the parent of a kid who was being molested and did nothing about it.

I think your reaction is normal. To me it would be extremely bothersome and I would probably feel the same way you do. BUT I found out recently from a therapist that this is a somewhat common occurrence especially when it comes to siblings close in age. On the other hand if your DD is reacting in a negative way and doesn't want to go to school makes it sound like she isn't as curious as the boy. How old is the boy?

Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" I think your reaction is normal. To me it would be extremely bothersome and I would probably feel the ... [snip!] ... in a negative way and doesn't want to go to school makes it sound like she isn't as curious as the boy. How old is the boy?"

He's her age, 5.

I think she doesn't know what to feel about it, because I've told her about touching there is not allowed, and now she has me asking questions..

Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" He's her age, 5. I think she doesn't know what to feel about it, because I've told her about touching there is not allowed, and now she has me asking questions.."

Maybe she feels like she did something wrong?

If I were you I would talk to a professional to see how to proceed with this. This is such a sensitive subject, I am sorry you are dealing with this.

While I've not had to deal with this particular situation, I DID just have something just as serious happen with my 7 year old DS.

He told me one morning that a kid in his class was threatening to kill him if DS didn't bring toys to school to play with. (DS had been getting in trouble for hiding toys in his backpack and lying about it for weeks). I asked DS to tell me exactly what happened and I would talk to the school about it (he was being threatened while at his school-sanctioned after school program but DS and the boy were also in the same classroom).

I called and left a message with the afte school director who in turn spoke with the classroom teacher. Both adults questioned the boys individually. DS had details (the week prior the kid threatened to slap him in the face amongst othe things) and of course, the other kid denied anything. Other kid's backpack was checked (only had snow pants), principal was informed, and the other kid's mom was informed (and subsequently had a meeting with everyone at school about it).

Other kid was suspended from the after school program for a day and was put on restriction for a week. He also wrote letters of apology to DH and I and to DS. In our case, it was a he said/he said. I can't guarantee exactly what happened and neither can anyone else, but regardless there had been SOME grain of truth in DS's story.

I didn't want to over-react, nor did I want to under-react; the kids involved are 2nd graders (7 and 8 years old). The other kid has no history of bad behavior, nor does my DS. I definitely didn't want the other kid "labelled" but I also wanted my DS to know that if he had a problem, I would do my best to solve it. Since then, there have been no other incidents and DS's behavior, attitude, and even his appetite are back to normal. That group of boys is watched a little more closely at recess and after school program. But NEVER did anyone make me feel like I SHOULDN'T have said something and they took the accusation seriously from the minute they found out.