re: So over this wishing I knew what to do....really long Vent

Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" i had a diseased gallbladder and an infant to take care of so the past year we havent had the most sex. ... [snip!] ... happen lol. i dont care if he looks at other women hell i do too sometimes lol. its not healthy the way he is treating you"

I am sorry to hear that :/! If I had the same problem it wouldn't matter. And honestly I wouldn't give a rats ass if he watched it and was truthful with me. If he was telling me the real truth instead of just saying I am not in the mood then I would just be like whatever as long as he tried sometimes just for my sake since he can take care of his needs if he needs to. But no it's not healthy :/ I am ready to have this baby and find a job or for him to hurry up and start working again. Not because of money because my bills are paid regardless but because I do need time away from him apparently.

if you had time away from him he would probably talk to women he sounds like the type. you can either sit him down and make him listen or threaten to kick him out until he listens or either leave or kick him out and show him you are serious

Quoting £egendary £ex:" I really don't feel like it is always the woman's joke to cook... maybe that's just me, idk. My man ... [snip!] ... you're not pregnant, then how is it 'unprotected' sex lol? Is he really going to refuse to do it unless he wears a condom...? "

It truly does suck!! I just want this pregnancy to hurry and finish! And I wish he would meet me halfway. If he would just fix some of my needs sometimes it'd be great, and I'd be one happy person more then I am now. I mean hell at the beginning of our relationship well the sex part of the relationship I swear I had so much fun, but sometimes I even wanted breaks because he was all over me ALL the time, and then (this might sound bad) 9 months later we found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. I mean yes we weren't together for a long time but I did want a baby of course I know when he is here I will then probably realize it'd be easier if I'd finished college first, but I WOULDN'T change it for the world! And as far as my bc goes ummm I don't know if he realizes I am def. going on bc afterwards! I told him pay back to me from him sucks (he claims this is also pay back for how I wouldn't in the beginning, even though I did) and I told him I am going to stop asking for sex at all, and when those 6 weeks after I have him goes by he will realize pay back will be a bigger bitch for him then it was for me. When I hurt or my vag hurts I don't like having sex, and since I am having a natural birth, I won't want sex until it heals I know that for sure! So he will wish he hadn't been this way to me :/. But as for the bc I haven't talked to him much about going on it. I plan to though like the Nuva ring or the patch one!

Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" if you had time away from him he would probably talk to women he sounds like the type. you can either ... [snip!] ... and make him listen or threaten to kick him out until he listens or either leave or kick him out and show him you are serious"

I mean I have NEVER seen him SOOO damn clingy! He won't have sex but oh my gosh now that he doesn't work he wants to be around me 24/7! Like if we are home and I come back to the room just to be by myself or to clean clothes or hang up more of the babies clothes he asks me why I am not in there with him or why don't I come watch the movie or he just constantly pesters me. It's kind of nice to have him wanting me near him, but I know that what you said is probably right. I know when he works he talks with his co-workers but he's not the type to try "talking, talking" to a woman when I am not around. He might have a conversation but the whole time I have known him he's never been a huge flirt, he would just look from a distance and I'd know it. But I am just not going to push him to have sex with me or what not, I am going to just do what he is doing not care for his needs like he hasn't for me