Honestly, I think its none of ur buisiness,

If ur in fear of what may happen living with someone who *may* or *may not* be using, u should have ur own place,

Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" Honestly, I think its none of ur buisiness, If ur in fear of what may happen living with someone who *may* or *may not* be using, u should have ur own place,"

there are so many opinions to this story of mine I just don't know what to do. You're the first person to say I shouldn't say anything.

The reason we don't have our own place is because LO was an unplanned blessing and me and SO are over our heads in debt with hospital bills that we literally cannot afford to move out. He dad has been "sober" for going on 3 years now, and until this day I had absolutely no reason to wonder if he is or not.

Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:" ladies I'm worried if I do open my mouth, it'll go the wrong way. Think it would be wise to just keep ... [snip!] ... its more wise to just wait it out and see if it happens again? I see him everyday all the time since our schedule is similar. "

I think that's a good plan if you feel that would be best.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" yes! I'm in the northeast! I didn't even notice you live in Philly as well!   how about that flash snowstorm that lasted a half hour? lol such a tease. "</blockquote>


I'm in the northeast too! I looked out the window and was like "OMG it's snowing!" And then like a half hour later looked again and there was like an inch on the ground... And now it's all gone, lol

Quoting Cheeks mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" yes! I'm in the northeast! I didn't ... [snip!] ... snowing!" And then like a half hour later looked again and there was like an inch on the ground... And now it's all gone, lol"

I was really hoping it would be enough to cancel classes, I go to Holy Family and I'm just not in the mood for a full day of class tomorrow. I'm over the cold!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" I was really hoping it would be enough to cancel classes, I go to Holy Family and I'm just not in the mood for a full day of class tomorrow. I'm over the cold! "</blockquote>




I'm ready for it to be spring, this has been the lamest snowless winter ever. Except for the snow on Christmas Eve!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" there are so many opinions to this story of mine I just don't know what to do. You're the first person ... [snip!] ... He dad has been "sober" for going on 3 years now, and until this day I had absolutely no reason to wonder if he is or not. "</blockquote>




I've been in his shoes... Im an adult, so is he, it's his choice to be soberor not, at 1 time I had over 4 years of sobriety, used maybe 1-2 weeks, and decided to quit again... I didn't hurt anyone, or put anyone in danger, nobody has a right to question me in my own home, if he was living in ur house, of course say something... but To come out and say hes using because 1 day he was a lil off could blow up in ur face, either hes not using and will be offended and hurt, or he is using and become defensive feel ganged up on...
if u need to live in his house, id be careful to not ruin these relationships,

Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" there are so many opinions to this ... [snip!] ... using and become defensive feel ganged up on... if u need to live in his house, id be careful to not ruin these relationships,"

thats exactly why I came here to ask for advice, I know it's none of my business but we were asked to live in this house so they can help me watch the baby while I'm at school. I didn't accuse him, I'm just saying he was acting weird, that's why I didn't know if I should mention it to SO or not.

I think if he asks for us to live under his roof, which includes my son and his safety.....he partially makes it my business because if he were using (hypothetically speaking) he is putting everyone in the house in danger.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" thats exactly why I came here to ask for advice, I know it's none of my business but we were asked to ... [snip!] ... makes it my business because if he were using (hypothetically speaking) he is putting everyone in the house in danger. "</blockquote>




But ur still living in *his* house... I've asked my share of fam and friends to stay with me if I knew they needed it...
I've had people stay with me, and use my meds that were perscribed for me...
But as adults u made the choice to live with someone who could always relapse... and that's their problem... if that's not something u want to have around and feel ur in danger I will say again, I think u should move...
U said ur an addict also, people are addicts forever... the diference is sobriety, u living in his house with ur kid isn't a reason someone should have to stay clean, its completely on the individual themselves...

Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" thats exactly why I came here to ... [snip!] ... in his house with ur kid isn't a reason someone should have to stay clean, its completely on the individual themselves..."

very true, I totally understand your point. but it should also be addressed if it ever came out that it happened. the only reason i think it's important for us to know if he did (again, hypothetically speaking) is that so we can move out and set rules about how and when he sees our son. He often spends alone time with my kid, so if I have a hunch he's using, I'm going to keep an eye on him so my kid is safe with him, in that aspect, it is my business to keep my son safe.

I don't think i could step aside and just let him be an adult and make the mistake if my son is involved.

this is all going a little out of context, but kwim? part of isn't any of my business because this is his house, and he is an adult, but if it involves him being alone with my kid and a possible relapse or being high around my child? then I would get involved and make it my business.

I am keeping my mouth shut unless I see it again. lol I wouldn't say anything to him personally unless I was 100% sure, thats why I was just going to mention it to SO, so he can keep an eye on him too just to be sure. I ended up not doing that, and just letting it go (for now.)