Falling apart

Yes SO and i are recently engaged, but lately i feel like there is this massive gap between us, and its growing by the day.
He very rarely talks to me anymore, and if i do try to make conversation all i get is short and sweet answers. I dont know what to do, but its honestly killing me inside. I love this man to death.
I know that having a new baby in the house can be a stressful time, but tbh, he doesnt have to do anything with the baby. I feel so blessed to have a new LO in the house, and this is suppose to be a happy time, but it feels nothing like that. Its putting so much pressure on us, not just as a couple but as a family too.
Im trying my hardest to keep both him and all 3 kids happy, but im afraid im failing.....terribly.

I really dont know what to do. I just had to get it off my chest.

What does he do to make you feel loved & appreciated? Really think of it from his point of view.

What does he do to help you with the baby? Directly and indirectly.

I would tell him straight up that, y'all are falling apart. That y'all don't talk and that's really all you want, Is to talk! Ask him if y'all can have a date night type thing so y'all can reconnect. If you not have the money or anyone to watch the kids, make them dinner put them to bed and do a dinner with just you and SO

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" What does he do to make you feel loved & appreciated? Really think of it from his point of view. What does he do to help you with the baby? Directly and indirectly."</blockquote>

Honestly.....I don't feel loved and appreciated.
And as far as helping with the baby.....not a whole lot. LO is formula fed, but I do all the feeds. I bathe him, change him, settle him. I know that's what I'm suppose to do as a mother, but at the same time I'm juggling 2 other kids and that's what kills me. My oldest son and I were really close, but now that LO is here I don't get to spend time with him anymore. SO and him used to be real close too, but now it's like he has no time for any of the kids. All he does is yell at them.
I don't know anymore, I just feel like my whole family is falling apart, and it's all my fault coz I wanted another baby.

<blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" What does he do to make you feel loved & appreciated? ... [snip!] ... I don't know anymore, I just feel like my whole family is falling apart, and it's all my fault coz I wanted another baby."</blockquote>




You don't seem like you really thought about it or made an effort to answer each question.

I can't really give my input unless you give the issue the attention from both sides that it needs. You can solve a problem if you can't see both sides or articulate it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... the issue the attention from both sides that it needs. You can solve a problem if you can't see both sides or articulate it."</blockquote>


Sorry I don't get what you mean.
My head is far from clear at the moment, and I'm having trouble thinking straight.