re: So over this wishing I knew what to do....really long Vent

I cook and clean all day SO works all day supperis made for him when he gets home.....sometimes he asks if I can get him pop or something even though he was just in the kitchen I tell him no lol when he wasn't working he would play CoD all day sooo annoying but your man sounds like he is being a big baby and needs to grow up.... I think you also need to stand up for yourself a bit and tell him to get of his ass and cook/get his own snacks ...I understand that when he's working sure you can cook him supper w/e but he's home all day and more then capable of getting his own Popsicles


As for the porn thing straight up ask him So tried hiding it from me an I didn't like that so i asked him about it and tan to him now he doesn't do it as much

I really hope you figure everything out

Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:" The whole popsicle thing, I just needed to vent on that one since it's just driving me crazy. I know ... [snip!] ... bother me. But he doesn't. It just drives me nuts. And the other stuff just drives me insane so I needed to get that out there."

If you haven't already, you really need to sit down & talk to him about this smurf. You two are in a relationship together & have a child on the way, there is no reason he should be making fun of your body & stretch marks like that & saying things like "mooo." I mean... really?   He sounds about 5 yrs old. It really isn't healthy for him to degrade you like that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" When you get into fights do you call him names and talk to other guys to make him jealous?"</blockquote>




No I just try to ignore him because I have said some really mean things that I've regretted, so I try not to get to that point. He honestly has put up with a lot from me, and I end up feeling so bad after. But that was a long time ago and now we really don't fight that much, and if we do its something stupid. And I have talked to other guys to make him mad before ( long time ago) but because I was jealous that he used to be friends with mostly girls, so I didn't think it was fair. But for the past like 3 years we have been really good.

Quoting My Widdle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" When you get into fights do you call him names ... [snip!] ... he used to be friends with mostly girls, so I didn't think it was fair. But for the past like 3 years we have been really good."

It's good that you don't do either anymore, but you shouldn't ignore him when you're upset. You have to work on communication.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" It's good that you don't do either anymore, but you shouldn't ignore him when you're upset. You have to work on communication. "</blockquote>




Yeah he wants to talk it out, but I know how easily angered I get and I just try to avoid saying things ill regret, but yes lately we have been able to talk about things without me acting psycho, except these last few weeks of my pregnancy, I have been a horrid bitch to just about everyone, even random strangers.

Quoting My Widdle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" It's good that you don't do either anymore, ... [snip!] ... psycho, except these last few weeks of my pregnancy, I have been a horrid bitch to just about everyone, even random strangers."

Talking it out will train your brain to process your feelings differently.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Talking it out will train your brain to process your feelings differently. "</blockquote>




Ill have to keep that in mind

Quoting My Widdle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Talking it out will train your brain to process your feelings differently. "</blockquote> Ill have to keep that in mind"

Hang in there pumpkin. You're in the process of growing up. I see 8963847568374 girls on here who have no idea wtf that is.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Hang in there pumpkin. You're in the process of growing up. I see 8963847568374 girls on here who have no idea wtf that is. "</blockquote>




Yeah, I agree and ill admit that it's been pretty hard for me to figure it all out. But I'm getting there.

<blockquote><b>Quoting My Widdle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Hang in there pumpkin. You're in the process ... [snip!] ... Yeah, I agree and ill admit that it's been pretty hard for me to figure it all out. But I'm getting there."</blockquote>




It's hard for everyone. But you're making a legit effort so good for you.

I tried talking to him about it for the last hour. But apparently looking at other women is just something to do. And then I brought about how me trying to pleasure myself doesn't work for me, and how I've tried since he won't have sex with me and all kinds of other things, and he got mad, he told me that the whole fat thing that I am not fat that I am pregnant. And then he sat and sat pregnancy smurfs with your sex life, and then it made me tear up and he tried to claim I am hearing stuff. But I know he said it because then he said after that how yeah it does because maybe it's that you are afraid of getting the girl pregnant and other smurf. Apparently this pregnancy freaks him out, and that he'll never have unprotected sex with me again. He got mad when I told him that was what was making me tear up is that he basically just said because I am pregnant it's messing with ever wanting to have sex with me, and other smurf like that. This just pissed me off and now I am crying because what he said hurt me :'(. I don't understand I used to take care of his needs all the time, and now he won't he ever have sex with and yes it is important to me to have sex every once in while especially when I am feeling like a fat ass cow. He doesn't get it. Would it be wrong if I just completely stopped cooking for him or washing his clothes or doing things like that for him to show him that those are his needs? I mean I just want to stop taking care of him and doing things for him. He hasn't even worked in 2 weeks so I know that is not why he doesn't want to. I mean I know he's not afraid of hurting the baby he already knows it won't hurt him, and we had sex just fine up until a few weeks ago. I swear he's losing interest or at least that is what my heart tells me :'(. I am seriously tired of feeling this way. So would it be wrong if I just stopped doing those things? Like not tell him that is why, but just when he says what are you cooking, I just say I am not in the mood, or when he said where are my clean clothes? I am not in the mood, or when he wants a popsicle, I am not in the mood? At the beginning of my pregnancy he said to me if you won't have sex with me I will find someone who will. It was because I NEVER felt ok enough, but I still would have sex with him maybe not everyday but he would beg and I'd cave because I knew what it was like to be horny and not able to have sex. So every few days I would say okay or what not. Now he won't even for me. I HATE being pregnant and I will be SO happy when I get to my due date. I hate this right now. I told him joking so can I use the same thing you said of going out and finding someone who would have sex with me? And he said go for it, he didn't even care, and I told him he was going to turn me into a lesbian just joking and he said oh good maybe you can bring your g/f and we can all have fun. Like wtf apparently I am just the turn off not other women. I am hurt so bad right now. I know it's probably just my hormones but it smurfing sucks! I hate it right now I just wish that things were different. I don't even want him to sleep with me no more because I am just over trying to beg him. I am not going to kiss him anymore either or try not to. I am so just aggravated and hurt  

Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:" I tried talking to him about it for the last hour. But apparently looking at other women is just something ... [snip!] ... I am just over trying to beg him. I am not going to kiss him anymore either or try not to. I am so just aggravated and hurt  "

Okay that was hard to understand, lol. But yea, pregnancy does mess w/ your sex life. We haven't had sex in over a month now, not that I give a smurf lmao. But my partner doesn't say things to put me down, I think that's what the main issue is here. Sex will fluctuate from time to time, but hinting that the other person is fat/ugly because of things they can't control, like stretch marks, is just petty.

& no I don't think it's wrong of you to stop doing that stuff. Why can't he wash his own clothes if he's not even working? I get doing stuff for the other person if they are working all day but if he's sitting around on his ass? & aren't you working? So he should really be doing this stuff for you.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" Okay that was hard to understand, lol. But yea, pregnancy does mess w/ your sex life. We haven't had ... [snip!] ... all day but if he's sitting around on his ass? & aren't you working? So he should really be doing this stuff for you."

I just re read what I wrote, and I realize it was hard to read lol, I wrote it when I was crying so that's probably why. But I just go to school full time or well not really but 2 classes but I still have to focus and make sure I get my work done. I mean I guess if he was still working I would better understand doing things for him right now, but since he stopped he's so damn needy for everything but sex. He tells me I am not fat that he doesn't mean to make me feel that way. He never thinks before he talks or anything so that might be part of it to. I mean if we had sex maybe like once a week at least right now I would be ok, but not hardly at all is just hard on me. My sex drive shot WAY up after my first trimester was over, and then it went even more once I got to my 3rd trimester which I thought would have went down instead of up lol. I used to be fine w/out it in the beginning and then it got to the point of ok if I don't have it, I guess it's fine but I still would rather have it then not, which was the second trimester, and now the 3rd it's like no I want it and it's not fine it is an issue for me. My sister and her BD's relationship fell apart to on her end partly because he never wanted to have sex anymore after she was pregnant, and then also because they did fight. It scares me I don't want it to be like that for me. And the fact he said no more unprotected sex, uhhhh I don't like condoms because A.I'm allergic to the latex or well it irritates, and it DOESNOT feel the same. I plan to go on bc but it's freaking ugghhhhhhh. I am irritated as hell with all this right now. But I agree and I will tell him I am just not in the mood. I can make me pizza and corn dogs and quick stuff instead of meals. And when we go back to his moms and he mentions how I haven't cooked, I will tell her he hasn't had sex with me and hasn't taken care of my only need right now so why take care of his when he has 2 hands and can make it himself? He told me to that I have my hands, and that its sad that I can't please myself. It's not sad it's just that my body doesn't like my hands lol, it wants the real thing. GRRRRRR thanks for listening by the way. I am still apparently venting lol. I will just stop or tell him nope sorry I am not in the mood.

i had a diseased gallbladder and an infant to take care of so the past year we havent had the most sex. he doesnt make fun of me for it and i dont gaf that he watches porn. i know he would rather have sex with me but sometimes when the baby stays up all night it doesnt happen lol. i dont care if he looks at other women hell i do too sometimes lol. its not healthy the way he is treating you

Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:" I just re read what I wrote, and I realize it was hard to read lol, I wrote it when I was crying so that's ... [snip!] ... for listening by the way. I am still apparently venting lol. I will just stop or tell him nope sorry I am not in the mood."

I really don't feel like it is always the woman's joke to cook... maybe that's just me, idk. My man cooks way more than I do   & I know how you feel, I was super horny w/ my first lol. So I know it can be really frustrating. I know pressuring a guy to have sex really isn't the best way to do it but if you've already tried to sit down & talk to him nicely about it, he should really try & meet you halfway... I don't think sex once a wk or so is really asking for that much...

& if you take your BC when you're not pregnant, then how is it 'unprotected' sex lol? Is he really going to refuse to do it unless he wears a condom...?