SO's dad has a history of drug abuse. About 3 years ago he relapsed on percocet and was mandated through work to attend a treatment program or be fired, and his job only gives that chance once, then you're fired.

So, today his dad was acting weird. As a recovering addict myself, I am pretty good at noticing if someone is using or not. He was talking some weird smurf all morning and acting odd, just dipping out and the way he was talking, just seemed "off."

SO's mom is on percocet for her fibromyalgia - but where SO and his dad work drugs are available whenever you want, as well as the fact SO's dad ran a halfway house and knows plenty of addicts.

I'm at a weird point of whether I should mention this so SO or not. We live with his parents, and me and SO are both recovering addicts with over 2 years of sobriety. The only reason I thought I should say something is because I would be uncomfortable living in a home where someone is using, as well as my son being around that.

I'm not sure if it's my place or not to say anything or if I should just keep my mouth shut and see if anything unravels out of this. I'm not no much accusing him, but I'm not blind when it comes to this - I just have a weird hunch.. I don't want to be fooled and him just have a weird day, or be right and it come out in the future when money is gone.

what would you do?

Not sure what to do here.

SO's mom is a huge perc head... So is his BIL and I told all of them if they don't drop that smurf then Ryleigh won't be around them....... ever. His mom's slowing weaning off apparently, but I don't believe it. She is so dependent on them it's almost sickening. I know how it is but at almost 50 years old you'd think you know that medication like that is killing you more than it's helping you. I'd bring it up...... for sure.

I'm a recovering addict. I had my SIL living with me, supposedly sober, last year. I had a feeling she was using and didn't acknowledge it and it only got worse. I would say something. If not, your sobriety, SO's sobriety and your sons safety could be at risk. It's a smurffy situation and feel free to pm me sometime if you want to talk!

Quoting shelbylynn [30 WEEKS!]:" SO's mom is a huge perc head... So is his BIL and I told all of them if they don't drop that smurf then ... [snip!] ... old you'd think you know that medication like that is killing you more than it's helping you. I'd bring it up...... for sure. "

I did say to SO that his dad was acting weird, but thats all. I didn't mention the dipping of how he was just "off" today. I'm debating to just stay out of it and if I'm right and he is using - moving out and not allowing him to see LO.

Quoting Cheeks mom:" I'm a recovering addict. I had my SIL living with me, supposedly sober, last year. I had a feeling she ... [snip!] ... sobriety and your sons safety could be at risk. It's a smurffy situation and feel free to pm me sometime if you want to talk!"

thanks girl, I think I may keep my eye on him the next few days because I know it is a touchy subject in this house. I would NOT jeopardize my sobriety and my son's safety if I'm right about this.

Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:" I did say to SO that his dad was acting weird, but thats all. I didn't mention the dipping of how he ... [snip!] ... "off" today. I'm debating to just stay out of it and if I'm right and he is using - moving out and not allowing him to see LO. "

Would it cause a fight between you two if you did mention to your SO that he seems off? Or would he be able to bring it up to his dad and maybe get an honest answer? (Which is obviously rare in these cases but it's worth a try).

Quoting shelbylynn [30 WEEKS!]:" Would it cause a fight between you two if you did mention to your SO that he seems off? Or would he ... [snip!] ... able to bring it up to his dad and maybe get an honest answer? (Which is obviously rare in these cases but it's worth a try)."

I'm scared it might start a fight, life I said - it's a touchy subject here since his dad has done it before. my MIL moved to kansas to help her mother for a year, and that whole year (when I was first dating SO), his dad was dating a 20 something year old, and using percs together. It was so weird and to this day we've never, ever talked about it. I lost a lot of respect for FIL when I found out he was still married to SO's mom and was cheating.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" thanks girl, I think I may keep my eye on him the next few days because I know it is a touchy subject in this house. I would NOT jeopardize my sobriety and my son's safety if I'm right about this. "</blockquote>




Good luck! I do know how you feel, SO's dad is an addict, too, and can't get any significant clean time. And like I said I lived with SIL Last year, and had to deal with her lying and manipulating and general just being a bitch.. But I didn't want to say anything and cause drama. It sucks.

Quoting Cheeks mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" thanks girl, I think I may keep ... [snip!] ... with her lying and manipulating and general just being a bitch.. But I didn't want to say anything and cause drama. It sucks."

it's such a smurffy situation. I hope I'm wrong and it was just weird coincidence. If I notice it one more time I will say something, but I think I'm better off keeping my mouth shut so I don't hurt anyone's feelings (if I am wrong.)

I think you should talk to your SO. Don't accuse anyone of anything. Just say he was acting off and maybe mention you have a hunch. Maybe he had something going on that your SO knows about. Maybe he relapsed.

Whatever you decide to do, keep a close eye on your stuff and everyone until it gets figured out. Good luck!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" it's such a smurffy situation. I hope I'm wrong and it was just weird coincidence. If I notice it one ... [snip!] ... time I will say something, but I think I'm better off keeping my mouth shut so I don't hurt anyone's feelings (if I am wrong.) "</blockquote>

I just noticed you live in Philly, too!

It'll be a touchy topic, but it would be a good idea to get the family together to talk about it. Best to do it now before it gets out of control you know? Easier to fix a slip up early on then try to start all over again

Quoting Cheeks mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" it's such a smurffy situation. I ... [snip!] ... my mouth shut so I don't hurt anyone's feelings (if I am wrong.) "</blockquote> I just noticed you live in Philly, too!"

yes! I'm in the northeast! I didn't even notice you live in Philly as well!   how about that flash snowstorm that lasted a half hour? lol such a tease.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cheeks mom:</b>" I'm a recovering addict. I had my SIL living with me, supposedly sober, last year. I had a feeling she ... [snip!] ... sobriety and your sons safety could be at risk. It's a smurffy situation and feel free to pm me sometime if you want to talk!"</blockquote>




Yes to all of this and ditto on being a recovering addict as well...

ladies I'm worried if I do open my mouth, it'll go the wrong way. Think it would be wise to just keep a close eye on him the next few days? If he is as bad as any other addict I know, a slip isn't just one time and that's it. Especially if you're using in front of your family thinking we won't notice, it'll become more apparent you're using as the days go on. He's not a very approachable person (FIL) and I know if we tired to talk to him he'd deny everything.

think its more wise to just wait it out and see if it happens again? I see him everyday all the time since our schedule is similar.