Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" thats exactly why I came here to ... [snip!] ... in his house with ur kid isn't a reason someone should have to stay clean, its completely on the individual themselves..."
very true, I totally understand your point. but it should also be addressed if it ever came out that it happened. the only reason i think it's important for us to know if he did (again, hypothetically speaking) is that so we can move out and set rules about how and when he sees our son. He often spends alone time with my kid, so if I have a hunch he's using, I'm going to keep an eye on him so my kid is safe with him, in that aspect, it is my business to keep my son safe.
I don't think i could step aside and just let him be an adult and make the mistake if my son is involved.
this is all going a little out of context, but kwim? part of isn't any of my business because this is his house, and he is an adult, but if it involves him being alone with my kid and a possible relapse or being high around my child? then I would get involved and make it my business.
I am keeping my mouth shut unless I see it again. lol I wouldn't say anything to him personally unless I was 100% sure, thats why I was just going to mention it to SO, so he can keep an eye on him too just to be sure. I ended up not doing that, and just letting it go (for now.)