re: Discovering gender

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" First off, it's penis and vagina. Also, ... [snip!] ... it different things" so I let him pick a word I don't know many parents who'd let their son paint their toes pink. Do you?"

Absolutely I do!

My cousin insisted on painting his fingers and toes every week. He'd wear dresses, high heels, called himself Tracy for a while....25 years later, he is one of the most stereotypically masculine Naval Officers you'd ever meet (or so says his wife and 5 children).

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" First off, it's penis and vagina. Also, painting his toe nails isn't going to emasculate him in anyway.....so, why won't you paint them?"

If she doesn't want her son wearing pink nail polish, that's her decision and for whatever reason she wants. I'm not going to paint my sons nails pink when he's 2, just like I wouldn't burr my daughters hair off when she's 2.

Also...If her son calls it a "weewee" why would she say penis? Most 2 year olds don't know what penises are and I wouldn't expect a 2 year old to use the anatomically correct word. There's nothing wrong with him saying "weewee." My nephew is 5 and still calls it a weiner.

OP,

I'd let him discover on his own. If he asks questions, answer them. But he seems to be getting the jist of it on his own.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" First off, it's penis and vagina. Also, ... [snip!] ... it different things" so I let him pick a word I don't know many parents who'd let their son paint their toes pink. Do you?"</blockquote>




Um, I would.

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" First off, it's penis and vagina. Also, ... [snip!] ... it different things" so I let him pick a word I don't know many parents who'd let their son paint their toes pink. Do you?"

I do - it's a color, there is only gender attached to it because we, as adults, say there is and he likes nail polish because he is 3 and thinks putting color on your body is cool.....I fail to see why this is an issue?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" First off, it's penis and vagina. Also, ... [snip!] ... it different things" so I let him pick a word I don't know many parents who'd let their son paint their toes pink. Do you?"</blockquote>




I see what you mean about calling his parts whatever. It is his he can call it what he wants. However all the parents I know would have just painted his toes. Heck my brother ran around in a tutu and claimed his favorite color was pink until he was 3. He's as straight and manly as can be now. It's not going to turn him gay or make him a girl. It's toe nails. They are in shoes most of the time anyway. Pink is just a color. He should be able to like it if he wants. You don't really need to enforce gender stereotypes ever but especially not with children this young.

Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:" I would never paint my son's nails. It's feminine and I wouldn't encourage it. So OP I understand why ... [snip!] ... wants something doesn't mean you have to give it to them. I wouldn't allow my daughter to behave in masculine ways either. "

So, you are teaching her what exactly?

What are "masculine ways"?

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" First off, it's penis and vagina. Also, ... [snip!] ... it different things" so I let him pick a word I don't know many parents who'd let their son paint their toes pink. Do you?"

I pain my son's toe nails whenever I'm painting mine. I don't wear pink polish, though so "pink polish" is a moot point here. But if I were painting mine pink and he wanted them painted pink I'd do it.

My son regularly dresses up as a princess and tells me he's pretty and loves butterfly wings. He and his sister dress up and play tea party. I saw a quote the other day that rings so true "We raise our daughters more like sons but we hesitate to raise our sons more like daughters". I try to keep gender stereotyping out of our home as much as possible, William can wear butterfly wings, and Maggie can play with cars. Because in the end it develops them both as people. I wouldn't tell my daughter that she can't be an engineer because it's a boy's job... why would I tell my son that he can't be a princess because it's a girl's job?

Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:" I would never paint my son's nails. It's feminine and I wouldn't encourage it. So OP I understand why ... [snip!] ... wants something doesn't mean you have to give it to them. I wouldn't allow my daughter to behave in masculine ways either. "

That is some smurfed up smurf.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Why don't boys do that?"</blockquote>




Little boys paint their nails pink? Or any color?

Why do parents dress their baby boy in boy clothes, and put girls in dresses? Why do girls get dolls before they are old enough to ask for what they want, and boys get trucks? The whole being born the wrong gender thing is extremely rare, I don't have to be careful just in case. If a kid is really in the wrong body, it's gonna be that way no matter what, I shouldn't have to be careful and let him choose, he has a penis and from what I know and 99.9% chance is he's a boy, mentally and physically. If a kid has no major signs if gender confusion, why wouldn't you just gently teach them the natural role they were born into? I don't want to send the wrong message and potentially cause him to question what he wouldn't otherwise question. Gender roles are subtly "taught" in ev-er-y-thing. And I think our country is blurring the line and getting too far away from the difference of man and woman. We're turning into a single blurred gender with no boundaries. Despite popular culture, my kids will be raised in their birth gender. I was a Tom boy. No big deal. But pink nails on a boy? It's not necessary.

lol I let my almost two year old paint his nails and wear makeup. he sees his sister's putting their sparkles on, he wants to too. I don't see an issue. he can't catch da geys

<blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:</b>" I pain my son's toe nails whenever I'm painting mine. I don't wear pink polish, though so "pink polish" ... [snip!] ... can't be an engineer because it's a boy's job... why would I tell my son that he can't be a princess because it's a girl's job?"</blockquote>




I wish more parents saw the beauty in raising children like this!

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" If she doesn't want her son wearing pink nail polish, that's her decision and for whatever reason she ... [snip!] ... OP, I'd let him discover on his own. If he asks questions, answer them. But he seems to be getting the jist of it on his own."

this... my oldest is 8 and just now calling it his penis instead of his "privates" or his "peepee" or his "bad spot"... my 3 year old currently calls hers her "bobo".. she came up with it and is comfortable with it. i am not gonna change that now. especially since the youngest we even discussed such things in school was when I was in the 5th grade.

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" If she doesn't want her son wearing pink nail polish, that's her decision and for whatever reason she ... [snip!] ... OP, I'd let him discover on his own. If he asks questions, answer them. But he seems to be getting the jist of it on his own."

i like this..because all the women barking about it probably wouldn't shave their daughter's heads or give them a mohawk if they wanted to be like daddy. If she doesnt want her son to have pink nails, so be it.

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Why don't boys do that?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... my kids will be raised in their birth gender. I was a Tom boy. No big deal. But pink nails on a boy? It's not necessary."

So, it's okay for girls to have some "masculine" attributes, but it isn't okay for boys to have some "feminine" attributes?

Are you going to call him a pussy or tell him to "man up" when he shows emotion, too?

Quoting October2011:" i like this..because all the women barking about it probably wouldn't shave their daughter's heads or ... [snip!] ... heads or give them a mohawk if they wanted to be like daddy. If she doesnt want her son to have pink nails, so be it."

I love the fact that some are attacking this woman's ways of parenting......simply because it's not the same as theirs.