Bitter or just a bitch?

My little sister is 20 years old & the youngest out of 4 girls. She recently had a baby girl that was born prematurely due to placental abruption/previa. Baby girl is doing well enough she was taken off the ventilator this weekend. The baby daddy has another child from a previous relationship but isn't allowed to be apart of his son's life.. My mother put up with the BD and they seem to get along for the most part during LS pregnancy, but now that the baby is here, she has been extremely bitter towards him. In fact, the day LS came home from the hospital after her c-section, our mom was so bitter towards the BD, she made LS cry. I had gone upstairs to help LS get comfortable to pump and her BD came into the room. We were just talking when our mom came in the room and told BD to, "get the F*#% out of this room..you've caused enough problems" and he left. We didn't see him for a couple of hours and when he returned he didn't talk to anyone. Someone will say something here and there when mom gets out of line, but she just thinks she has every right to act bitter because her daughter got pregnant. We try to ignore her, but the more we do the worse it gets. She's actually made LS cry twice and I feel so bad for her.. I just want to take out my frustrations but I hold on to it.. please do not quote LS does NOT deserve this treatment..we've been talking about getting a place for awhile and had talked to our old landlord a few weeks ago about renting house for him but LS doesn't want to move out..I seriously do not think it would be in LS or my nieces best interest to be around here when everyone finally gets settled in..what can you do?

Sounds like mom is a royal Bee, and I hate to say that about your mom yet how I see it. As for what to do, not much you can do it has to be your sisters choice she should tell mom to shove it, and being 20 it was her choice to get pregant either by choice or not mom should just accept and move on, and be proud dad is trying to be part of baby's life.

  Your mom is way out of line. Your sister isn't a baby. She's 20 years old. I was 20 when I got pregnant with DS and if my mom had said ANYTHING like that to DH I would have never spoken to her again. We weren't married at the time and had barely been dating. Now we have another one on the way and own our own house and I'm barely 23. IMO 20 is perfectly old enough to make your own decisions and take care of yourself and a family and your mom needs to back off. If your sister doesn't want to move out there isn't much you can do. I would be dying to get out of there if I were her, though.

Ur mom needs to be checked, like seriously...

My bd, beat the smurf out of me, denyed baby, blamed me for his birth defect, would threaten me and my family, and my mom still tried to support me when he went to prison and I was working thru getting over him, and moving on, then became our mediator for visitations...

She never liked him, but her love for her grandson was stronger then her dislike of david...

Can u talk to ur mother about how this will effect how her grandchild will feel 1 day... I remember no one liked my dad, he died when I was 3 almost 4, when they were getting me ready for service my godmother told me we were going to say bye to my daddy, not that he deserved it   I, love my godmother, but I will never respect her for saying that to a lil girl, and she dosnt deny to this day she said that and ment it..

1. your sister is an adult, so your mom should have no say in her relationship, even if she doesn't approve of the guy. she chose to have a baby with him, not your mom. in this case I would say your mom is just being a bitch... at least he is trying to be there for her.
but...
2. your sister was pregnant, living with your mom, as an adult. she has the choice to move out and stop subjecting herself and her BD to this and isn't. maybe your mom thinks she is immature, and BD isn't doing his part or she/they wouldn't be living with her...

You think the reason why your mom is acting that way is because she has resentment over him because of the health issues with your sister and is blaming him for it because he got her pregnant? You guys need to sit her down and talk to her and make her realize as long as the BD wants to be apart of your sisters life and his childs life then she has no say and needs to back off because they are adults, I just read this to my mom and she said she would probably be acting the same way if that had happened to either me or my sister

Does she have any good reason not to like him? My little sister is also 20 and also the youngest of 4 girls...we all HATE her fiance. But he's a worthless piece of smurf.

If your sister's bf hasn't done anything to her then your mom is just being a bitch.

Eh, your sister might technically be an adult but 20 is still awfully young. Most mothers still act protective of their children at that point. While her reaction was misguided and unnecessary I can totally understand her being emotional about her 20 year old daughter having a baby with some guy who can't even see his other child. She was definitely in the wrong for being so rude and quite honestly her antics aren't going to accomplish anything but I get her disdain.

If I were your sister I would sit my mom down and tell her how she is making me feel. I would also remind her that while this is a very emotional time for everyone involved there is no way being so rude is going to accomplish anything other than making everyone feel like crap.

Good luck.