re: Is it an Elective c-Section?

Quoting Honey&E:" Obviously you haven't really had the full labor experience - it is hard to tell what your body will ... [snip!] ... recommend doing some research and going from there. I switched from an OB to a midwife at 28 weeks in my first pregnancy. "

I thought about a mid wife, but am unsure how expensive that would be. and I'm guessing insurance will not pay for that right?
I've heard amazing things about them though.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" Oh I didn't know it expands. My mom says he just keeps making excuses and that she finds it sickening. ... [snip!] ... dialated with my two year old, but my mom said no progress at 39 weeks is normal and that was just another excuse on his part."</blockquote>


Not dilating before active labor is pretty normal, especially for first time mothers. I went to 42 weeks with my first and never dilated at all before I was in active labor, and I have VERY narrow hips an delivered him naturally. Didn't even tear, and he was 8lbs 1oz. With my second I didn't dilate at all before labor and again delivered naturally, no tearing and she was 9lbs even at 41 weeks.

If you want a vaginal delivery, you CAN have one. Just find a doctor who is willing to give you a chance.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" I thought about a mid wife, but am unsure how expensive that would be. and I'm guessing insurance will not pay for that right? I've heard amazing things about them though."</blockquote>




What insurance do you have? Some insurance does cover midwives. Some will cover them only in a birthing center, not a hospital. Some don't cover anything but a doctor/hospital birth. I would discuss it with your insurance provider.

But even if they don't cover widwivery, you can search for a doctor who will allow you to try a vbac if that is what you want.

Quoting Nikita Rowsell:" Well, when it all boils down to it, it's your body and your baby. I know in the states it is harder ... [snip!] ... vbac. Also, it is important to understand that c-sections are more risky for both the mom and the baby in a healthy pregnancy."

I will do some research.
If I did switch, I think I might like a midwife maybe.

Quoting MommaSav2:" I'm with your mom and your perinatologist and mom on this one. Having a vance has its risks and not every ... [snip!] ... hospital or doctor allows women to try, but having a c section because "your pelvis is too narrow" is such a load of crap."

I wonder if the hospital I am delivering at allows them or not. He didn't say if they did or didn't, gonna look into that.

Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" Oh I didn't know it expands. My mom says ... [snip!] ... even at 41 weeks. If you want a vaginal delivery, you CAN have one. Just find a doctor who is willing to give you a chance."

My two year old was 5 pounds 14 OZ at birth, so if you can have those bigger babies I probably could have had her.
I think the c-section with her might have been needed because of the drop in heartbeat, but will for sure look into not doing a c-section again.

Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" I thought about a mid wife, but am ... [snip!] ... But even if they don't cover widwivery, you can search for a doctor who will allow you to try a vbac if that is what you want."

I have Antham

Blue Cross PPO as a primary, and Medi-Cal (state insurance) as a secondary.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" I wonder if the hospital I am delivering at allows them or not. He didn't say if they did or didn't, gonna look into that."</blockquote>




My hospital didn't allow them for liability/insurance reasons. You need to research if your chosen hospital allows them.

My current OB and hospital will allow me to try since risks are the same for a 3rd c/s and a VBA2C. My plan is to try the VBA2C and if anything looks "wrong" during delivery, we'll do the c/s. A healthy baby is my goal and you don't get a gold star for pushing one out your vag vs having a section. Plus it's not like it matters HOW the baby gets here, nobody'll say to your kid, "oh, you were a c/s? I don't want to be your friend."  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" My two year old was 5 pounds 14 OZ at birth, so if you can have those bigger babies I probably could ... [snip!] ... with her might have been needed because of the drop in heartbeat, but will for sure look into not doing a c-section again."</blockquote>




DS was an emergency c/s due to fetal distress; his heart rate went down and didn't come back up. Had we not done the c/s right THEN he would have died.

Quoting Two Princesses:" My fiance seems to feel it's what is best. He said the perinatologist rubbed him the wrong way. I guess acting like he knows it all and such."

See I feel the opposite of you fiance lol I feel like you ob is being a no it all and your peri is trying to let you know that a c-section is not your only option. It is solely up to you in the end though. If you feel more comfortable with a c-section go that way but if you want to try for a vbac find a dr that will support that.

ETA - Based on what you have told us that is.

Quoting Two Princesses:" I thought about a mid wife, but am unsure how expensive that would be. and I'm guessing insurance will not pay for that right? I've heard amazing things about them though."

My midwife is a CNM - certified nurse midwife. She delivers at hospitals and it completely covered by my insurance. (I'm a teacher - so I have pretty good insurance.) My midwife is amazing she was with me during my daughter's labor and supported me through my c-section. She is helping me get to a VBAC this time.

Quoting Two Princesses:" I wonder if the hospital I am delivering at allows them or not. He didn't say if they did or didn't, gonna look into that."

There are a lot of hospitals and OBs that don't support VBAC. I believe it's not because it's safer but because it is easier for them.

Whatever you decide - don't feel guilty if you have a c-section. It is your choice.

Quoting clay matthews:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" I wonder if the hospital I am delivering ... [snip!] ... like it matters HOW the baby gets here, nobody'll say to your kid, "oh, you were a c/s? I don't want to be your friend."  "

On the bright side if I do get a second CS he has agreed to tie my tubes for free. So thatwould be the only thing that would make me think twice about electing for a vaginal birth as long as I were healthy enough.

Quoting Two Princesses:" On the bright side if I do get a second CS he has agreed to tie my tubes for free. So thatwould be the ... [snip!] ... thatwould be the only thing that would make me think twice about electing for a vaginal birth as long as I were healthy enough."

Can't beat free!!! Hot damn! lol