re: Why do people care....

Quoting Vile Tramp:" Well if that's what she believes, then you shouldn't really be surprised, friend or not. My OWN sister, ... [snip!] ... If you don't do it, then by default, you are welcoming her comments, and enabling her to comment on them as she sees fit. "

I have 2 kids and my nickname in my family is The Breeder lol.

Quoting Supafly★:" I have 2 kids and my nickname in my family is The Breeder lol."

Lol. My family's "limit" is 2 or so it seems. A lot of my Aunts and Uncles only have 1 or 2 kids. So having more then that makes people go  .

Except my one aunt who has 4, but her second ended up being twins, and then her last one was after a vasectomy that didn't take. And by didn't take I mean they went at it before they had his sperm checked.  . Their twins and fourth are 1 year TO THE DATE apart.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" We all pay the same taxes, but as a legal single mom you do get some breaks that married couples don't. ... [snip!] ... and marriage is a tradition, so things like that are hard for others to understand when people don't share the same views."</blockquote>




Like what? I dont get any benefits being a "single" mom. I dont claim my kidds on taxes i dont have student loans.. I dont have govert assistance besides my own medicaid and thatis because im NOT married. But my SO is included ineverything i do.. I work like 16 hours a week if that so obviously we dont live off my income.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" We all pay the same taxes, but as a legal single ... [snip!] ... married. But my SO is included ineverything i do.. I work like 16 hours a week if that so obviously we dont live off my income."</blockquote>




Why don't you claim your children on your taxes? Whoever does gets a tax break.

If it's really bothering you then you either need to confront her or delete her altogether (or both). She might not have a clue that any of this is creating friction.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vile Tramp:</b>" Well if that's what she believes, then you shouldn't really be surprised, friend or not. My OWN sister, ... [snip!] ... If you don't do it, then by default, you are welcoming her comments, and enabling her to comment on them as she sees fit. "</blockquote>




Yeah i know. If i block her though or undpfriend her it will be awkwrds at play dates, she is a mom in theplay group we meet up with.. Ugh oh well im over it

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... live off my income."</blockquote> Why don't you claim your children on your taxes? Whoever does gets a tax break."</blockquote>




Becuae i make SO littler i was told by H and R block my SO should claim them and he does, and we get our tax break there.. Im lucky if i get any money back at all, its like 30 bucks and i pay for state lol..

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" ... [snip!] ... he does, and we get our tax break there.. Im lucky if i get any money back at all, its like 30 bucks and i pay for state lol.."</blockquote>




Then he gets a tax break. I'm not saying that's bad, but using taxes as an example isn't the best comparison because single parents do get a lot more back in taxes than married couples. Not saying that's a bad thing....just saying.

Quoting Vile Tramp:" Lol. My family's "limit" is 2 or so it seems. A lot of my Aunts and Uncles only have 1 or 2 kids. ... [snip!] ... take I mean they went at it before they had his sperm checked.  . Their twins and fourth are 1 year TO THE DATE apart.  "

Whoa that's crazy. I couldn't handle that. But just because I can't doesn't mean someone else can't. 2 kids is my family's limit too. I told my mom I may have another in a couple years and she's like, how many are you planning on having?? Um, 3 lol.

That's if DH and I decide to have another.....right now because of the baby we're thinking maybe not lol.

Quoting Supafly★:" Whoa that's crazy. I couldn't handle that. But just because I can't doesn't mean someone else can't. ... [snip!] ... Um, 3 lol. That's if DH and I decide to have another.....right now because of the baby we're thinking maybe not lol. "

Lol. If I was still with Dan, I'd considered having another, you know my desire to have a girl! But smurf that, I don't feel like started over completely new and adding another kid to the mix.

My sister use to ask me that all the time? " How many do you plan on having!?!?" I would just tell her 13.  

Quoting Vile Tramp:" Lol. If I was still with Dan, I'd considered having another, you know my desire to have a girl! But ... [snip!] ... to the mix. My sister use to ask me that all the time? " How many do you plan on having!?!?" I would just tell her 13.  "

Yeah once Victor actually starts sleeping I don't think I'd ever want to go through this again, but I'll probably change my mind once I've gotten a good year of sleep in.   I told DH that no baby could be harder to handle than DS so let's not rule it out lol.

My brother is 28 and keeps saying he and SIL are going to have a baby but I don't think he wants one at all....but SIL wants one so bad.

I love how in my family, I get pregnant and 19 and it's    
But my uncle can have a kid at 50 and oh my god, it's the most wonderful awesome thing to do. WTF?

Quoting Supafly★:" Yeah once Victor actually starts sleeping I don't think I'd ever want to go through this again, but ... [snip!] ... and 19 and it's     But my uncle can have a kid at 50 and oh my god, it's the most wonderful awesome thing to do. WTF?"

Lol.

I was surprised at the positive feedback my MIL got when she was pregnant at 42.  . Not that, that's to old or anything, but I figured people would at least act concerned, or something.

It's to cold out, I have smurf to do, don't wanna do it at all... Trying to get ahold of douchebag mcgillicutty, and it's not working.  

Quoting Vile Tramp:" Lol. I was surprised at the positive feedback my MIL got when she was pregnant at 42.  . Not ... [snip!] ... out, I have smurf to do, don't wanna do it at all... Trying to get ahold of douchebag mcgillicutty, and it's not working.  "

Great. Do you HAVE to talk to him? Well I guess that's a dumb question, I don't see why you'd want to lol.

At work, my co-workers SIL got pregnant at 44 and everyone was thrilled. It wasn't an oopsie either, they used IVF and everything. I got pregnant and they were all like.....are considering abortion? You're only 22.   I'm like WTF, no. And I already have a kid so it's not like I'm new at it.
I don't understand how it's more acceptable to have a kid and be in a nursing home by the time the kid graduates high school, than to be in your 30's when the kid graduates and still be alive to see your grandchildren. Whateverrrr lol.